Having kids before marraige? Is the value of marraige being undermined nowadays?

Im 18 now i was 17 when i had my child and me and the babys dad live together and couldnt be any happier. Our child will be brought up right and it will not be an abnormal family setting. If we love each other and live together and bin togetehre a long time we are like married couples. What does a piece of paper do to improve a family life. But i understand where you are coming from with it there are different people that do things way differently.

First of all i wanna say i don't like this to having kids before marriage. And i believe there is no value of marriage being undermined in modern society. It's don't call modern society. I think modern society should be rid of such a things. Everything will be in good way.

I have two children by the same from the same man and I am not married. It is not that I do not value the importance of marriage it was just that the situation at the time was not conducive to being married. My kids are not being raised in an "abnormal" home. They are very smart my daughter is 5 and skipped kindergarten after being tested on the first grade level and my son that is 2 is following in her footsteps. My kids are well adjusted and very polite. Kids are different than adults in regards to what they see as normal. If that is how they were brought up and that is all they know then that is what they consider normal.

I have two kids born out of wedlock. Now, I am separated rrom their father and I would say it was a good decision not to have married him. It would have made life more difficult if I continued living with him. It wouldn't be healthy for my children to see us arguing all the time. I would also have to say that only through living together that you will know the person for who he really is. Men almost always put their best foot forward and when marriage is done, only then you realize that he isn't the man that you wanted to spend your lifetime with.

I think alot of people in the current times were raised in a screwed up environment by two married parents, and aren't wanting to follow that path. Check out some divorce statistics online. Married is not a magical ticket to "Happily ever after". If the value of marriage is being undermined, its by the people who are getting married and not taking the vows seriously. No one who isn't married is undermining the value of marriage unless they're sleeping with someone whos married, in which place the married person is actually undermining their marriage, the unmarried person is just giving the assist. Anyways, thats my 2 cents on the subject.

First i say nay to the fact that you think a child's parents should be married for them to have a good upbringing. Although my parents have been married for at least 12 years (but they've been together for 20), they were together while raising me and my siblings, in the midst of our upbringing I realize that, it's not who your parents are, it's what they're about, my parents believe that suggestions can go a long way, they know they can't change our mids, but instead of trying to manipulate our decisions bu restricting us, they suggest a recommendation (if we so choose to follow it) it may be the right or wrong thing to do. The value of marraige has not changed over the years, my parents are a picture perfect example of a marraige, there is no such thing as a happy one, but they're together and they love each other, they may not say it, but in my family, it's an action word. I have a cousin that has 2 children and she is not married, her children are doing just fine, they live normal TODDLER lives. I must give it to you though, that sometimes, , people get married for other reasons besides love and happiness - riches, children, fame, etc. - it's just a matter of who is getting married and what they're intent is.

I have a friend that has a brother that has been living with a lady for the last fifteen years. They have three children. They are devoted to each other. They didn't see the need to get married. These days a girlfriend and a boyfriend can have a baby. They might never wish to get married. Even if a couple get married divorce is common nowadays. Family settings are varied these days. I know a single mother that has a four year old daughter. She is a lovely lady and her child is ever so polite. Marriage is less popular these days. Sometimes a couple that have children choose to get married.

actually i dont think its abnormal as long as the child grow up with mother an father besides the child can even carry his fathers name even if the parents are not married. the only problem that every women facing if they get pregnant while not married is the possibility that the guy will leave her and her baby and he cant just forced him to stay coz they are not married thats why its still important to get married for the security of the baby. but even if not as long as they both love the baby and took care of the child and give the child a good life with his name then i didnt see any problem with it.