To Be Or Not To Be Guilty...
By KelsieLWade
@KelsieLWade (74)
March 7, 2010 12:42pm CST
The story goes something like this.
Me and my best mate Keeley, both planned a night out together with our boyfriends. We have both been really excited about this night, we just couldn't wait. I bought my self a nice dress, jewellery, shoes, the works! We arranged that I would be at her boyfriend's house for half 8. At 8pm my phone was ringing and it was keeley asking me if she didn't mind me paying for four cabs tonight which mathematically it would have costed me £40. Well, the problem is I only had £60 to spend, so basically that leaves me to pay for me and boyfriends 2 drinks.
Unfortunately, the plan didn't work out as I didn't agree on paying for the taxis but mentioned that I was happy to go another time when I have more money which will be pay day. She isn't happy with me. Should I be feeling guilty? Was I in the wrong? :(
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3 responses
@jwfarrimond (4473)
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7 Mar 10
Sounds to me as if she's trying to take advantage of you...the thin edge of the wedge. You know the saying, give them and inch and they'll take a a mile? (Or should it be centimetere and kilometre these days? 
) I don't think that you should be feeling guilty.
) I don't think that you should be feeling guilty. 1 person likes this
@KelsieLWade (74)
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9 Mar 10
Aww thank you, yeah my boyfriend thinks that she is taking advantage and personally I wouldn't have minded doing it because that's the way I am. I am unfortunately too generous lol. Thanks very much for the advice.
@Beautyfactor (1512)
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7 Mar 10
Why should you be feeling guilty. It's right that you did not agree to pay for the four taxis, why should you anyway. You did the right thing. perhaps if your friend is angry with you, she should have made sure she had enough money for the taxis herself. Don't worry about it, your friend will get over it.
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@KelsieLWade (74)
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7 Mar 10
Thats exactly what my boyfriend just said, I just can't help feeling the night didn't go to plan because of me.
Thank you, hope she does.
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@AnnieOakley1 (5596)
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8 Mar 10
No, I do not think you should feel guilty, I think your friend should feel guilty for trying to make you pay for all the cabs for everyone. I mean, why would you have to pay them all? Was 1 person going to pay for everyone's drinks, 1 to pay the cabs, etc? Usually, each person pays their share, or each couple pays their share, etc. If someone offers to pay for some part of the evening's entertainment that is their perogative, but you certainly shouldn't be made to feel guilty about not being able to afford to pay for everyone's cabs all night. Maybe I've got it wrong, if so, please correct me.
@KelsieLWade (74)
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9 Mar 10
Exactly, if they can't afford to get there and back what's the point of going? Sadly, she cannot understand that. I used to be really generous with my money, but that is where I made loads of mistakes by not being able;e to treat myself. Because, for once I say no she doesn't like it. Your true I shouldn't be feeling guilty. Thank you.
