I want another baby but!!!
By KATEGREGORY
@KATEGREGORY (187)
March 7, 2010 9:46am CST
Hello,
I already have 3 (Beautiful)Children and I've just lately got this deep down erge to have another 1 I believe its the feeling of wanting to mother again(does that sound right!)
The problem I have is that my eldiest 2 are from another relationship, and my youngest is my partners(who I am with) my partner as always known that I would love to have 4 children and I have always made this clear to him and up until 3 days again he has told me he doesn't want any more children due to not wanting to share his love with anyone else!!!!
I was shocked I now feel like I'm dying inside I don't know what to do I can't see myself being able to just give up on what I want....I feel like we are both wanting different when it comes to children and I also think it's un fair that if I give up on this idea of another baby he will get what he wants.....
Please advise me!!!
Thank in advance
Kate
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7 responses
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
8 Mar 10
Difficult situation the one that you explain. Having kids is a decision that must be taken between two, so the best thing for you both is to speak deeply and long about that until you reach the best conclusion. It sounds weird that "not wanting to share my love with someone else" sentence, so probably there's something more behind it.
Speaking is always the best way 
@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
9 Mar 10
That is great advice and communication is a main key to any relationship! I also suggested that she really soul search and think about why she really wants another baby. Sometimes women think they want babies when it's really to try and fill a void for something else. BUT your right talking about it is the main thing!
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
For me the rule of the wife is to follow what the husband said because he is the head of the family when you get married so that you family is became clean in the eyes of the God Jehovah follow his rule that the wife must subject to the husband is you follow then you make happy to Jehovah God because the family is both happy to.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Mar 10
It sounds to me like the two of you need to sit down and have a long conversation about your desires. Before I met my husband, I thought that I wanted to have at least three children. However, when the two of us first met, we did talk about children early in our relationship and we came up with the compromise that we would have children, at least two. If the second child was the opposite gender of the first child then we would be done. We now have a daughter and a son and I couldn't ask for more. I'm surprised that I feel so fulfilled with just two children.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
i guess you really have to respect his idea to void any arguments. besides you already have 3 kids. so maybe you can count your husband as your fourth kids too, you will only feel bad if you think about having another kids so just let it be unless he will be the one to open it. of course you also have to think of financial matter as life is getting harder now a days. but then, if theres no problem with money and his just worried that if theres another baby im sure you will lost your interest to him as your attention will just for your baby and for your other 3 kids already and nothing left for him.maybe he think that you cant give them all your equal attention. anyway, just be contented with your 3 kids and your husband as of now and wait, who knows that osmedy he will change his mind. but dont just pressure him or he will only get irritated. thats only my opinion.
@kaylachan (70129)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
8 Mar 10
I know how difficult this may be. I am in a simular situation too. I mean to be quite honest. But, most of its my conflictiong emotions on the subject in general. However, I will tell you this... you need to sit down and talk with your partner. If you don't then you'll just be miserable which won't do you any good. Perhaps he is scared of the idea of raising another child. I mean that's how mine is. He thinks he's too old.
@avizmanos888 (149)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
Having more than 3 kids is already tough in this economy. Sure, mother instincts kick-in but you have to think of their future. Can you provide them a good life with all the sky-rocketing expenses? If you are wealthy then go ahead. If not, please give this a very good thought.
@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
7 Mar 10
My opinion would be to do a lot of soul searching. Think about why it is that you want another baby, and if your really sure that it is a good reason, then think about your relationship with your partner. I agree that if you really want another baby that you shouldn't not do it just for him, but at the same time if he doesn't want another one you shouldn't make him either! Sooooooo in conclusion my advice would be to REALLY soul search and find out what means more to you ... another baby or your partner!
