greatest fear for single mom or dad.

things have changed, homeshoppers. single parenting is now more of a choice than an accident. why go on a relationship when all you need is a child? children nowadays, also have a deeper understanding of things happening around them and it doesn't necessarily mean that only a couple can raise a good child. just look around you and you will know what i mean. also, the stigma of a single parent has long been washed away and single parents are accepted to be so, no longer social outcasts or pariahs.

hello friend, What you have wrote were common fears with single moms. In my opinion,being a single mom is a choice. You choose to become a single mom rather than staying in a relationship which we feel is not working anymore. We choose to be single than staying with our kids father,and living one roof but full of misery. So,the moment we choose this decision,we should learn to accept the truth and have the courage to face whatever consequences may arise. Being a single mom is not easy...that,the fact behind this. Single mom should learn to conquer those fears...and be ready always for this is the kind of situation that we choose. I am also a single mom,and fighting to overcome any fears. I tried to ignore and doesn't entertain negative thoughts,instead..i strive hard to give my kids a brighter future more than a father can do. Be brave and face all the challenges my friend...take care,and be courageous for your kid.

Hi Homeshopper! Well yes it's not going to be easy, in fact it would be a tough job for you as a single mom. I'm not saying this to discourage you but this is just a fact. It is a fact that I know most single parents can conquer. I believe that the moment you chose to have your child showed a lot of your courage, that is the beginning of your strength and your child will become your motivation and inspiration to fight that fear. I grew up without a father, and I haven't met even a shadow of him. It was difficult for my mom and I especially for economic reasons. However, I grew up without actually looking for a father. I don't know exactly why, but probably, because my mom was honest with me from the very start. I think she told me facts about my father when I was 4 or maybe 3 I dunno. My mom was always there and since I'm a girl it was a little bit easy. Of course sometimes I would feel jealous to see friends with fathers but you know I never bother my mom about it. I think the key is really in your hands, you have to be honest with your child so he/she wouldn't question you someday. You have to show her your love and even if it's difficult at times you are willing to sacrifice to make things better for you and her. Good luck to you and your baby. Have a safe pregnancy.

hmmm i think if my child will ask me about his father. actually growing child always longing for a complete family, having mom and dad. but actually its a matter on how you will raised the child, as early as possible let the child know the truth. and just the 100% love and care.

Hi homeshoppers, I couldnt bring myself to adopt for the simple reason that by the time I could afford a child, I was having my own health problems. Therefore, I chose to forego the pleasure. My fear was I would end up at some operation table, having a massive coronary attack, and my child would have nobody trustworhty to turn to!

hi home I know a lot of single parent and one of them is my friend,and she is very successful now, being a single mom made her stronger, her son is her motivation and inspiration to work,he became a better person. I know its a tough situation but as a single mom you also need to be strong for your child. just tell him/her the truth about his/her dad, child has the right to know about their father. just be strong, cos As life goes on there's a lot of challenges, so we just need to be strong and never give up

Hello there... Your questions are genuine and I have a genuine answer for those... My answer is in the form of a question... 'Do you think that you're going to remain single for all your life?' The cheerful way in which you've posted your question, tells me that sooner or later, you're going to find a soul mate... He can be the father of your kid, can't he? I am talking about a soul mate, who'll tell you all about his life and whom you'll let know everything about you. I am sure that there'll be a man who'll father your kid. Trust me, life is a little tricky but it never goes unsolved. I hope and I pray that all will be well with you soon.. .Good Luck!

My greatest fear would be if ever is"HOW TO TACKLE BEING A MOM AND DAD RESPONSIBILITY AT THE SAME TIME" if only by myself, that's the greatest fear i will have to make a good answer.He need a father to make him a better person to grow confidently with dad beside him.How to answer every question of him about his dad? That will be another fear. Anyway being a single parent is really tough but i just hope it will make good reason to have all fears vanished inside his/her heart.I believe you can make it home,stay still. Happy mylotting!God bless!

I would mostly be worried about our financial situation. I've not been the breadwinner for a number of years now, and of course if I did get a job therre would be the question of finding money for child care. The thing is, many of my firends are single mums and are coping really well, a couple of them have even managed to find the time and energy to go back to school.