What if you found out that you are the 3rd party?

I would make that digenerate, narcisstic moron know that if he ever came anywhere near me again i would turn him into a woman ;). If someone is going is to be that dishonest with me and lead me on, then it would crystal clear to me I was just his "Bootie call". He can use all the excuses in the book, but it would never wash. If he did this to me, he would know what for! Are you in this situation friend?

Heart boken... that is the definitely things that will happen... but so far lucky me cause i have a very loving and faithful special girlfriend...

I haven't been in this situation. The only thing I will say is that I don't think people who are willing to cheat change. If a man is willing to cheat on his wife, is that the kind of man you want to be with?

I'd end it. I mean obviously he is a liar and a cheat. I would not want to be with someone that would do that to me. Even if he left his wife to be with me it would be only a matter of time before he is cheating with someone else if it isn't happening already. Trust is very important in a relationship and with a cheater there is no trust to be had.

Oh wow, this is a total biggie when it comes to deception...I have had my shares of this kind of problems and honestly this is not an easy situation to be in. I almost took my life because of that very bad experience in my life but in the years that passed me by I managed to pull myself off. In my opinion, if you still want to have a more promising life...try your very best to walk away from this person. If you spend more time with him...trust will always be an issue and besides legal matters is at hand because he is married. This is very risky and you might end up hurting yourself more. Given that virginity is lost...your most precious possesion...try to move on and pick up the pieces again and start anew. A person who would deceive you and lead you isn't worth your time and tears and effort for that matter. Gather yourself up....walk away chin up...get involved in something that would boost your confidence...hang out with people and friends who truly understand you...people that would never leave you no matter what. At this down moments you need someone who would never leave you and will always show their concern to you...you are at your most vulnerable moment. BE strong and pray hard that you may surpass such problem. I will pray for you my friend....happy mylotting.

I understand that it's a hard decision cause you might love that guy. But when you think about it what prevents him from doing the same to you? And don't you just sink down to his level if you let him do this behind someone's back? After experiencing being cheated on myself I would never trust someone that does this. If he's unhappy in the marrige he should do something about it, not put it off and act like nothing. If your unhappy end it dont go out of your way to keep it open and go be with someone else behind their back.

Hiii... This is the most terrible situation for any man/woman. I have been through it and it took a long time for me to recover. One girl used me simply for her desires, fun etc and then one day she introduced me to her boyfriend, with whom she got married after one month. I am not a nervous creature, but I had lost my virginity to this girl and I had tender feelings of love for her & after that terrible day nothing could help me smile or feel better. I took to drinking for a long time (almost 2 years), lost my job and became a wasted guy... Recently, with the help of some genuine friends I have recovered from that disease- oh yes, love for her in my heart had been a terrible disease! Now, I have got a job. I am in love with the best woman that I could find and very soon we plan to marry... My advice to all those who are facing this kind of trouble is: Give up! Oh no, don't give up on yourself... no no... Your life is too precious and you've to preserve it. Learn from the past mistakes and avoid them in future... Don't trust people too easily, and don't be too cautious.. There are cheaters and I wonder, why wouldn't God punish them? My ex girl had almost ruined my life. And I am gonna teach her a lesson, very soon... I wouldn't say that everyone should think about revenge. I want revenge, because I can't forget what she has done to me. And yet, I pray to the Almighty to make me forget that there ever was any such girl in my life. I wish I will be able to forget her... I can't and I will not forgive her!

I have not been in that situation, though I have thought about that, and what would I do if I was in the kind of situation. I don't know what really would I do, cause sometimes, even your beliefs you would doubt, specially when you feel that you love someone so much, and you cannot live without them. Of course I know that's really stupid thinking, but, I think that would really what I would feel if I was in that kind of situation.

i guess thats w very difficult decision to make specially if you already love the person so much and almost build your future with. but then i must of course know the real score between him nd her wife, maybe they're not in good terms. so if i found out that they are not in good terms then next move is to find out whats the reason, like if his a womanizer or irresponsible. but if they just not in good terms only because they already lost love to each other then i will talk to him. i will tell him to separate his wife first and his already clear then thats the only time we can continue with our relationship. but of course we can still call and see each other though theres already a limit to that unless his totally free.

That will be very veryyy painful to be cheated by someone we love. If i were her, I don't know what i would do. it would be just like a nitemare. But if so, i have to forget him n move on someone better. It's easy to say but soooo difficult to do. coz sometimes love might drive us so crazy.

It surely hurts to be cheated but ending your life will never solve the problem. Move on to a new life and find someone better than him.

End it. Done with it. It means he played with me because he didn't respect me as a woman because he got what he wanted from me. Its not love that he felt for me maybe its just lust. I will never ever be a 3rd party. I came from a broken family and hurts to know that your dad cheated on your mom. So I won't want to do this to other woman. I don't ever want to hurt another woman just because I'm loving her husband. Its selfishness and morally degrading for me. And as a Christian I don't think I can look into God's face and tell him that I just loved him so I kept him for myself though he has obligation on other.. I don't think it will also bring good karma in life since you did something bad for others...

I think this is a very hard one. I think that the same guy would do that to you to. He had done that to his wife when he used to love her, so much for the girl who has been used. If that girl continues that relationship she'll ruin a home and the future of the child in that marriage(if they have any). This is so sad because I know some girls who are going through this and it's really hard to let go of someone that you got used to loving and the one you thought could be your guy forever. I don't really know what to do if I'm in this situation.

I've never ben in this situation simply because I would not let myself. How could you ever be in love with someone who has broken your trust and your heart, and I would never indulge in the idea of ending my own life over a dishonest, lying cheater.