Would you give away your child due to superstition?

I have no idea how she make her decision! I hear about this because it was the Chinese New Year last month. It is part of tradition to have a reunion which is logical and I will follow. It is in that reunion that the relatives, and my boyfriend's aunts met and catch up with each other. I can't imagine if that grandaunt gave her child away to a stranger instead? Won't she lose her child forever...

I agree with that newtalent I can only imangine once the twins find out what happened it's going to affect them in one way or another....

Yeah i have a friend that was in a similar situation (not a twin-but given to family member) and she is a mess. Did great in school, honors. Understands why it happened and all. She cannot kick the feeling of not being able to live with her parents and that they just gave her away to another family member to raise her as their own perse. She lost so much that to this day she has a void that has ruined relationships, trust, and second guesses her self and ability to do things that she knows she can do, ( second guesses) but not in front of people. She needs no one and will not depend on none. She has left her family as she knew it behind her. You can see her pain if you are with her long enough... It's sad in what people do and not think about the ramifications of their actions and the long term effect it will have on another person let alone themselves. Funny things is therapy and meds if needed cannot help you if you do not let go of what has happened to you and accept the things that you had no control over. Would that pain be worth a superstition? Its hard and I would not want to be in her shoes.

Oh my god... You are not serious, are you? Avoiding a disaster? We are talking about humans here, not tigers. Even if the twins don't get along since young, there is still no reason to keep them apart! We being humans, adapt to the environment. We people change. I don't believe there will be a disaster. There can never be lasting anger between family, let alone twins, after all they are all connected by blood. I have to admit there might be occasional disagreements but who doesn't? Unless it's foretold that one of them would die if they are kept together, then i might understand. just because their zodiac is tigers is apparently ridiculous. Sorry, I don't agree with you on this account.

i still can't understand the olden days... no rhythm or reason sometimes. My grandma was just being angry with me because I wore black yesterday while we gathered to celebrate her birthday! I prefer the "now" and i agree with using education to teach and guide our younger generation.

That will be common if one is still in the olden days.. BUt in this present day and time, who cares so much about all these superstitions right?? haha =D If really, my child are both borned like that, then it's up to us, parent's responsibility to teach them well, and make sure they get along.. hehe

The thing is that people know that these superstitions are false and yet they fall prey to it, because of the weakness of human mind. I don't know if there is any logic in any superstition! I may sound stupid, but I really didn't understand the example of spring cleaning, that you've put here...

Some people believe that cleaning the house, clearing or throwing away some of the redundant stuff you have at home will meant or symbolize "throwing away" the bad luck or bad "stuff" that you may have "collected" unintentionally over the past year. Psychologically, this is right as cleaning up your space might make you feel better, in turn makes you feel good about yourself. Which will result you being positive in things you do. But all this is in the mind. Let me see if I can find a link to an example of this online.

I don't think superstitions are going to leave us... They will be bond to have some logical ones that would survive the generations... Like for example, spring cleaning before the year ends would bring good luck in the coming year.

You will not be able to see wild animals in Bali's volcano. If you want to see wild animals, you have to go Japan, Switzerland, New Zealand and other places. Japan will have Bears, Deers, etc.Switzerland will also have Deer, Snow Mountains and Tigers.

lol.. I know. I just need to save up on the trips I have always wanted to go on... A dream that need time to be fulfilled.

Great! Real life examples of 2 people of the tiger zodiac living fine together, getting along well... Real life tigers?? nope, definitely not me... I have not been to a mountain before.. Have tried climbing a volcano in Bali once, but no wild animals there..

apparently, my boyfriend's great grandaunt believes it. I still can't imagine the mother's feeling of giving her child away. I wonder how she feels then... it sure is stupid and naive.

apparently, self beliefs are not encouraged back in those days. Like how men have the right to do things over women in the past. Luckily, those beliefs are dying off.

Too bad for the twins.. What done is done...

It doesn't make sense to me as well. I have no idea how that grandaunt survive to have one of her kid away from her since baby..

You don't have to worry. They still meet up but not as often as how a normal sisters should be. Only on reunions and family gatherings. They sure can't return to those years where they lose while growing up, especially they are twins... I think they bound to lose some bond between them. I wonder if they still look the same...

You are right. God will not give you a child if you are not worthy of it... I can only say, people and beliefs of those days are can be quite scary...

Basically! These type of hearsay can only be used as a reference but never a belief... But for the older generations of Chinese, they believe in zodiacs... Each year, each month and each hour is a different animal. Similar to horoscopes. Luckily this type of tradition is dying out.. Otherwise my generation has lots to follow..

Well said! That grandaunt is healthy as an ox when she gave her twin girl away. Luckily illogical chinese traditions are dying out... I won't give my baby away. I would rather not give birth in the first place if I do not have the ability to take care of her.

I know what you mean! I can't totally blame on this.. It's our generation that brings about this type of hearsay... Women in the chinese society then wasn't suppose to be educated.