Are you in love if so how long did you have to waite to find love?
By apples99
@apples99 (6556)
United States
March 5, 2010 3:01pm CST
Sometimes I wounder how much longer I will have to waite to find what people call love. will it be years or months I dont know, of course know one really knows when that special someone will come in to there lives. though I hope its sooner rather then later not that I'm clamoring to get married or anything, it would just be nice to have someone to spend time with, and share things with you know just have someone to care for. well whatever this might sound silly to those of you who are perfectly satisfied with being single, so I guess this question is for those of you in a happy relationship of course your all welcome to put your two cents in.
How long did it take you to find love was it years or months from the time you were a teen until now?
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14 responses
@goodoldday (236)
• China
6 Mar 10
I think true love needs waiting in order to make a long-term relationship for each other and the right person will turn up at the right time in the end. Some people keep single not only for love but also for freedom so it is not a sad thing to some extent. When you grow up, your love will abloom and fructify. Take life as it comes is good.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
6 Mar 10
Hi Apples, you have put a wonderful question here. Yes, I am in a relationship now. Both of us love each other madly and passionately. And very soon, we're going to get married. I proposed her when I was 26! Yes, I had to wait that long to get the woman of my dreams... Before that I dated a few girls. The last one that I dated, cheated and deserted me... I was 24 then and after she was gone, I lost all hope to live a happy life. Last year I met with this wonderful lady and now we're committed to each other...
Sweetie, it wouldn't be appropriate to say 'find love or search love!' Trust me, if one goes finding love or searching for it, one has to face a lot of depression and frustration! I am sure you must have heard, 'Love happens'. Sometimes, that person is always around you and you don't know it or sometimes the person has just entered your life as a friend, or colleuge or a business partner etc; and suddenly, you realise 'man, I love this person..' The revealation of this fact is the most wonderful feeling in the world. It generates a mixture of all kinds of feelings and the highest amount of excitment. This is what is meant by 'Love Happens!'
Everyone should fall in love!!!
@machivado (528)
• Indonesia
6 Mar 10
To be honest, I'm not really in the mood right now to search for any girlfriends. I just think that relation is a blessing but to find your own match will be a tremendous gift. You can't force it to happen, so all I can do is having a good relation with people and try my luck talking with girls I like although the chances are slim. But hey, that's life is all about..chances.
@hhtyww (44)
• China
6 Mar 10
hello,When I was young I like to see a girl of my classmate,with years went by,I forgot how she looks like,even what her name is.Now I fall in love with a girl in the university.she is not beautiful but she is kindness.It took me two years to find her.now I think i am happily
@joebrpt84 (85)
• Malaysia
6 Mar 10
well I don't actually call it waiting..i was studying when I found my girl.. we have been friend for six years now and hope fully will get married by the end of this year.
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
6 Mar 10
I am very much in love with my fiance. I cannot imagine my life without him. I am 27 right now so I would say I've waited for love since I was 15 when I started dating and wanting a family. I think that the wait was worth it. The man I am in love with now if the greatest man i have ever met and if I had married any of the other men I dated I wouldn't know true love.
@valerieanne (811)
• United States
5 Mar 10
I'm not currently in a relationship. I have been in love before though. It took me quite a few years to find it, but then I lost it, both parties have to feel the same way, or it won't last. TRUE Love, you will know it when you feel/see it. It's completely different than anything you will ever experience.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
5 Mar 10
I am not right now, but I want to be. How long it will take you? Just depends. Hope you find the right person soon!
@fourjems08 (550)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
I found love when I was 19. He became my husband now. As for you, don't rush things. You'll find yours at he right time. If you look for it, you won't find it. Just let it come to you. Ask the Lord's guidance in prayer to give you inner peace. He knows what's best for you. There was a story posted in the wall in one of my friends boarding house a few years back. It was a story of a young girl looking and seeking for a special someone to love and be with. For years she keep doing this but never found one. Then she turned to God and ask him why. God answers, "Learn to love me first, and I will give the right person to you."
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
6 Mar 10
It took 24 years to find my love. She is perfect and similar in thoughts like me.
I never wished to fall in love but it happened. Dont wait for love, it will happen one day and u will see your life turning out beautiful..All the best!
@melloncollie (661)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
I just ended a 6-year relationship. Although for me it was long ended when we turned the third year. For what reason? It's a very very long story. When that last girl flew to another country, I broke up with her. She didn't accept my reasons. She didn't want to accept my break up. The feeling was not mutual anymore. I made it clear to her that we were done. She acted as if we were still together. I just let that pass. Hoping in time she'd learn to accept it.
On the process -- it took me a year to finally find the one I would be spending the rest of my life with.
@Tambunan (28)
• Indonesia
6 Mar 10
Hi Apples99.
I guess first you have to decide what LOVE means to you. If you are just looking for a warm feeling inside, or that romantic electricity that shoots through your body when your lover touches you, then you can probably find it just about anywhere. But if your looking for that person who chooses to love you, for better or for worse, as you love him, then don't get anxious... he will come at just the right time.
I am very much in love with my husband. We have been married almost 2 years and are expecting our first child next month. I don't always "feel" in love. Sometimes I feel annoyed, let down, lonely... whatever. But love is not a feeling to me, it is a choice. Yes, there is romance, passion, fun... but even when those things fade, my love for my husband remains. And I am very blessed, because I know that he feels the same for me.
I was 23 years old when we met. I wasn't looking for love, but I knew when I found it. I am American, and I came to Indonesia to visit a friend. I met a handsome Indonesian man thru this friend, and that was it... I was in love. I couldn't stop thinking about him. I couldn't eat or sleep if he wasn't around. We were engaged after 2 weeks and married 6 months later.
I hope that you find this kind of love. The true kind. The love that never fails, not based on feeling or expectation but on genuine adoration of each other and a choice to look past faults. Don't worry, you will find it at the right time. Don't waste your time on anything less, it will only weaken your heart.
@scja16 (322)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
It took me 11 years and to be honest Ive been into many relationship. Its really hard to count how many but I can say so many. There were moments that I thought that this is it then knowing that it was not. Until one day I met someone who is always there and even in a situation that I never thought that she will be there. She is always make me smile and there is something in her that makes me always think of her. Knowing that God moves in mysterious ways and Im glad that God gave her to me. Im so proud of her and I can say that it is okay to wait for 11 years as long as I will end up meeting her at have her with me forever.