Is there something wrong with me?
By bluehibiscus
@bluehibiscus (702)
United States
March 4, 2010 3:27pm CST
I have noticed over the years, actually since I was like 14 that I'm not really attracted to white or even black men. I seem to like Latinos, and even Asians. I just feel as if it's kind of an odd quirk, I mean i try to find ways to justify it 'It doesn't matter where I was born (Kutaisi) from 2-14 I lived in a Spanish speaking culture, my stepfather gave me his Spanish surname. But that doesn't really explain it, I have no idea and I just keep going through my head feeling bad and thinking I am so strange.
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30 responses
@EvrWonder (3571)
• Canada
5 Mar 10
Hi Blue; personally, I don't think that anything is wrong with you just because of your preference in men. I am the same. There is a particular type of guy that can make my head do a three sixty. Nationality or color has nothing to do with it.
It is personal preference. So just go with it. Find yourself a nice Latino or Asian man and be happy. Don't think yourself as strange. There is nothing strange about you!
You are a strong woman, who is smart enough to know what she wants or at least what she doesn't want! Have fun.
@tonyllenium (6252)
• Italy
4 Mar 10
emh no i think nothing should be wrong there i think it simply depends from your personal tastes and not other strange things!!So for example me too i never felt attratcted by some people coming from other races or a particular ethnic group but i think it depends from tastes not from racial or other strange things i guess!!
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@nonersays (3335)
• United States
5 Mar 10
I don't see anything wrong with that. People are attracted to certain types of people.
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@stricken43 (347)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU..!
Let's just say all of it is just part of your STANDARDS in looking for your special one..It's not your fault if you don't like the other races..
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
5 Mar 10
Hi Miss.. You really don't need to feel bad if you didn't like a few white or black men in the past. It is simply the matter of choice... I mean, if you don't like someone, then you don't like it.. That's the end! I do not think that you're biased against white/black men.. It is simply that you've not found a good guy among them... I guess, whatever relations you had in the past were either latinos or asians... And that's what has created this kind of mind set... Don't feel terrible about it... It is only about what you want! Don't worry!!!
@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
5 Apr 10
Don't see anything wrong with it or with you. We are attracted to who we are. It is different for each of us, and thank God for that or we would all be attracted to the same people. It doesn't matter who you are attracted to as long as you are true to yourself. Don't worry about it!
@Christoph56 (1504)
• Canada
6 Mar 10
I have similar directions, myself. I'm white, and I'm not a fan of white women. I've been with Black women, latina, Eastern European, Pakistani, native, and a few white women, but the white ones are really some of my least favorite of the bunch. I don't know quite what it is... I grew up in quite the white city in Canada, and I just always had an interest in... something else.
One thing that I wonder from you, is your stepfather... it's a general direction for a woman to have an interest in men similar to their fathers, just as it is for men to have interest in women like their mothers. I know it sounds crazy, but the ideas that come to us when we're young are ones that last with us for our entire lives, and the person that raised you was always seen as a wonderful person, so it only makes sense that we'd have an interest in those kinds of people.
I'm sure you'll find someone that is just right for you, both me and my Latina girlfriend wish the best for you.
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
5 Mar 10
People like what they like there is nothing wrong with it at all. So you like a certain race really is it any different than liking blonds over brunettes? As for your culture you may actually be attracted to the way your step dad raised you over anything else. Different cultures tend to have their own styles and it is normal for a child of a step parent to love and live their culture.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
i also have the same feeling as you, im from philippines but i dont know why i dont like guys from y country though im not trying to be racist as i have a lot of male friends from my country, i just dont like them to be in relationship with. maybe because i find foriegn man as handsome and tall and responsible enough and have the capacity to provide good life to their family. i have this kind of thinking maybe because most of my cousin marry foreign guy and their kids are all pretty. and so the father of my baby right now is also half bread so i wish that my baby will be pretty too
@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
5 Mar 10
Hello
That is not starnge you are attracted to who you are attracted to, simple as that, you should not feel bad, who are you hurting? you have to live your life for you, in that life you must do what makes you happy, I never thought I would fall for an older white man but I did lol he was older and looked like Ed Norton from the Honey Mooners do you think I cared what anyone thought, I took him to my family they actually liked him, he was really cool and so down to earth his only problem was he loved to drink and it became to much for me, so it did not work out.
Thanks for sharing this with us.
@lakerfanster (2577)
•
4 Mar 10
Nothing at all wrong with you and anyone who says there is something wrong are Racist.
@Bhemzky (423)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
Nothing is wrong with you. We all have our own preference. Just be yourself and be with the person you will love.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
5 Mar 10
Dont worry there is nothing wrong with you. Its just what you like. Im white and i perfer black men especially if they have an accent. Like Africans and Jamicians. Its just your personal preferance. Not everyone can like the same things. It would really be a boring world if it was that way. Enjoy your life. No worries.
@EnslinPorter (1718)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
Hi! That is totally normal. Every one of us have our own tastes. For you, it's Asians and Latinos. It's a matter of one's own preferences. If others judge you for that, it's just that sometimes society tells us what to do and what we should like...but don't mind them. So don't worry, here is nothing wrong with you.
@Posey1234567 (203)
•
5 Mar 10
Slightly strange,sorry! Colour don't matter i'm white but i'm in love with a black guy.
@nangisha (3496)
• Indonesia
5 Mar 10
I think nothing wrong with you! In my opinion in your life you know many culture and you notice they have different value of life and how they handling their family. I think it depend on what kind of relationship do you want in live. its not strange and that is your point of view of life and you have your own story story of life that makes you see every thing different with anyone else. Cheer Up!
@jackpot15 (32)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
for me you grown up on a latin speaking culture for how many years, you've been friends with so many latinos around you and for me that makes you comfortable being them, for me its naturals, maybe you just have to be open or try to make an effort to make deal with black or white people. who know? you will eventually open you mind to those people. for me its no longer about what you've been with whom ,that matters this time, its, about openness that you could do will matter this time. give other people a chance to ba part of your life, and if you do.. you will know who they are and soon you will understand who they are. thanks...