Do you know your neighbors?
By Chrissy
@Java09 (3075)
United States
March 3, 2010 8:36am CST
Where I live the neighbors aren't too friendly.they seem to want to keep to themselves.I think they should at least say "Hi" or something,there's nothing wrong with a hello.I don't know any of my neighbors here.I think it's nice to be friendly at least.Just because someone says "Hello" don't mean they're nosey.Do you know your neighbors?
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
3 Mar 10
Yes, that is true of what you are saying here. I don't really know my neighbors personally. They never talk to me. Our old neighbors did nothing but complain and they used to come knocking on my door about the noise below them or the leak that they were experiencing on their ceiling. Our new two set of neighbors just moved in last week. So, I have not got a chance to see them up front. I saw people moving in but I don't know whom is who. I did speak to my neighbor that lives in front of me about 2 weeks ago. We met as I was coming from down the stairs. She was on her way back up to her apartment. And three weeks ago, I spoke to one of her daughters that was coming down the stairs. I have not spoken to them since then. I am usually in my apartment and they may be gone or just at home. I don't bother with anyone. But, I will speak if need be just to be friendly. I agree with you, it is nice to say hi sometimes even if you choose to just stay to yourself where you live at. I said hi to my neighbor and I have not been up in her face like that. I plan to just stay to myself and never to bother anyone. I have had many people that would speak to me and then the next thing you know they want to be all up in my personal business. I guess that is why people just try to keep their distance away from their neighbors. They just don't know what to really say to them. Or what to expect. And some people are just plain old mean. The don't like being around others. It can be different reasons of why neighbors choose to never talk or speak to one another. At least I can say that my reason makes perfect sense.
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@pandaeyes (2065)
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3 Mar 10
My son is in a tenement block its his second year living there and he has only just met his next door neighbour because they needed to contact us about the roof needing mending.
He knows his downstairs neighbour because we spoke to him when we were moving my sons belongings for him.
Where I used to live 30 years ago was also an apartment block.
We had rows of 6 flats in opposite rows of 3 and we knew all the other 5 neighbours and many of the other 24 residents in the other rows because their children were at school with us.
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@pandaeyes (2065)
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3 Mar 10
We know quite a lot of our neighbours.
I know both immediate neighbours and their children and their grandchildren. The grandchildren of one neighbour are almost the age of my own children and used to come in the house and play. Our cat was one of their kittens.
The other side grandchildren often visited their grandma and we would say hi if we saw them.
There are also 2 more houses on our left with friendly people and 3 more on our right.
Then there is a rather grumpy man and a nice lady in a house in front of us(we live in a spoon shaped road and we are on the bowl of the spoon end). We say hello to a few people who live on the handle of the spoon and we are good friends with the family right on the end of the handle.
It helps to have lived here 20 years.
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@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
i personally dont know my neighbors as we seldom meet outside. the only person i know are the family of the owner of my apartment coz i always see them when i go out. i dont stay outside thats why i dont have a chance to see them and same as them but of course its still nice to know your neighbors in case of emergency, as somehow they might can help you also.
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@phoenix8606 (4942)
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3 Mar 10
hi! i think I have answered to a discussion that kind, but now my answer is a little bit different from the first time, because now I know the most of my neighbors and 2 months ago i didn't :) I don't know if you know it, but I a new in the neighborhood, just from several months and I am all day long in the university to study, so I have time to see my neighbors only on weekends :)
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@tyra005 (151)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
Actually not this time that I knew my neighbors because I am just new in our place and stayed here for 5 months but my family stayed here for 4 years so I think they know more the neighbors than I know them. But I am trying to be friend to them knowing how they are doing as my neighbor so I will know eventually what kind of neighbor that I have in my place.
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@ET28LV (1890)
• Latvia
3 Mar 10
Hi Java09!
I now all my neighbors, because i live in little town. There is not possible to don't now your neighbors. I have only one friendly family in my neighbors. My family and second family we are friendly. But I too have not so nice neighbors. They are not say "hello" or "hi" maybe it's to hard? Some of them are listen music very loud on evenings and sometimes in nights.
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@SunlightSwoon (1060)
• United States
3 Mar 10
My neighbors and I wave if we should pass each other, or see each other when we take out the garbage. But that's it, we really aren't friends.
Times have really changed and I don't know exactly when or why things changed so dramatically. As a child, we knew everyone in the neighborhood. Folks came out with their children in the evenings and talked while the kids played.
Really miss those times...
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@kris182_2000 (5453)
• Canada
3 Mar 10
I don't really have "neighbors". I live in an apartment behind a store, and I rarely see anyone unless they are going to their cars from the above store apartments.
I like where I live, I don't share walls with any house or other apartment, so it's pretty quiet until some idiot blasts through the laneway in his car with his stereo blasting.
I live in a minority neighborhood, but in this situation, the minority is the majority, so I have to keep to myself. It's close to gang territory, and that's another reason not to talk to people. It's just not safe.
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@Posey1234567 (203)
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4 Mar 10
I know our neighbors and there names and stuff but don't get on,we did when we were younger but then they changed and now they threaten us and stuff sadly.
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@Angelindisguise (378)
• India
3 Mar 10
Hi,
Oh!!Yes,I know my neighbors.
She is very Sweet Lady.
Yes,it is very nice to know your neighbors always.
I am lucky to have her as my neighbors.
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@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
4 Mar 10
I moved to my husband's hometown a few months ago and I dont really know the neighbors. As of now, I know that they are love music cause they always play music loudly. Its annoying actually but we dont complain to stay away from trouble. We have another neighbor next door who's already old and every time we see her, she acts things likes it was our first time to meet. I usually stay inside the house to and only goes out when I need to buy something. I dont know that neighbors and I think they are also not interested of knowing me.
@shadowkissed14 (92)
• Philippines
4 Mar 10
Yes I know most of them because we live in a compound and the neighbors are my relatives from my mother's side. I'm not the type to say hi and hello because most of the time they only notice me when they need something from me.
@phungminhthu (176)
• Singapore
4 Mar 10
well,in my hometown,it's seem like the neighbors are always has good knowlegde about people who live in near their houses!I know about my neighbors,their family members,their job...we say "hi" to each other when we meet outside our house and have some fun chats!
@str8_up_cutie83 (217)
• United States
3 Mar 10
I know all of my neighbors, they are very friendly they come and speak to my kids every morning if they see if leaving the house to go to school and work. When I was pregnant they brought me baby shower gifts.
It just so happens that my neighbor across the street is a photographer so he takes all of my families professional photos for free! :) so I love my neighbors
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
3 Mar 10
The neighbors who live closest to me are whack jobs so I do my best to avoid them. There is one that always says hello when he sees me and I hello back to him but thats about it. I'm not a very social person out here in the world.
@verabear (796)
• Philippines
4 Mar 10
I'd like to say I do, but that won't be entirely true. I live in a compound with our relatives so of course we know each other. Right next door in the next compound are relatives too so we know them, but to the other side, I don't know much. I did grow up in a close knit community though where everyone treated each other like family. That community is very nearby and my nephews and nieces still very often go there to spend their afternoons.
@airakumar (1553)
• India
4 Mar 10
Yes, I do know my neighbour. They are very nice and helpful too though I never asked for any help yet but whenever courier boy asks my address she is ready to help him which is really appreciable. I have never got a rotten neighbour whch means somebody who interferes with your enjoyment of your own home as I never allow that. In the present day fast life we are always on the move because of compulsions, Career , or Family considerations. The last thing one want to face is a troublesome irritating rotten neighbour! I am lucky that I am far away from it. Beware of it and be strict too.
@mavieserrano728 (670)
• Philippines
4 Mar 10
Yes I know the people living in the street where I live. Ever since I was a kid, the people on our street would play with me and hold my cheek saying "you're going to be a cute girl". When I was growing up, I would still see the same face and they keep on smiling at me and asking where am I studying etc and it is really hard to ignore them because I don't feel like they're strangers at all. Until the time that I was not staying with my parents anymore, whenever I visit, the same people would still greet and waive at me.
@kgirjapurkar (175)
• India
4 Mar 10
Not fully as most of them r selfish only and i dont want to keep friendship with these type of people