Do you have a mistake that you think has ruined your entire Life?
@tigerlily1972 (502)
Germany
March 7, 2010 8:28am CST
I have a friend who has not done anything anymore in her Life since she gave birth to her daughter out of wedlock. She is sour and remained so until today. She's now in her mid 50s and remained so helpless as ever. She can't hold jobs for long time or make good neighbors. She'll always end up in trouble with them. Worst is she can't even pay for her hse rental. Without the help of her siblings, she has nowhere to live.
I have actually tried everything to help her back on her feet again but all in vain. Does anyone of you can share a good suggestion ... i would be thankful.
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5 responses
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
22 Mar 10
first she need to stop blaming because she had a baby. she should have taken steps to keep from getting pregrant. second she need to stop having self pitty on herself and go out and be a woman and take care of her business.
i would tell her if she was one of my friends or family. get off your butt go and take care of your business, like taking care of your baby. she need you and she didnt ask to be born. be woman enough
@tigerlily1972 (502)
• Germany
22 Mar 10
you are right. But not all matured women have matured. A few remained like a kid. This is when the problem arises. Thnx for sharing your thought.
@recycledgoth (9894)
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7 Mar 10
First of all, well done for trying to help out hun.
I am wondering if this lady has some kind of mental or emotional disorder, perhaps she has been struggling with this condition for years and either hasn't recognised it or has ignored it. I would suggest either a doctor or therapist might be able to help
@tigerlily1972 (502)
• Germany
7 Mar 10
your replies confirmed what i thought of my friend... i also think she is mentally or emotionally disturbed. Oh..:-(
i appreciate all the replies - thnx
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
4 Aug 10
Well i havenot made any mistakes, but i always learn from my small mistakes.
@rosegardens (3032)
• United States
7 Mar 10
It sounds as though your friend may be suffering from an emotional or mental disorder of some type. The fact that she can't seem to keep peace around her home and hasn't done anything to improve her life since having her child suggests there is something going on that you are unable to fix.
She needs to see a counselor, a therapist of some type to dx her.
Kudos to you for helping your friend. That is awesome!
@hofferp (4734)
• United States
7 Mar 10
Sorry, I can't really think of anything. A good minister might be able to help her forgive herself and to move on, but it sounds like she wouldn't take that advice. There comes a point when you just can't help a person help themselves. Maybe this is the point.
