My kids are driving me crazy!!!

United States
March 7, 2010 8:59am CST
I'm a mother of three. One is 4 one is 3 and one is 1. They are always up under me and don't really wanna be bothered with anyone else. They love their daddy time, when he comes home from work they run up to him jump all around him give him hugs and scream, "Daddy, Daddy!!" but once they're done with that which is usually only about 15 to 20 minutes of parading around him, it's back to me. I love, love, love my kids but being a full time stay at home mom, sometimes I want a break from them.And you'd think that I spoil them the way they act, but I'm tough on them and when they mess up, they're disciplined. I even have them doing homework everyday, they have a strict schedule up at 6 bed at 8. But nothing I do to try to get them to turn their focus else where works. You think they'd wanna watch t.v. or go play with their toys or each other. NO! They spend about 10-15 minutes at a time away from me and then they're on a quest to find me and see what I'm doing. I can't even take a shower without them busting in asking some crazy off the wall question. And my 4 year old is the worst. He was supposed to start preschool this past year, but because he wouldn't stop crying at school about me leaving him there the teacher said he couldn't stay. Now he's to start kindergarten and he has to go, and I wanna get back in school and get a job. How am I gonna get these kids to go to daycare when they're still attached at the hip???
6 responses
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
7 Mar 10
Hello, I am a mother also. I have two children, 5 years and 2 years. they are so much busy for and you know what... they sound almost the same like your children. Whenever their daddy comes home, they will play with him and after that ME ME again. you know what? I can't even close the bathroom door, the a little has to be in there with me... watever I do in there, she is waiting. when I cook, she starts to play around me and doesn't leave me at all. My 5 years old always play with her and then they start to cry or fight over the same stuff they have... sometimes, I just want to go away for like an hour without them but I just can't cuz they stick with me like glue. But sometimes, I enjoy my time with them ... it is just the way kids do... and I dont understand why either. My 5 went to Preschool and first time, she did cry but later on... she loves it. I think you should try to bring her to see those children... ask her if she wants any friends and play at the playground all day? she might like it. my little always wearing backpack and she told me that she wants to go to school.
• United States
7 Mar 10
It's like we're living the same life!!! The cooking story, no privacy in the bathroom. My son is warming up to the idea of school since his cousin is in kindergarten. So I'm hoping things will work out, but as far as taking him around other children more, GREAT IDEA!!! Gotta try it, maybe take him to the park or something like that so he can start interacting with other children and not just his cousins. Thanks.
• United States
7 Apr 10
HI, thx for marking me as Best respond. I didn't check this for like months... lolz. so how is everything with u? my 2 is getting bigger and getting badder. lolz... like today, I was doing something on computer and I turned around, she pulled my coffee cream all over the floor. and when she wants to sleep... she just come and sit on me, dont let me do anything. oh if u are talking about play ground... my daughters won't come home, they would do just anything to stay there... now, Im scare to drive around play ground area. lolz... when they go to school, oh my god... u are going to like it. and a lot more work to do. lolz... good luck to u and me
7 Mar 10
Hello superwomanof3, welcome to mylot. I thought I had it tough with an eight year old and a two year old. My youngest is just like your three kids, clingy to the core. The only reason I'm on here right now is because I put her down for an afternoon nap. I have to say I don't envy your situation, having three kids under the age of five must be difficult at the best of times. You are just going to have to be persistent and strong. Is there nobody you could ask to come into the house and look after them for you for a little while. I think every good mum needs a break, I bet the only break you ever get is when your in bed and asleep, that's the only break I ever get! I hope to see more of you aroung mylot soon! :)
• United States
7 Mar 10
I have 2 sisters and sometimes they'll visit with my one sister but they don't listen to her because she spoils them, and so I don't like them to be around her too much because they come back out of control. Other than that, I have no friends because my husband chased them all away. And the grandparents work all day and want no babies at night!
• India
8 Mar 10
Sitting at a distance, I’m tempted to say ‘how sweet of your kids’…but I know exactly what you are going thru. I’d think its one of the disadvantages of being a full time mom and like you, I too have my times when I feel like oh God…when is all these going to end (and I have only one child)…this in no way means that we love our kids any less but there’s a limit to everything…even a mother’s patience. But I do think that you kids are more attached to you than normally , coz children usually with so little gap between them tend to stick to each other playing and doing other stuff and usually leave the mother alone! I think you need to seriously take this up otherwise school would definitely be a problem…you don’t you start ignoring them a little…I mean keep an eye from a distance but next time they descend on you for something, just be firm that you are busy doing something else so they have to do it themselves…of course they’ll cry the roof off but be firm and don’t budge! Even if your heart melts, tell yourself that you are ignoring them for their own good…they have to learn to be away from mamma’s apron and mamma wont be there for them all the time. Also if you have any neighbourhood kids of similar age, you can encourage your kids to go out and play and mix with them more.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
Yes, being a full time mother is tiring, but remember it's also rewarding! my son is turning 4 this coming october, and yes sometimes i feel drain cos of him..he's such a hyper boy, but am thankful cos he is very smart and very healthy... that's our duty as a mother friend, to take good care of our children.. be grateful cos u have a healthy children,..you are their superwoman
• Mexico
8 Mar 10
i am father of one, she is 2. nut she is very pretty and affectionate, but is very naughty, she runs around the house, throwing everything. but i love her.
• India
7 Mar 10
Please pray to God ask His help and grace. Children reward from God. We my need to put lots effort in upbringing them. If its possible it is good to visit good counseling doctor