How do you control your nervous when you give a speech or others?

Hi Sophie, The following tips are very effective to me since i am into training and facilitation: 1. make sure you are prepared of what you are going to say infront of your audience 2. calm yourself by humming your favorite fast beat tune 3. deep breath and stretching exercise 4. pray for wisdom and guidance that you be able to deliver the message the way you want it to be. 5. affirm yourself that you can...you are the only person who knows what you're going to deliver.

When giving a speech, I use to practise what I was going to say in a mirror. I would do this many times, until I almost had it memorized. Before I actually spoke I would wiggle my arms and legs and turn my neck and do whatever I had to to relax. If you find yourself speeding up or getting nervous, during your speech, stop and take a breath. Breathe...relax...slow down. When I taught at the university, I also use to "act". Acting was easier for me (I'd done that many times as a kid in school plays), because somehow it wasn't me doing the talking. If you have to, "act" your way through the speech. Pretend you're someone else while giving the speech. Sounds stupid, but it worked for me.

practice makes perfect. the brain would have less burden to process if it is accustomed to what it would do. so, being nervous, wouldn't be that grave. what makes nervousness worse is the feeling of being shy or inadequate and not being prepared for whatever it is. the brain processes a lot of things because of this.

The only thing that I've ever been able to do so that I am able to give a successful presentation is to practice, practice, practice. I will give my speech in front of a mirror if I am in a room by myself. Or, if I am preparing for a speech in a room that is full of people I will just keep repeating it over and over again in my head because it makes me not lose my focus. Because I've memorized what I wanted to say before I get to the stage, it is easy for me to ignore the people around me and just say what I need to say.

Hey Girl, It's natural for almost everyone to be nervous when giving a speech in public. There was a time when this used to happen to me. I was so nervous that I used to be afraid just to show myself in public even in case of receiving rewards on the stage. But I've overcome it with much confidence. A book helped me in this concern which taught me that the amount of the the brain of the audience before me is not much more than mine. So, there's no reason to be afraid and nervous. The audience present are ready to listen, not to find faults. I should deliver my speech with ease and simplicity. That's the spirit. Have a successful day.

I'm not nervous about speeches and others~~it needs to practice, like often talk to the public~

You need to believe in yourself. Everyone suffers from stage frights no matter how much confidence you have in yourself. Though being confident that you are able to do the job helps you to accomplish it well. Regarding being afraid of speaking in a foreign language I would try to expose myself to listen to that language. I try to practise this language with close friends who would not make fun of me if I make a mistake. Hopefully they will correct me if I make a mistake.

I just don't focus on the fact I'm nervous. The only time I stammer is when I'm surprised...so I try my best never to be surprised. I'm not really shy, just not very social...and I frequently find myself in situations where I have to lie, so controlling my emotions and reactions is sortof a necessity o_o

Nearly everybody who has to do public speaking exeperiences nervousness, especially for the first few times they do it. I used to have the same problem and I started running self-potential development groups and had to address the group and it was natural for me to feel nervous. The way to deal with it, is to share it with the group, saying something like, "I feel very nervous talking to you all today..." or whatever words you would care to use. This breaks the ice and people in the group will recognize what you are saying because each one of them will feel the same way. They may be a few that will laugh in recognition to. As a therapist, I would sayt that what you cannot share with others, will get stronger. Share your nervousness openly, and you will master it. _Derek

Hi. I have the same problem too.I always nervous when i need give speech or present my assignment in front of many people. My friend always said my voice is very slow and that effect my mark of assignment. I ask my friend why they are not afraid when give a speech around many people but they said they were same with me! How can it be?? The solution they give to me is always make a good prepare before give or present a speech or assignment. I tried it and it works well. Thank you for my friend. I hope you can try too. Have a nice day.

Practice, practice, practice. Practice makes perfect so they say. Always bear in mind that nervousness is very normal. It happens to everyone, even to those considered as very good speakers. All you need to do is to get used to the habit of speaking in front of people. First, you can start with a friend, then maybe more than one person, until you will be able to speak in public. Never mind the jitters. That's normal. It will go away after giving the introduction of your speech.

I just close my eyes for a bit and think that no one is listening and then say it like I did when I practiced. I am also shy, but that usually works for me. Also, try talking more to people to lower your "shyness"

I am a student,I also have the problem ,when I standing on the stage or speak to the public ,I feeling there be nothing in my mind and getting very nervous . I had this problom long time ago. So I cannot give you advice.Sorry!

Hi, Sophie2010, I have the same problem before, but now, when i'm on the stage, i am not nervous. i remember clearly that when i first stand on a stage to give a speech, my legs are quivery, and my tongue totally twisted, i forgot my lines, so it was horrible. But it doesn't matter, maybe you'll have the same situation at the second time, the third time, please don't worry about it, when you stand on the stage at the fourth time, you'll change, finally you could overcome yourself, and speak to the public on the stage automatically.

Prepare your speech in full form and read through it again and again by way of rehearsing it.Then practise in front of the mirror.Keep the points in cogent order so thta oyu will not flounder. As you give more and more speeches your fear will leave you.All the best! Be confident thta you are going to speak well.Mind your body language and show enough confidence by standing straight , looking straight iat the audience ;this will all go a long way to improving you.

I was increasingly nervous and uncertain in my young days....now I am no more nervous because I have begun to realize the ultimate truth that none of us are perfect in any sense.

Prepare for it. I also get nervous whenever the spotlight's on me. Try writing about something you would be saying, BUT never memorize! Why? Because once you forget one word, you will start wishing to vanish. Always try to keep cue notes, so that just in case, you have something to remind you what to say next. If you can't, keep you speech short. In fact, you might want to avoid long sentences. Keep them short and simple, specially when you are speaking in a foreign language. Try to smile every now and then. Then practice in front of a mirror. You will see just how you look when you get nervous, and it will make you want to change that more. Try to look confident, without overdoing it. Another thing, a hanky can help you absorb that negative vibe away. Just dont make it too obvious, though. And dont drink or eat too much before speaking in front. :)

I never liked speaking in front of a lot of people. I always feel nervous but there are times that you really have to do it especially that I am a teacher, sometimes I am asked to conduct a meeting in front of other teachers and parents. I could never overcome that kind of fear in me but there are a lot of ways to do to control ourselves and not feel nervous.I bring a bottle of water, it helps me control my nerves when I do that and also holding a coin. The coin usually just have a psychological effect but it helps.

actually I'm a shy person too. I don't like to speak in front of other people. I also can't enjoy myself if I walk alone in the crowd. of course I don't like either to give speech in front of others. I can't deliver good speech both with preparation or no preparation. my body will shaky and my heart beats so fast. I lose all words I memorized before. and you know what, it kills me. I really don't like delivering a speech. so, I'm so sorry, friend, I could not give you any suggestions how to manage our nervous when we deliver a speech.

Hello Sophie :) when I just started university I used to be so nervous when talking to the public. Luckily, we had so many reasons to talk on stage, finally I can deal with my nerves. It's not that difficult as it looks. The most important thing is to know what you are going to say very well. So even if you can't remember your text you can say what you wanted to in other words. It's also important to start talking loud and not too quick. After a few sentences you'll get more confidence and finishing your speach will be easy :) talking about foreign language..I used to be shy talking in English till I decided to go abroad for the summer. I chose to go work to England and got a lot of experience. Have no problems now dealing with this issue. Don't forget that foreign people should be happy you are trying to learn. even if your language is really broken they will understand what you are trying to say. Talking in foreign language is one of the most important things while learning. So don't keep your knowledge to yourself :) Good luck ;)