Have you removed a friend or been removed yourself,How did you feel about it?
By pandaeyes
@pandaeyes (2065)
March 5, 2010 8:18am CST
I never thought I would try face book but then I was asked to join someone from my past's friends list and so as I wanted to be able to contact them, I agreed.
Weirdly ,I had forgotten just how bossy they could be and it soon became apparent that they could be quite rude ,so eventually ,I removed them from MY friends list.
I felt quite guilty doing so, it was like when you are a small child and you are told that you are taken off someones birthday party list LOL only the other way around.
A little while ago, family decided to add themselves to facebook and so we duly added each other in a sort of blind mass.
I was quite disgusted to find a nephew had removed me and my husband despite our having commented on his page the day before.
It took a couple of days to calm down LOL
Then my daughter said 'well I wouldn't want all the Aunties on my page' and I realised of course, we are the old Aunt and Uncle to this person, very uncool . It made me feel better about it as that was most likely the reason.
Have you removed a friend or been removed yourself and how did you feel?
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@Posey1234567 (203)
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5 Mar 10
My ex best friend deleted me a while ago for unknown reasons,I haven't heard from her since as she now blanks me so sadly no idea what happened.
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@pandaeyes (2065)
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5 Mar 10
That's sad.
I have to say, I didn't tell my old friend I was going to delete her on my list either.
I didn't want to insult her but I just couldn't think of a way to say she was being rude.
I guess it is like any connection, people change and grow away from each other and that includes character and interests.
@phungminhthu (176)
• Singapore
7 Mar 10
I have never removed any friends or have been removed by my friends on Facebook because I only add Friends that i know well and also the same thing goes for accepting friend requests!cos i think it's nonsense to add friends that you even don't know them
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@pandaeyes (2065)
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7 Mar 10
I can understand that.
Sometimes I think people change and we expect them to still be the person we knew or have forgotten just what they were like.
I found with the person I removed, the opposite, which was that she used to instill a feeling of being commanded in me when we were at school but that I developed a thick skin and ignored it back then but now, I have no reason to put up with being commanded and so can choose not to associate with her .
@patgalca (18366)
• Orangeville, Ontario
5 Mar 10
I have never had the problem of being removed, but I have trouble getting people to accept me as their friend. I just can't figure out why my brother's wife, my sister-in-law, has accepted friendship with my teenage kids but not with me. Other relatives of whom I have requested friendship don't go on FB very often so they probably haven't even seen my request. So I don't begrudge them that. My sister-in-law doesn't go on very often, but she has been on since I requested her friendship. I requested it a couple of times but she hasn't accepted me. I find that quite weird. I know if I ask her she will just say she didn't see it, hasn't been on FB, is too busy, whatever. It makes accessing some family photos harder though. She is the only one who has bothered me, but she has always been a bit of a thorn in my side. LOL!
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@pandaeyes (2065)
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5 Mar 10
Could be she really hasn't seen the request.
I have about 4 friend requests unanswered at present.
People will access their page,scan the posts and log off because they are at work and quite busy.
My sisters in law are all on there but one only accesses her page about once a month.
I had to tell one school friend who I was because my name is different now and also I had rather an odd profile picture . I knew he would accept me though as we had chatted by email a few times through friends reunited but on there it uses your old name from pre-marriage.
@recycledgoth (9894)
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6 Mar 10
I foolishly added one of my cousins as a friend on Facebook and then remembered why I never spoke to her. She has always been petty and malicious and it didn't take her very long to start making snide comments. I deleted her without any regrets.
@pandaeyes (2065)
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6 Mar 10
LOL sounds like she is the same as my cousin.
She always used to make rude remarks about mums decor and clothes and our habits which I hated and couldn't see a reason to carry on with the acquaintance once I was a grown up.
@BlueAngelRS (2899)
• Canada
5 Mar 10
I have had that happen to me and I have also removed friends.....My ex bf who I grew up with and went to school with he added me so that is fine and I get along with his wife when we talk but for some reason she deletes me often just to re-add me very confusing lol Happy Mylotting.
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@pandaeyes (2065)
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5 Mar 10
Its the very word 'friend' isn't it?
If it was called 'connection' or something else instead, it wouldn't seem so blatant when either we are removed or we remove someone.
I did think after our nephew took us off his page that maybe the person I had removed might have felt similarly hurt and if I had to remove another person ,I would probably message them first.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
5 Mar 10
I have never deleted friends, because I love having lots of friends. but I never removed from the list of friends, I am very sad because I do not know what the reason. I was not disappointed and never made me not know why he did it. but I do not think much about it now. because there are many friends who want to be friends with me, as long as they bring a positive thing for me I would be happy to be their friend.
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@pandaeyes (2065)
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5 Mar 10
I think people look at facebook in different ways.
For some it is just a list of people and one can be removed because there are too many on the list, another will see a list of friends in real life and feel they would hurt someone's feelings if they deleted them.
I pondered long an hard before deleting my friend from the list but still I did it because sometimes she seemed to have a bullying manner even just on the page.
