Are you a" yes-man"?
By sasalove
@sasalove (1709)
China
March 5, 2010 2:20am CST
I always think that flattery is an art that we should learn in the company. It is very hard to move more easily up the corporate ladder. However some people tend to believe that flattery is just too transparent to be effective.
I am the kind of person who is highly attund to and aware of the surroundings and know what to do to get a favourable response. But to be frankly speaking, I don’t like flattery, no matter flatter or being flattered.
Some people like to flatter as it will obscure their laziness or incompetence; some supervisors or boss enjoy having their egos boosted or need the reinforcement of consent while they are having a meeting; Some people like to flatter as they think that people always like to hear the positive language.
How about you? Do you like the flattery? Do you think that flattery plays an important role in the promotion of the company? If you are the management, do you need a lot of social reinforcement for your decision with flattery?
Share about your like and dislike on the flattery.
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3 responses
@namiya (1718)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
Flattery is a very shallow compliment. I felt it's more of an insult than a compliment at all. Would you be glad to accept praises if you know deep inside you that you don't deserve it. An employee who overwhelms his boss with praises to get promoted lacks belief in the quality of his performance for if he really believe he is deserving of the position he won't resort to this tactics.
@sasalove (1709)
• China
5 Mar 10
It quite depends on what kind of boss you are serving. As managment are not always keeping eyes on every details of your work. In some sense, they did not really know what you contribute unless your upper supervisor reports your performance otherwise we may never have the chance of promotion.
Ancient Chinese reformers advocated selecting all talented people to be officials regardless of their family backgrounds. I think this practice is not significant in most of the company. If workers are having the same working contribution, the one who flatter in moderation will obtain the promotion, I think.
@namiya (1718)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
Yeah, there are bosses who favor employees who feed their ego. Well' if that's their "criteria for judging" employees performance, my sympathy to employees who were not sufficiently recognized. I had been an employee then and know how it felt to be part of this game.
@sasalove (1709)
• China
6 Mar 10
I think you are the guy who is attuned to and aware of your surroundings too. We could not control others, but we are able to choose our working style and personality. 
The reasons employee flatter bosses vary, too. Some are to cover up their shortcoming, some are to show their social skills and some are to be out of their personality. It is hard to say or maybe some people will admire those who can well apply the flattery.
The reasons employee flatter bosses vary, too. Some are to cover up their shortcoming, some are to show their social skills and some are to be out of their personality. It is hard to say or maybe some people will admire those who can well apply the flattery.
@phoenix8606 (4942)
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5 Mar 10
hi! I don't think flattery is a good way to achieve your goals in life. I am a straiht person, and I always say what is in my mouth and my mind, and never do some flattery to people who don't deserve it, only to earn some benefits from them, because as I post in my last discussion, we must be ourselves and never imitate no one, and never put some other "faces", that's why I am that what I am, and always say that, what I think about the people around me 
@sasalove (1709)
• China
6 Mar 10
I like the strage person that would give the suggestion while I am making the decision. One of my old colleage is like to flatter directly that it sounds too transparent to be true. I just feel disgusting when he wore the mask,but our manager tends to like what he said. Sometimes I just confused why the hypocritical face work.
@phoenix8606 (4942)
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6 Mar 10
well, I have always disliked people like your manager, because they think they are always right. but i haven't tried some flattery to them, because I like to be natural. well, maybe because I haven't got a job to lose :)
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
6 Mar 10
When I started out in the company I currently work for, management flattery was the norm. We worked under a VP who started out from the floor, and worked her way to the top. She was so proud about where she came from that she developed a distinct dislike for 'edumacated' employees. She surrounded herself with people who constantly flatter her, and she even promoted some of these 'yes-men'.
Production suffered, but it took a couple of years before the board of directors finally discovered what was happening and fired her out.
@sasalove (1709)
• China
6 Mar 10
Yes, we have found that bosses or management are new or unsure of themselves need a lot of social reinforcement for their decision. They might look at flattery as a sign that they are right. I think your management is some what like that. In another hand, I think it is not good for the team managing if she constantly seeks for the same oponion as no revolutionary or improvement would be made. She deserved the consequence as per her working style.
