I do not know how i can help my best friend, i can t make her to talk !!
By marianna45
@marianna45 (1399)
Romania
March 6, 2010 6:27am CST
It is very difficult, i love her a lot,i really care about her, is my model for life, is a remarkable woman, is an absolutely amazing sincerity is beautiful, smart, proper, is an excellent mother, and rarely i saw a friend like her, but I can not understand, I can not do something to make her to talk with me about what she feel, what she want, why she is now in a deep depression.She say that she is ok, does not want to admit she has a problem, something happens to her, that needs to remove out all the pain of her soul.
All the time when I had a problem she was there, listen to me, support me, caressing me.I know her for many years, she was like a sister for me when I needed a shoulder to cry, she was there.
Although she is very strong, always has been stronger than those around her, and she was single parents, she have a business that is not a dependent by anyone, now I feel it is weak, i sense that she lost trust in people, it seems that just does not trust me ..
In the last year she lost someone very important in her life, and it seems that this has affected a lot, and was betrayed by someone waiting too.
Furthermore I do not know, do not let me go beyond the wall on which she build around her
Step by step, she cut all relations with people around her, don t want talk, don t want comunicate, she only work, and work again.
How i can help her? I need advices, i need somebody tell me what i must to do in this situation, she learn me how i must ask a question when i come in this site, so...now i will ask; what i can do for my friend?
3 responses
@marianna45 (1399)
• Romania
6 Mar 10
I'm afraid that if I not do something, she will be more deep in her stubbornness to not to talk about what a knead. I am angry now because she knows all the time how to help me how to make me to talk about what is in my soul, but I don t know now to enter in her world.
@ralphido (842)
• India
7 Mar 10
you see.. the problem is not with her.. you are angry at yourself for not being able to understand her properly..k. lets start from beginning.. all you know is she is having a hard time and she is unwilling to let you in on her pain.. give her a change from her daily routine.. just take her somewhere she likes or would like to go..do not bring that subject forward no matter what.. just keep her distracted from whatever it is bothering her.. at least for some time.. that way, at least you could ease her pain a bit.. and if she really thinks you care about her..she will let you in sooner or later...
@krisnel (498)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
she need some time to think about her problem. the best thing that you can do is never stop communicate with her. you should always support her. text her with some quotation that could make her good. you are the only one who could help her. because you know her.
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@marianna45 (1399)
• Romania
6 Mar 10
I speak with her every day , i communicate, but she determines what to communicate, we talk about anything, except about the problems that she have.
However it appears they i am lucky, out of work and family she speaks only to me ... but only what she wants to talk, even refused to use the internet and liked it so much here. i must to find something to make her to talk, to give out what grind herself.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
7 Mar 10
Hi Marianna... I think your friend needs a lot of counselling or something like that. What astonishes me is that that she refuses to talk about her grief to you. The way you have described your relation, tells me that you've been very very close friends- best friends! As far as I know ladies, a woman never hide any grief of her from her best buddy..
Maybe she thinks that she should not make you worry about her private life.. I suggest you take her into your confidence. Tell her how you appreciate her and like her and care for her. Tell her that you think that you're sisters to each other... Let her know that you understand her and care for her... That will break the ice, I believe... Let us know, how it goes... :)