What is the most important thing in marriage?
By p3ks626
@p3ks626 (6538)
Philippines
March 7, 2010 8:57am CST
These days, fewer and fewer people want to get married. Some would just consider living with their partner without being married and not take the responsibility of being a husband or being a wife, much more on not being a parent. Only a few people these days think that marriage is important. What is really important about it anyway why do we have to be married?
5 responses
@babyEj (1522)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
Uheemm! OF COURSE YES marriage is important. It tied up husband-GOD-wife together in ceremony boldly announcing to the public that you are bonded with YOUR MAN or WOMAN. However, there are people who are hindered to get marry for the meantime, half of their lives and or forever for certain matters. Example, financial stability is one reason, forbidden by parents,in-laws and or chances,fidelity issues and many more. I wont also say that just not being married may mean disregarding your duty and responsibility as a wife to husband and a husband to wife even indeed as parents to children because I never even think of it.. What makes a relationship run through with or without blessing is your LOVE with each other. But I hope in very soon this LOVE will be blessed.
hahahah! whatta serious topic p3ks626....
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
So maybe some people are just being hindered by a lot of things and these things are keeping them from getting married. There is a right time for everything I guess and we should never try to stop working out for what we want to happen in our lives. Its a good thing is some people's marriage are just being hindered for the mean time cause that means there is still a big possibility of getting married in the future. However, we should never lose track of what we want to happen and always strive to do out best for the good of everything. 
@iayunyun (3)
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7 Mar 10
I am a married woman. As far as I am concerned the marriage is not good for a woman especially the one with no income. Right now I am a full time housewife, I have to take care of my 1 year old baby, take care of food, bills, cooking, washing, cleaning. I feel so tired at end of the day. Sometime I need a positive comments from my husband, however I never get one. In his opinion those jobs are what i should do. So I am here to warn those girls who plan to give up job when getting married not to quit your job!
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
I think being a full time mom is a very difficult thing to do but also the most rewarding. My sister is married for over 10 years now and she wishes she need not to work anymore because she wanted to spend all of her time taking care of my nephews. She wants to devote her time being a mother and a wife. As far as I am concerned, your baby is still a year old and the baby definitely needs you to take care of him since he's still very young. Maybe its going to get boring at first because as you said that's what you're feeling now but I know that being mother is something that we do that's also noble. I thing you are blessed to have your baby and blessed with the time that you spend with him. I am married but I dont have a baby yet. When I would have a baby, I am still going to work but spend more time with him and my family.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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7 Mar 10
I think that there are alot of people out there that are either in a hurry to get married or that they get married fast and then end up in a divorce,so i can see why alot of people choose to stay together without getting married.I think the not being married is nor a problem as there are alot of people that have a better relationship without having a bit of paper to say that they are married.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
In some countries cases like that happen but most couple just live together with their partners and not consider getting married. Choosing a partner whom you can b e with for the rest of your life and even longer than a lifetime is the one of the most important decision that you need to do in your life. That's why, getting married is such a big deal. Some people consider getting married early and get a divorce because the decision was too soon that they didnt even think of it first before getting married, some cases like this are forced to get married at a young age because the woman got pregnant and they still end up separated. Maybe, well just maybe these are some of the reasons why some people would decide not to marry anymore because things like this is a reality. So why is it that marriage is important? Marriage is important because it is ordained by God. The family is central to God's plan for His children and for His children to be sent here on earth, they should have a mother and father lawfully wedded as husband and wife because they play an important role in training up a child in a way that he should go.
@dilipmiester (932)
• India
7 Mar 10
When it comes to marriage, there are things that you are responsible for doing that are so important to the marriage's success. But, we could list an endless list of these things. Instead, though, let's talk about those things that are most important in marriage.
The most important aspect of marriage is communication. If you can not talk to your spouse, your marriage will have no room for growth. Communication builds trust as well. It is important to maintain a good trusting, marriage. Communicating your feelings and needs will keep your marriage pumping forward!
Another important thing in marriage is having a firm foundation. Like a building the foundation of a marriage is what keeps it from falling apart. The most important aspect really is what your marriage is built on. Your values, morals, and beliefs are the foundation for your marriage. If you and your spouse can't agree here, well, things are going to be shaking in your marriage.
Other things that are important in marriage include being understanding, honesty, and forgiveness. Without these things, your marriage will not survive long. Instead, you will constantly question your marriage foundations.
It is important to take into consideration all of these things. Marriage is built on trust, love, and friendship.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
Maybe that's one of the reasons why there are a lot of people who doesnt wanna get married anymore because they are afraid of these responsibilities that lie ahead of them. But for me, responsibilities are important because its a measure of your capabilities and you will have the idea about what you can do to others and to yourself. Its not something scary but its an opportunity to serve.
One of the reasons why couples fight is because of communication gap. A couple should know how to bridge this gap by listening not only to what was being said but listen to what was meant.
A foundation of all those values are important too but marriage is the union of tow different cultures together. I think it is expected that there will be a variation in the values that couples have and they have to adjust with it. I can only say, that the only sure foundation that we can have is God where all the values that we need to make a relationship work would be carried. It is always important to put God at the center of a relationship. Someone ones told me that in finding a mate, you should look someone who loves God more than he would love you.
