Do you knowingly lend money to people that will NOT pay you back?

Oh... I have the same grievence as your friend... I have lent helping hand and a lot of cash to many and haven't got any of it back, yet. It happened before 2-3 years that I started earning and as I had more than enough, then; I'd help my friends, acquaintance, who were in need... Later the times changed and I got into trouble myself. And in those troubled times, no one came forward to help... I called them, e-mailed them... but to no avail... They gave me all kinds of excuses, all of them. Worse, some of them stopped receiving my calls and responding to my e-mails. I felt terrible, then and I still do... Most of them treated me as if I was asking them to help me, as if I was beggin for it. When the fact was that that I was simply asking for the money that I had helped them with. I had lent them some money, I wanted them to pay back... But none did!!! Trust me, NONE DID PAY BACK ANY MONEY!!! I struggled for a long time, even spent days without food... Now, I have a good job and earning satisfactorily; but I have stopped helping them if I am not sure it'll be returned... I lend money only when I know for sure that the borrower is going to return it soon..

hi! I never lend money to people who will never pay me back, because I really dislike when that happens. I like when I give something to someone to received it again soon or at least some time, because do you know what- i have worked hard for those money or for something else, and I really don't like to give it just like that. well, if it is a small amount I have nothing against it, i will lent it and will forget, but if the amount is not that small, well, then I will expect to get it back hope you will understand me!

No, I'd absolutely not do this! Like you say, people just take advantage of the generosity that this person has. They are mean spirited people and she should cut them out of her life in future because they are like vampires sucking the life out of her.

I used to lend money to such people earlier before. Sometimes they just come and tell their sad story to me, so I have no other choice but to help them out. But pretty soon I've learned that it can't continue like that. Now, when somebody comes to me with another sad story, I just return him/her another sad story, telling that I don't have a single penny left in my pockets, so I can't help the person out.

yes, but not so much amount. there are some people who really intend to pay u back but can't do so because his or her means are not sufficient. it would be a pity to put the history of friendship into waste out of money issue. i do it along with other friends only in a small amount so i wouldn't have to be in a burdened situation where i might be also needing it for myself. but this is an exceptional basis. knowing the personality of the person, the lifestyle or the habit of borrowing money from others but will not actually pay for it. a swindler. i've also experienced being a parasite of my friends and they ended up lending me money but they never asked me to pay back. instead, i treat them for lunch or dinner as my way of saying thank u to them.

Recently I lent money to a friend for the 50th time and I know that he won't return any of it to me, but I just feel sorry for him that he hasn't got money for himself to provide what he wants and sometimes beg his friends for money and the thing is he does not feel responsible for the money after that and spends it as a joke. He is not always cashless and the strange thing is that when he has money he spends them so fast, just indiscriminately and I start to think that he is indifferent beacuse these money he has are from his parents and he does not even care how difficult they earned it, so he buys whatever he sees and even suff that won't need him at all. Last month he bought a watch that was so overpriced and then he realized that he does not want it anymore. The watch was not that good anymore as he had it for 3 days now. So a couple of times I gave him money I i knew that he would not pay me back beacuse he does not care or says that he do not have money right now so I have to wait and I think it is my fault sometimes and I should stop giving him money, but after all he had done me a lot of favours. When I need someone to help me on a school assingment or to come with me somewhere for support and etc. Maybe beacuse of this things I give him money. But I think he is my friend, not my employee to do some job and favours to me so at the end I start to doubt his our friendship but still I am waiting for my money that I gave him!!!

I wouldn't lend money to anybody lol. I'm too greedy.

It's happened to me before. I try to give everyone that trust until they break it's just unfortunate the money drives people to take advantage of people. It's unfortunate to lose trust with people because sometimes it's from people that you would have never expected it from. Greed can overpower some people easily.

No, I don't lend money to people I know who will not pay me back. Forgive me for saying this, but that's plain stupid. I work hard to earn my money, and it wouldn't be fair if people will just take my money. And if the notorious borrower has a kid, I believe there could be other ways for him or her to earn money without getting my hard-earned money. If you would just keep on giving money to that person just because of his or her kid, then chances are that person will just keep on using his or her kid as an excuse to get your money.

I give money, rides, food, and everything else to my son's father Luis. I have driven over 200 miles to give him a ride when his car broke down once, I know he won't chip in for gas or food but he is my son's father and I did love him a lot at one point and time....this really used to bug Alok.

For me not because the money you spend is have many hard times in your life before you got many money then you send it for the person who not pay you it's crazy. And I know that Jehovah God not so angry of me of what I'm gonna do.

Yes but there is still hope that he/she will pay back but most of the time if there's someone I lend my money its my brother and though there's no assurance that he will pay in the future still thats okay with me but of course there are times that I told him to pay his debt and that is the sense of responsibility.

I do not lend money to someone who will not return. I did that in past but though they will return my money but it happened the other way. Now if I know the person asking for money has no intention to return the money definitely I am not going to give him any money. yes, there are some scenarios where the person asking for money is in trouble and I know that he/she will not be able to return the money because of problems in life, I will give the money considering that I helped some needy, its a great felling to help some one who need help.

Yeah.. sometimes.. I know that he will not pay it back.. but he said that it is important.. how could i say no.. maybe it was real emergency.. then what would happen.. the problem is that he is my friend.. hate it very much.. but luckily he seldomly do it...man.. try to avoid from friends like this.. they do no good

I have borrowed from friends and due to a fixed income have not been able to pay all of it back to them promptly but I try and do my best to show them I'm trying so if I need help I can get it....I think it's sad that your friend has been there for others now that she is in need they can't be bothered I've had two friends of mine that have borrowed money from me and I've helped out with groceries cuz they have kids I have kids too and now that I'm on my own again struggling these very friends have not offered.....Only one out of the bunch offered but now that she is going through her own I feel bad I'm not there for her. As I have a tight financial situation right now too...