Why is it so hard to make new friends?

Well it seems like you shouldnt force yourself to get to know them . That's usually how it is , I dislike when people are like that..but now a days it's so hard to make friends because people are just so anti-social...Idk . You don't want to feel like the third wheel or a useless object..it's best to just not bother , it's not that serious to me..friends come & go . Last but not least, if they gossip about eachother they will gossip about you..

Hi I don't think its difficult to make new friend. U seems to be attention seeking. If u do not get the attention that u r seeking, u feel rejected and u seems to getting isolated yourself in such situation. Just mix with them, first try to know them, take interest in them, they will sure start paying attention to u later on.

I think it is always hard for a person to get to now new people when the group of people have been together for a while and they know different people to what you know aswell as when they are talking about all the times they have been somewhere or have done things it makes it soo hard to join in on a conversation.I have been in your position once before and i started going out all the time with these people aswell as inviting them to mine as that was the only way to be able to talk about things that we had all done together then rather than them chatting amongst themselves and yes i felt like a bit of an out cast.I do not feel like an outcast now.

hi Elsa, If you don't find anyone who stands by the wayside,start flirting them like men!Do not try to be intimate at the very first go.Ask them about the price of their ear-rings or necklace or fine dress or about the location of the shop.Tell them how beautiful they look in that.And wish loudly may their be another piece on earth available for you.Look for a moment when you can catch one of the member of the target group alone.Ask one of them to come with you so that you can hand over your bag to her for a visit to the washroom.Try these,I hope,things will work.

Hi Elsa, I know how you feel. I've been in many "awkward" situations wherein I'm the "new kid on the block". Everyone already knows everyone and they have formed their little group, it's hard to fit in being new. And I'm not good in my interpersonal skills coz I'm shy. My bf always encourages me to talk and socialize with his friends, but I'm always uncomfortable, and it's making him uncomfortable too. So what I did is, if I can't handle them all at once, try to befriend one of them first. It's easy that way. Once you became close to him/her, she'll be your guide to the group. Once others see that you are comfortable with at least one of them, they'll make an effort to know you. But of course you need to do your part too. Find out what are their interests, likes and find something in common with them. It's easy to join a conversation if you know and interested in the topic. Smile a lot and compliment them sincerely. I'm sure you'll have newfound friends in no time. :)

Yeah it is really hard to find true and real friends but just an ordinary friend is easy to find. It is so hard to trust someone that you really don't know and to talk with strangers is really hard because we all don't know if we could trust them in everything. But by keeping friends you will see if she or he is true to you so you will know by the right time if they are true friends.

Yah I think that maybe you just are anti social or they just arent your type of people you like to associate with. They probablly just expect you to go along with everything and pretend you know what they're talking about, but that is fake so it would suck for you, but unfortunately they dont care. I am sure they talk about you and just say that you are so shy. I think you should assert yourself and share something new with them that you like but you're gonna have to give a little to get a little. I hope it works out for you. :)

My views will b something different here. If u try to be more close to them, then they may consider it as your weakness. No need to introduce yourself too much to them who are not curious to welcome you. Rather read some good books, write some good writings, spend more time here with us and i believe u will be more comfortable. Honestly i have no friend in person with whom i do share all everything. All d best. Take care.

Personally I have always made friends really easily.

I know exactly what you mean, as it has happened to me too. Some people are too confortable with their closed circle of friends, so they prefer to make strangers to go away. Finding people who are willing to include more people into the circle is a question of luck, so if you don't feel confortable with them you can try to find friends in other places, like going to some language, dancing, etc lessons for example

I have difficulty making good friends too. If it just reagular friends, I have no problem, but for a good friend..it's kinda hard these days especially when they have their own little group...

Making a new friend is not hard but making a good friend is quite hard..because in this selfish world The % of people having good soul is negligible always think for himself rather then others...but it is not impossible to get a good heartedly friend...have a nice day...

achtually its not so hard to make new fends.........but u have to beleive the pepole with whom u r going to be a frndn,,,,,,,n also be alittle frnak....talk more know more abt him and also tell abt u.....u will found that it will not be so hard.............

Its not that hard to make new friends but some of the group are when they feel insecure about having a new person joining their stable and fun group.Some of the people in the circle would feel they will lose the power in the circle if you are the type that lead others.Ive experienced this once.From my experience it is only a matter of time before all of them will accept you to be part of the circle.My advice is try to have a special bond with one of them first but not too long then spread it evenly among others. =)

I think its hard to make friends sometimes because for me I never know what to talk about. I have had some people try to make me a part of their circle and I appreciate that (my boyfriends friends). But like at work its hard to make friends with coworkers outside of work. There are only a few I have been able to do that with.