Are you Afraid your children to Grow Up and face the real World?

Hi WillieSantos, As a parent I can sure understand your feelings. Still, you have to remember that it is our job as parents to raise them in a way that they will be able to face the real world and survive in it on their own when the time comes. Yes, the world is full of all sorts of harmful things. We have to teach our kids how to deal with and avoid these things and then pray that we've gotten through to them. If your daughter is not allowed to experience anything then she will be lost when she finally does. It is good that you want to know where she is at and have phone numbers but it sounds as if you are maybe carrying it a bit too far and she will feel that you don't trust her or her judgment which could affect her confidence in herself. Either that or she could become resentful and rebel. Your daughter is old enough to be allowed a little more freedom. I know it is hard to watch as a parent but it's important. In a couple of years she'll be an adult. You really don't want her to venture out into the world completely clueless right?

Your actions are totally understandable. I have kids too my daughter is 5 and my boy is 3. If you'll gonna ask me I don't even want my children to grow up and witness the cruelty of this world. If you observe the children they are so peaceful in their world of play. I'm very afraid too when the time comes that they'll grow and they'll gonna have their own activities. But at the same time I don't want to be too strict as well not to give them a little bit of freedom. Parents are always torn right? I don't want to say what your doing is wrong coz I might be like that too when they reach that age. But probably just don't overdo it. Sometimes if the children don't enjoy a little freedom they also rebel from their parents. In my case, I just want to establish friendship between me and my kids so they would trust me and they would continue to include me in their world. I want them to be open to me and not to be afraid to share things with me. I guess if you have this kind of relationship with your kids they are more likely to follow you not because they are afraid but because they respect you. But I know it's easier said than done. Good luck to us both! Welcome in MyLot.

We have 3 boys not yet in school & I do worry alot. I hope they live a balanced life, I worry we will do something wrong to tur them down a bad path, or gosh forbid someone hurts them. Its a harsh world out there at times & its hard to know if we are going the right way. With our love as a familky unit I hope we can blindly lead them in the right direction. As a parent you never know what to expect because every day can be a new journey of trials & tribulations & you really don't know what will happen. All we can do is to try our best & provide the best love & care for our children & know we will always love them

I also have a daughter, friend. she's only three years old. she is so beautiful (almost people admit it. LOL). she's tall and has good shape. and of course I'm really anxious to the teenager relationship today. I'm afraid that I couldn't give good life basic to my little girl. I'm afraid that someday she will act like those teenagers. I'm almost afraid of anything. but my husband convinced me not to be worry. we should do the best, prepare her to face a wild world. if all my fear comes true, it beyond our ability to predict. at least we have done the best since beginning.

There are times that we need to let go and that's why as early as now we need to prepare ourselves for it because sometimes the things that we are doing now maybe the reason that we can let go of something so starting from now, step by step start thinking how will they feel and always consider whats the worst thing will happen. It only shows that you are a good father and I believe that your daughter also recognized that as well so enjoy your time with her coz time fly really fast.

As of the moment, i can't really discuss this topic as a parent since i'm still single. But I understand your feeling with this since I can see it the way my parents raise me and my siblings. There are times that they are really strict but sometimes not. They just want to witness that their children is in a good path. I admit my parents are overprotective but I'm aware that it's for my own good. Parents are afraid that their children grow and face the real world but we can't stop it, we need to help them understand what's happening in reality. But in a way that they will not take it against you or be rebellious in the end. There must be rules and limitations set by the parents but it must be agreeable with children.