what i should say him?

Saudi Arabia
March 2, 2010 9:24am CST
hi friends . it is really a big prablem to me now!ten days ago my close friend's dad suddenly pass away .it is too sudenly!!really sudenly !!!i was heard that news didn't believed my ears.i one time with him talk on the phone but i didn't fount to my words !!!he is very sadness now and he will two days later come back from home . and i don't know what i should say to him to release his anguish...i think may you help me to find mose mays give him comfort???....
4 responses
eM
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
you don't have to say anything. just be with your friend and listen to whatever things that will come out from his mouth. i think it's not proper that you'll give him advices because he might take it negatively.
BlueAngelRS
@BlueAngelRS (2899)
• Canada
5 Mar 10
You are so right eLsMarie that is a great way to handle or be there for a friend...
eM
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
Thank you BlueAngelRS... I think I made a good job of advising you... LOL... Just always be calm whenever you're with her. Keep her away from those bad stuffs...
eM
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
I'm sorry... That should be him instead of her.
wonderfull1300
@wonderfull1300 (15)
• United States
13 Sep 12
my daughter just passed away April 2012- its VERY fresh it HURTS real bad- for me the best thing is when people dont say anything other than letting me know they are avail to listen to me if I want. Hugs for your friend are nice- Even if you let them know that you dont have any words but to let them know that if they need you to just be with them in the same room, they dont have to talk, you dont have to talk but it lets them know you are there for them hope this helps right now I am finding that people who I thought were close are nowhere to be found and that hurts the most!!
BlueAngelRS
@BlueAngelRS (2899)
• Canada
5 Mar 10
It's like others have said sometimes just being there for your friend with kindness and care is all your friend needs is to know that you are there for him....Just remember even with deaths there are greiving processes so if your friend gets angry or says something to you it's not you it's apart of his process goodluck my friend.
pulangpluma
@pulangpluma (334)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
If you are lost for words then its Ok as long as you are there with your friend. Ask him how you could help, or what he needs. Let your friend say what is in his mind, let him cry.