undeclared child

i think if he really loves his wife, he wouldn't mind her undeclared child. i know, it is painful to be felt betrayed by the woman you trust, but if he can bear the pain and still save the marriage, i think he should try it. i myself have a daughter with my past relationship, but even before my husband courted me, he already knows about my child, and still choose to pursue me, and eventually we got married. though we have a different situation with your friend because he doesn't know about his wife's child. i guess, they need to talk about it, and he must listen with her explanation. if still, he could not accept her explanation, then i think, that would be the time he will give up.

The biggest problem here is that she chose to be dishonest with him rather than telling him so that he could choose whether or not he wanted to take on the responsibility of a child. I think though that he should take a step back and consider why that should change his love for her. The first step is to sit down with her and asking some very hard questions about the child. Is she hiding a marriage from him? Was she the victim of a violent act and the result was this child? And most importantly, he needs to ask her why she lied to him. Lies are not a good foundation for a marriage. Will he be able to trust anything else that she has to say to him?