I don't love him the way he loved me :(

Philippines
March 3, 2010 8:24am CST
He loved me for years already. He gave everything I wanted. He showed me his world and shared it to me. But still, I don't love him the way he loved me. I never asked but he still send me gifts and surprises. I never asked him to stay all night long but he insist to protect me. But why I can't give my love to him? Maybe, I'm not over my cheater ex boyfriend. Maybe, I traumatized with too much betrayal and broken trust. Or maybe I never like him or he never met my standards. He knew it that I don't love him much but he still insist it. I want to be free from this unhealthy relationships But I'm afraid He will freaked out and lose his mind. He really LOVE me...
5 responses
@itwirl (44)
• Singapore
3 Mar 10
If he loves you, he has to accept your decision about you NOT loving him the same way he does towards you. If he freaked out than there's nothing you can do since you want to be free from him. Why would you be concern whether he freaks out or not? What he's been doing is taking a risk that you will accept his love OR he might get hurt. He has to deal that himself or with others. Since he has tried so many ways but you still have no feelings towards him at all.. You need to be FIRM with him. You've already made yourself clear and he's the one who should move on. Maybe tell him you will ignore him if he continue this way, don't accept any gifts and tell him you don't need any protection, don't be to dependant on him. If you wish to talk to him, tell him you will approach him. Somehow it has to come to an end until you or him got to know someone else.
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• Philippines
3 Mar 10
Definitely right. It sounds that I cared for him that I won't let him hurt. I care but I don't love him as much as he loves me. I think I better come up to a firm decision soon.
@ivelinr (104)
• Bulgaria
4 Mar 10
He made one of the biggest mistakes the men could do in their relationships with women. He shouldn't give you everything. If he make a step back, may be you will change your mind, if it's not too late already. Good luck :)
• Philippines
4 Mar 10
there is no problem with that if he knows that you don't love him as much as he loved you. it will be unfair for him if you will give him false hopes and be turned down at the end. i think it will be just right for you to let him know about what you really feel towards him, the pain will be doubled if he will know the truth when he already expects a deeper relationship with you. things sometimes, no matter how painful should be said earlier to save the person from deeper trouble.
@rachel999 (210)
• India
3 Mar 10
Hi, It is your life so it is surely your call, to leave him or be with him, I would suggest talk to him very clearly regarding this issue, do not break up, just say you need more time to think, if he really loves you, he will surely understand you and accept you the way you are, don't hurry up with the break up issue, take a break for a few days and see how is life without him being around. Take Care & God Bless
• India
4 Mar 10
dont wory abt any thing.....jst go n get him....true love comes only a single time in whole lyf.......he really loves u ....n as all fingures of an hand r not same in same wasy all man r not same.......