Should it be so difficult to adopt a child?

Well it could be faster i agree on that but there should be strict criteria about putative parents.You want the child to go somewhere where it is nice.So the criteria should be strict but the process of adoption could be lots faster

I agree with you about children being born to people who couldn't care and it is ashamed that children are being consistantly left in homes where they are abused. It should not be so hard for those loving people who really want to adopt. Sure they need to be checked out and a back ground check preformed but to keep them from adopting when so many children need their love and affection and many are left in homes or foster care until it is to late and the child turns to bad behavior because of the loss of affection.

No, it shouldnt be so difficult. It shouldn't be so expensive, either.

Well it could be faster i agree on that but there should be strict criteria about putative parents.You want the child to go somewhere where it is nice.So the criteria should be strict but the process of adoption could be lots faster

i dont think so.... I want to adopt a child when I get a bit more matured....Aneewayz... THanks for your question.... Its really nice to be here at mylot... are you guys here for money or just for fun....

I don't comprehend what all is really involved in the adoption process but it is my understanding that a lot of the safegards built into the process are to keep the child with his/her biological parents if at all possible. When a child is an orphan, I do think the rules governing the adoption process should be much easier to navigate but in situations where...say it is a child who has been in the Foster Care System and has both biological parents in the picture, but who, for whatever their reasons, are unable to care for their child properly, perhaps the extra dafegards in place are a good thing. If Mom and Dad's difficulties are...say lack of enough money to care for their child's needs, shouldn't we give them some leeway to get their lives in order? Caring and loving your children is a somewhat subjective thing....I love my children more than life and am very demonstrative about my love and affection and dote on them whenever I possibly can... My children have heard "I Love You" from me frequently all of their lives and I am very free with physical affection....but my next door neighbor, he/she may love their children every bit as much as I love mine but have a much more different way of expressing it. He may not say "I Love You" all the time, he may deem doting too much on them, is a matter of spoiling them and avoid it, thinking he is doing so in the child's best intrest....Not sure I am expressing what I am trying to say here well...just that because we are all so diverse, who is going to be the one to decide if parents really do care about their children or not? and based on exactly what? If you compare the way I relate to my children with that of my next door neighbor, who will judge which is the "right" way...so maybe, in the case of adoption, all the safegards are really a necessary evil.

I think there is a reason that it is so hard. I mean you cannot feel safe just giving a child to someone without making sure that they are fit parents. Of course children are born every day that people who couldnt care less about them, but the system is set up to make COMPLETELY sure that they are going to have someone who is going to care about them more than the world. I do not think it is difficult to get a child through adoption. I think it is a great screening process!

Naaaaaaaa it should be really easy for

I think that the adoption agencies should make the screening process as difficult as resonably possible. But that does not mean they should make adoption so expensive that only someone with money like Bill Gates has a fighting chance of adopting a child. I am not rich, but I have two (biological) children. I let my children know that they are loved everyday. In my opinion that is one of the most important aspects. Of course money plays an important part too. So we can provide a home, food, clothing, and so we can get a babysitter for our son when we visit our daughter (she's my avatar).

There is a fine line between test and torture and more often than not, the line is crossed indiscriminately. Seldom is seen the fact that the people to whom things matter are the ones discouraged by the red tape. I am not saying let kids be adopted easily. Not saying there should be no checks. Not saying it should be a free-for-all. That would be insane. But equally insane is the torture and stress one is put through in any sincere effort to adopt. Striking the right balance is something one can only wish for. And in the mean time, it continues to be a sad situation of adopting if you can afford to, rather than if you really mean to and want to. Sad.

I'm really glad they screen people. Everyone can give birth, not everyone can make a great parent.

Think about this. Would you rather have Charlie Manson HAVING a child, or adopting one that acctually had a CHOICE?