What it is ?
By vishalkgupta
@vishalkgupta (373)
India
March 4, 2010 11:56pm CST
Hi friends, Unfortunately I had a break up with one of my best friend, there was some misunderstandings happened between us, and she said it's enough, now I want to break this friendship (She is only my friend, not...........), we had a long discussion actually I didn't want to loose her, but finally this happened. I asked her did you remember me any more then she said these words :
"MOUNTAINS MAY FLY
RIVERS MAY DRY
YOU CAN FORGET ME
BUT HOW CAN I."
I am confused till now, although she wants to break our relation then why did she say these words, I can't understand what she mean or what she actually want from me. please help me friend.
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14 responses
@basqui (3888)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
a little misunderstanding could be not be solved instantly. you could solve those things step by step. even if you're in a fight with her for now, that time will pass.
If you had the friendship for long, a little fight will not entirely erase the good memories you had together. the words she said meant that she still needs you. it's just that your enraged at the moment for whatever things you had not agreed to.
Maybe you could start patching things up by giving her a simple message of apology. A gift of reconciliation could help. send her things you know that she likes and when she responds to those things, then it's time for you to talk together and reconcile.
A long treasured relationship is not that tough if you wouldn't go through tests of life. It's like gold that passes through fire to test it's purity.
Good luck and may you have a longer friendship. hope you two get back together.
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@atul_asv (520)
• India
5 Mar 10
exactly. friends are not made in a day or two. old and close friends know almost everything about each other. and you gotta get in a trial-n-error method to find out exact reason. long discussions don't solve the problems but try to get to the root of that problem.
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@vishalkgupta (373)
• India
5 Mar 10
Yes we had a great friendship we were friends for last 8-10 years, we know almost everything about each other, we shared a lot of things, our hobbies are same. Whenever she needed me she called and when I needed I called her and BASQUI I have tried almost every thing you are suggesting me but got failed, I am agree to say her sorry again for 100 times if she come back, because I still need her.
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@atul_asv (520)
• India
5 Mar 10
you guys are confused. just stay away from each other and you'll find out how much meant to each other. if you think that you are making a big mistake by staying away, don't waste time and get back to her. and if you don't feel that, just move on.
@vishalkgupta (373)
• India
5 Mar 10
Hi atul, as I said I don't want to loose her infect I need her, I am not agree in the decision to break the friendship, only she wants so for her pleasure I had to do this, if she recalls me I am desperate to go back, but........well thanks.
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@atul_asv (520)
• India
5 Mar 10
and have you tried to figure our the exact reason. maybe something you are doing is hurting her. or maybe she is in love with you and you are not so it might be a problem to her. sometimes girls don't tell truth. maybe she is trying to hide something for good.
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@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
if she want it then give it a try as maybe she just want a space and think more about it. someday if shes really deserving for your attention and friendship then god will find a way so the friendship will get together again. just send her messages everyday or email, if she ignore it then dont bother till you get tired sending messages, just to make yourself better.
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@vishalkgupta (373)
• India
5 Mar 10
Hi dear, Ok will try this too, I can do anything for getting her back I am not staying normal whenever I remember her, what happens with her I don't know but my situation is not well after loosing her.
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@yoursjannat (839)
• India
5 Mar 10
Hi vishal,
No,she doesn't want to break this relationship,but may be due to some reason that she doesn't want to tell you or you've not expressed here,she thinks it's better to end it all.Either she is checking out how careful and committed you are to this relation or she couldn't sustain the pressure that the family members are imposing upon her(about not to keep relation with you surmising the vulnerability of a female mind to the submission to love with a friend).
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@vishalkgupta (373)
• India
5 Mar 10
Hi friend, yes you are right it may happen but our friendship is not of few days or not as it can break in seconds, we talked for hours and discussed so many things, our families know about our friendship, we are like family members for each others family, so I don't think any of the family has any objection over our relations, and our relation was quite fair and straight, there was no any seduction or physical attraction we were just friends, so it is impossible that something like this happened, and if happened she didn't hide to me, but you mentioned one more thing that she tried to check my commitment and dedication towards her and our friendship, this may be possible but how can I show her that how am I committed to her, how I love and need her as a friend, how am I missing her.
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@Lata_45 (217)
• India
5 Mar 10
Ohk friendship is something that never breaks actually so i think there would be a reason behind her saying this thing to u and about those words that she said to u so i think you both need to talk abt this. CAll her to discuss this matter face to face that is only thing u can do
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@vishalkgupta (373)
• India
5 Mar 10
Hi lata, I called her for discussing the matter for many times and she refused every time, she don't want to talk anymore about our relation, I just want to know that what is my fault, why did I get this punishment to staying away from her, may my god helps me to get back her. thanks
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@foreverday (8)
• China
5 Mar 10
your friend didn't want to loose you just like what you didn't want. Two real good friends are never forget each other though they argued. It's normal that some misunderstandings happened between you and your best friend.
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@vishalkgupta (373)
• India
5 Mar 10
Hello friend, my problem is that I don't want to loose her but she isn't agree to talk to me anymore, and I am surprised the problem between us wasn't so big I think she got a excuse to break our friendship, but again if she wanted to break the relation why did she tell those words at time when we talked for last time.
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@clocks123 (1225)
• United States
5 Mar 10
i would ask her what the meaning of her Mountains verses means in accordance to your friendship. you both need to communicate what this is all about. then you can decide if you want to remain in this friendship or not.
@vishalkgupta (373)
• India
6 Mar 10
Hi friend, I think we both can't stay normal without each other, I need her and she needs me, I can't understand why did she do it why didn't she come back to me and I know she is also missing me. I hope to get back her soon. thanks
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
5 Mar 10
Hi vishalkgupta,
I really don't know what your friend could possibly mean by those words. Sounds as if she is a bit confused and maybe hurt over the misunderstandings. Could be she just needs a little break to think things over. I would let her know that you care about her and the friendship itself and that you hope she reconsiders. Other than that you don't have much choice but to respect her decision. I hope this all works out for you. If the misunderstandings were small, I'm guessing that in time she will realize that they are not worth destroying a good friendship over.
@vishalkgupta (373)
• India
5 Mar 10
Hi sid, even I didn't understand the meaning of those words till now, and just to respect her decision I didn't force her to keep continue our friendship, I really hope that one day she will realize that what she did wrong and will come back to me. But waiting for anyone whom you love is the hardest task to do in life and I am trying to do this. Thanks
@vince06 (98)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
hi, vishalkgupta...
maybe she is still in the middle of confusion because maybe she just said that its enough because she still get mad at you but try to give him some time to realize and to let her head cool down maybe she will regret what she said..just dont close your door with each other..i know you will be bestfriend again coz i know you will both miss each other..
@frozenfire (208)
• United States
6 Mar 10
from the poem, it seems as if those misunderstandings hurt her. you have to respect what she wants. tell her how you feel , but giv her space if thats wat she wants.
@shahbazkharadi (81)
• Pakistan
5 Mar 10
Hi vishal just say to your best friend if you cant forget me than why leave me as i wish to be your friend forever sayto him that even you cant forget him just damn the matter and say lets start the friendship again
@vishalkgupta (373)
• India
6 Mar 10
Hi shahbaz, thanks for a straight solutions I like your comment because you shown me the straight way that I just go to her and say we can't forget each other, so why do we break our friendship and hope friend that is work for us. thanks again
@scja16 (322)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
It means that she may not meant what she said to you. Those words that she said has lots of meaning, it may refer that you are forgetting her or you are the one who is trying to let her go. Misunderstanding means that it was cause by not understanding each other so why not try understand each others point.
This problem will end up asking your self if you are willing to fix everything. Then if you say yes, i strongly suggest to give time and let her reflect to what happen to both of you. It may cure the wound and the pain that she is feeling not only to her but for the both of you. Always be positive rather focusing on the misunderstand, why not try to remember the good times.
I do hope that you can fix your friendship, If God can forgive us so then why cant we?
@scja16 (322)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
It means that she may not meant what she said to you. Those words that she said has lots of meaning, it may refer that you are forgetting her or you are the one who is trying to let her go. Misunderstanding means that it was cause by not understanding each other so why not try understand each others point.
This problem will end up asking your self if you are willing to fix everything. Then if you say yes, i strongly suggest to give time and let her reflect to what happen to both of you. It may cure the wound and the pain that she is feeling not only to her but for the both of you. Always be positive rather focusing on the misunderstand, why not try to remember the good times.
I do hope that you can fix your friendship, If God can forgive us so then why cant we?
@scja16 (322)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
It means that she may not meant what she said to you. Those words that she said has lots of meaning, it may refer that you are forgetting her or you are the one who is trying to let her go. Misunderstanding means that it was cause by not understanding each other so why not try understand each others point.
This problem will end up asking your self if you are willing to fix everything. Then if you say yes, i strongly suggest to give time and let her reflect to what happen to both of you. It may cure the wound and the pain that she is feeling not only to her but for the both of you. Always be positive rather focusing on the misunderstand, why not try to remember the good times.
I do hope that you can fix your friendship, If God can forgive us so then why cant we?