Who should get the children in a divorce?

The thing is taht a child is not a property, a child is a human being. If parents are not up to the responsability of rasing a child together, than don't have a child. Divorces are extremeley stressful on kids expecially if they are young and don't udnerstand many things. The child should always alternate between the aprents and they must always get together on weekends because a family needs three people.

the child should be given to the person who'll be capable to nurture and care for the child. it doesn't necessarily mean that the child be with his mother since their some women who just gave birth but lousy in taking care of them. it will all comes down to who can take care of the child and give him a better future. you can be acquainted to your ex but i guess being friends after the divorce is going to be hard on both parties. it really depends on what happened, the reason why they got a divorce in the first the place, and if they can still threat each other well after the ordeal.

I'm a divorced mom raising two kids of a wide range apart.....From my understanding the judge generally awards the mother custody of the child/ren in the marriage and the father visitation unless the mother is prooved unfit.... I know how hard my seperation was on my kids and I was the parent who seemed to care and be there for them every waking minute and get them through this their father walked out on us almost 2 years ago......He has had NOTHING to do with my kids whatsoever no phone call not wanting to see them nothing....I've gotton a no access order for protection of my kids I gave my ex another chance we got back together after being apart when my son was a baby and well he showed his immaturities again....He walked in and out of my sons life for the better part of his life and I refuse to let that happen again.... So to answer the question I believe ME the mother deserves full cusody of my kids and that is what I have HappyMylotting.

Generally we see the child should be with mother.No doubt in that.But nowadays it is very difficult to believe in people.We don't know who is good whether the father or mother.For a certain period of age the child should be with mother.And then let the child decide when maturity comes.And for the next question I will never think of getting divorce if I get married.

When my parents separated, my mother reared us. When we reached the age of 12 we were called by the court and was again asked to whom we wanted to go. Of course we chose our mother. I think mothers should get the children first. And if the child arrives in the age where he can decide then that's the time both parents must accept whatever the child's decision is.

I would note be friends with someone if they divorced me. Also, I agree the choice should be left with the child as child services is really not that good at decided what is right because they dont know the kids sircumstances.

I also think the child should decide that with whome he want to be....

After divorce custody of child should be with one to whom child is more attached.

I believe the custody should be split or the child should be with the parent who can better care for the child. Depending on the person, I could probably still be friends with the person after a divorce.