If its happen ! You find out Your an adopted child will you still ?

Hi friend, Its a situation, we normally come across movies/novels or story. But it will be out of box thinking to imagine, how i will behave in that condition. On knowing that i would definitely like to know my real mom and the reasons why she left me. She must be having some very compelling reasons to do so, i would make an attempt to know that reason. If i am able to meet her, i will give my love and respect to her as a biological mom. But my love and respect for my Parents, who brought me up will remain intact and i will take their care also. I don't know weather u r aware, One of the GOD of Hindus, Lord Krishna had one biological mother, but he was brought up by other family. He loved both of them.

I'm very curious, so yes I would like to know who they are. If I get to find them, I guess I'll investigate all I can about them and then decide if I want to meet them or for them to know I'm their daughter. On the other side, I wouldn't like for the family I've always lived with to be sad or to think they could loose me, so... I rather sacrifice my curiosity for them, that to know the truth about me. Well, what about you cloud31? What would you do? If you are involved in a situation like this, I encourage you to do what your heart dictates and whatever you won't regret later. Happy mylotting to you too and have a very good day. Libna MVW.

I am adopted and I found out when I was still a child a pre-teen or around there.....I still feel as my adoptive family are my real family and I found out my Mother was very young when she gave birth to me.....I don't know personally if I'm ready to search for her but would like to know my medical history as I have children now I was only a couple of years older then My birth mom was when she had me when I had my first born so I know deep down in my heart she was doing what was best for me.... HappyMylotting.

Haloo...although I am not adopted but I would like to comment on this topic. I think if I find out that I am adopted ,I feel gratitude to the family that adopted me, I will repay them back with my love as they treat me as their own. But deep in my heart I will be curious about my real parents, maybe I will ask someone that know about them, to find out more why they left me.

it would be nice to know the real mom, it might be difficult but it's nice to know your roots. then i'll be having a one big happy family :-)

If I was adopted, my bio Mum may have had lots of different reasons for putting me up for adoption. I'm sure most think they are doing the best thing for their child. Knowing the reasons isn't going to help but I'd be curious to meet and speak with her. We all need to know our roots where possible. I'd probably be hesitant to make the first contact in case she hoped I would never pop up. Here, there are registers that both adopters and adoptees can put their details on if they want to find each other.

If it happens that i'm a fostered child, the thoughts that will first occur to me would be my deep gratitude and obligation to my parents who brought me up with love and care though we have no real connection in blood. As to my real parents, i don't hate them as some people do. They must have been forced to abandon me for many reasons, not deliberately. It could be that they were poor when i was born and they were unable to raise me. They did it because they had no other alternatives. I believe they love me with all their heart, so i can easily understand and forgive them. If i have the opportunity to see them, i will love them wholeheartedly.

I've always known I was adopted. As for my birth parents, I don't want to find them. I would have a lot of very nasty words for them, and it wouldn't be pretty. So...no. I refuse to have anything to do with them even if they somehow managed to find me. They had their chance, they blew it, and I'm not changing my mind on that.

Hi, For curiosity I'll definitely try to search for them and check whether they are in good condition.But the most important part of the process is to dig out the reason for leaving me.I'll forgive them if the reason is justified like the couldn't bear the expenses to rear up a child at that point of time.Though it'd be ingenuous of me not to hurt them who have so long reared me up.I'll try to put both the families under the same shade if they agree.But to warp it up,I've to be enough matured and broad minded person.

i will try to find them but not to the extent to be close and leave the family who raised and loved me. besides there's a reason why i was given or adopted to another family by my parents. i will be thankful that God gave me such a loving and kind family who treated me as their own. i would rather stay with them.

If I was adopted I haven't excited about my mom. I think who adopted me is my real mom. I think that love can make every relationship. And they love me so they grow me up.

Though i am not adopted, but i have always a thought to adopt a child. I always feel due to some reason or other, children left alone and i believe every child needs a family. So if the real parents cant do it, why not adoption. And if for case am adopted, i have a mindset to be thankful for the ones who really took much great care so long.I will try to get myself forget am adopted and love my parents!!.

If I were an adopted child, I'll definitely look for my real family. Why? Just to know the reason why they gave me away and see if they are living the right way such as mine. I'll offer help when they're having trouble in their daily living and if they're living ok then I'd be happy. I wont stay away from them because we have the same blood and probably thanked the ones who adopted me because they've taken good care of me even if I were adopted.

if its happened to me , i do not think i have to think myself as a seprated child of the existing family. it is upto my present parents to decide whther they need me or not . for me there is no other choice than to still love and be obedient with the parents as if go out of the house i will be in trouble for surviving . rather on the other hand , if any situation happened in the family and my parents themselves shouted on me as to adopted child and asking me get out then i need to decide and it will depend on my age and situation . if i am still young or under 15, i need to go to some orphanage or if i have grown i may seek some job and stay alone like that .

cloud31, If this is actually happening to me and discover that my parents are not my actual parents - I would be shocked and disappointed with my biological parents. I do not think they will actually want me back into their lives but if they do I do not think they can really make me, even if there are some legalities involved. As to whether I would want to acknowledge them would also vary to whether they would want to acknowledge me at their end. But, I would definitely not be living with them as this would not be fair to my adoption parents. Acknowledging my bio parents does not mean that I have to accept them fully because they have to understand and be fair.

It hasn't happened me till date and its not going to happen as well.I know my parents are my biological parents as well.But you question has made me think .I am trying to imagine why i would do in such a situation.I guess i will try ti find out who was my real mom and dad.It wont affect my relations with my current parents though.

if that will happened to me then i will not bother to look for my real mother specially if i already have all the love that a mother can give with the mother who adopted me. but then of course out of curiosity i will still look for my real mother and check why she need to let me be adopted. if her reason is valid then maybe i will accept it i still need to say "thank you coz when she did it, i found a family who accepted me as their family and i have a good life with them" theres nothing wrong to see whose my real mother is. but im glad im not adopted and i love my mother so much

I don't know if I would want to meet the real mother or not. I would be curious as to her reasons for giving me up and I would like to know their medical history, but you might be able to find that from another source. The parents that loved and raised me would still be considered my parents. After all our upbringing is half experiences.

it would be better to find your real mom-- you might feel incomplete... also there is a reason for everything, maybe it was better that you were adopted...

Hi cloud, there is no change, but well because of this 'if', i will certainly meet my real mom and try to find out why i was given on adoption , there must be some reason behind it..... but i will never leave my foster parents.... Happy posting, cheers Professor