What Attracts You To The Opposite/Same Gender?
By KelsieLWade
@KelsieLWade (74)
March 5, 2010 3:36pm CST
Well, I suppose the title says it all. What do you find more attractive about the opposite/same gender?
With me it was the looks. To be honest with you all, I think it's the looks that gives you the first impression for instance; your eyes look before your mouth talks. Correct me if I'm wrong though mylotters. I'm not saying if your not attractive you won't find someone, that is just my opinion, and I would love to hear yours.
Next, it would then be personality. Obviously, you would want to know more about that person and start to make a 'bond' with them. Finding out what they are like, their interests etc. etc. My first 'date' was him walking me home, and then he kissed me.
Next, it would have to be the way they make your stomach feel when you see, feel and hear him, but then again that is my opinion :P
I am very interested to find out from Men and Women what attracts them to the opposite or the same Gender. I'm sure it is something that we would all like to know as it would give us hints and tips within our own relationships.
Thank You.
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5 responses
@jimeny (640)
• Israel
9 Mar 10
If you talk about attraction in a non sexually way then I have to go on - the voice. for example- I ADORE Declan Galbraith, his voice is perfect. on the other hand, Justin Bieber just didn't sound that well to me...
They both looks good, cute and charming, but I rather see Declan's face.
@KelsieLWade (74)
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9 Mar 10
Voice. Well that's a good and rare attraction. Now you come to think of it I do like the voice of Pierce Brosman when he is playing in 007 :P
@nekonette (28)
• Brunei Darussalam
6 Mar 10
Alright. To me, what attracts me to men is his personality. Of course looks is also a factor but personality comes first. He may be a super model, but if he bores me, I'd leave him for sure. The man I'm with now, has a great personality. he's charming, romantic, witty, possesses a strong sense of humour, and most importantly, knowledgeable.
@KelsieLWade (74)
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7 Mar 10
I understand what you are stating, that if the person's personality is boring you won't become attracted to them emotionally, you are just satisfied with the looks. Which again with my point, looks are a first impression but as soon at you start to 'bond' with the person, you will see what their true colours are.
I am very pleased that you have found that perfect man that makes you happy :D
@shaggin (72183)
• United States
5 Mar 10
A really good looking man is sure something that catches my attention but it goes a lot deeper then that if I would really be interested in them. I'm 26 and I really like older guys. I love 40 & 50 year olds. I dont know what it is but its an instant turn on to be around men of that age. I love a guy with long eye lashes and a beautiful eye color it makes you want to stare into their eyes forever. More then looks and anything else I am turned on by peoples personalities. If they can make me laugh they stand a much higher chance of men liking them.
@KelsieLWade (74)
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5 Mar 10
Exactly. I understand your opinion to the full. Looks are the first thing you see and get pulled in with. Personality is definitely a good thing, like you said making each other laugh and becoming interested is what gives you great feeling about them.
You might feel more comfortable around men that age or may feel that they are more mature and have more experience about life, whatever it is, hopefully you will find out why soon lol.
I agree with the long eyelashes and eye colour, but there's one more important target that sends me into heaven....their smile lol.
Thanks for responding Shaggin
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
5 Mar 10
Personality, intelligence, kindness, eyes, smile and voice...
@KelsieLWade (74)
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5 Mar 10
Great! Yeah, I must admit they get me too lol.
Thanks for responding Dawnald
@Cutie18f (9546)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
Definitely,it is how you look that attracts others first. We need to take care of our appearance so others will not see anything dirty or bad about how we look. The opposite s*x usually gets attracted by what they see. Then that is the time they want to be introduced to that person. Then how you interact is also important. Otherwise if it is just appearance and there is nothing more to it, then it is not good enough "bait". There should be "substance" to beauty as well.
@KelsieLWade (74)
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5 Mar 10
I think I understand what you are saying.
If you don't mind I'm just going to explain it into my words to understand it better.
So, what your saying is to attract or impress the opposite gender, most of us usually make ourselves look interesting such as make up, clothes, etc. Also, you want to make the opposite s*x more interested in you by making your speech and interests more interesting.
Yeah, I mean when I first met my Boyfriend, I was afraid of him not thinking I was pretty or interesting. I did for the first few months become more interested into his hobbies and get more involved with his choice of lifestyle.
Is this correct Cutie18f?
