the way we court today......

Im 26 and my parents are very old fashioned when it comes to dating. They always want to me the man and he has to come pick me up from the house and pay and all that kind of stuff. While I think that women should be treated like prizes and respect and guy should practice chivalry, some things I guess Im not so old fashioned about. Like having the guy pick me up all the time. In this day and age almost everyone where Im from has a car, sometimes its just easier to meet him there. Alot of things that my parents want a man to do, it doesnt make or break the deal for me. However a man definitely has to open doors for me, either follow me or call to make sure I arrived home safely, that kind of stuff! :)

yes it is, i agree with you renaissance, all women are a prize. But i think how a person treat other, it is all depend on oneself. If she respects herself and other, then other would respect her too. So behave nicely is the way we gain other respect i think.

I agree woman are a prize, if they choose to be a prize and since you do I am proud of you. I always felt that way when I dated. I don't think we need to go back to the days where we have to get our father involved in our dating, but I do think that women would be far better off if they thought of themselves as a prize and demanded respect from guys they date. I have been married for many years now but I dated a lot before I got married and I was very fussy and fickle. I demanded respect with those I dated. How much planning a guy put in to a first date would often demonstrate what kind of guy he was and weather he was out to impress me or just get something from me. The guys who want to take you to McDonalds and then back to thier place are not worth the price of the burger. Those kinds of guys would not get what they wanted and would not get a second date. If a guy did not treat me like a lady and like the prize that I was that was then that was it for him and I was moving on to the next. There are too many guys out there to settle for one who does not respect you, and any guy worth anything will wait before he expects anything and will respect you.

Hi, Renaissance.:-) If there's a way to do just that, then it is alot better. It is true that women were treated with utmost respect during the great old days. But with the many changes we are coping now adays, not to mention the technologies that help us "open up" our eyes to a more liberal ways, I guess going back to it is next to impossible. Women as well as men are taking most of the conservative ways of courtship as a thing of the past and for the younger generation it is kind of weird to still observe such practices. Some even feel ashamed when their peers find out that they are still a virgin... What can old grandma and grandpa say to that?

yeah you are right on your part. Bt being a guy I suppose we are prized Possession too and yeah the things have changed and now there is considerably no difference apart from the gender that we possess. Women are not seen with disrespect and the people who do so are absolute dumb. I honour your openions and somewhere am convinced.... but yeah guys are also precious!! hehehe lol... (Pls consider it as a humble openion)

I'd like to see it go back to respect for one another. Women and men in today's world are both being disrespected. Unfortunately, I'm not sure we can turn back the clock...

Way back when the world was young if a feller found a girl he liked he'd grab her by the hair, drag her to his cave, and have his way with her. There was no need to ask or make any grand gestures. I don't really think society should go back quite that far, but on the other hand I do think people should remember their roots. We are rooted in the culture from which we evolved! I do agree with you that every woman is a prize!

i think it would be a great idea for us to go back to the old days of respect for women. we should be treated with respect and be respected. as well, we should respect our guys as well. i would not take anything but respect. i believe that is the way to go.

renaissance 2010 yes I think maybe you are onto something, so many 'guys now seem to be players from what I read here about two timing and three timing boy friends. they are just looking at a woman as a receptacle for their horniness not as any real love as I see it. If you really loved a woman you wou ld not hop from one to another like that.maybe it is time that women are treated with some respect and prized for being what we are. I am a s enior citizen and I do not much like seeing revolving door pairs who keep constantly changing., I had a stable marriage myself and was married for 43 years.

I agree with being treated with respect (it goes both ways), but I'd rather deal with a man myself directly.

I feel there is a lot of freedom now for women to choose the men they wish to get married. However, it is often misunderstood for something else. For instance, many women think this freedom means they can basically sleep around with as many men as possible. However, it is actually a benefit for men. They don't need to take permission from the girls' families. They don't need to think about getting married. They can just get a good one night stand without the hassle of any commitment. Some women are okay with it, but at the same time it actually takes away men's respect for them. I won't say the old days were good either. I mean back then women were happy with the fact that their hands were asked on marriage by a guy. And they would just say yes to it since they could not have the freedom to explore "who else is out there" to become their soulmates. Overall, I believe there should be some other tradition. Women need to maintain stronger personality so men fear and respect them. Women should not give away themselves to just anyone.

I do not feel that women today are treated with less respect than back in the days. Back in the days I feel that there was more romance and respect displayed to the woman. She was put up on a pedestal and treated like the queen she is. Back then they had more long lasting relationships and more full love was formed between the couple. Today I feel that the charm, and the class has declined dramatically and that temptation is running the world today. The divorce rate has climbed considerably from back in the days. I guess it could be because the women outweigh the men in population. Who knows.