Forgive or not to forgive?

Hi Kaye Bee, Such men do not deserve to be called men, just because they are capable to make us pregnant that does not give them the right to be called as man, A man stands for responsibility, integrity and unconditional love & support, the man you are talking about does not deserve any chance, second chance or third chance or totally out of the way.

Do you know that song by Leanne Rhimes that goes like this "shame on you if you fool me once, shame on me if you fool me twice". I cant remember the title of the song but it makes sense because for me, if I am being cheated once then after forgiving, it doesnt mean that I can already give 100% of your trust to that person. Sometimes when we trust, we also need to think about ourselves too. Dont give everything especially if the person cheated on you already. I think I am a bad person if I say this but it is one way for me not to get so hurt if something like this happen. When you have been hurt, the pain might go away but the scar is always there. Try to forget but also try to remember the lesson that you learned from the experience.

Not to forgive and curse him , he had taken your love forsaken.

if im the women then i will be stupid to forgive him, maybe for the kids sake but not to the point of accepting him to be part of my family again. i dont care if his living with a lot of women out there but his nothing to me anymore. besides theres a lot of guys out there so why still choose him. thats only my own opinion, i just hate those kind of guy feeling that they are the only guy on earth. and so i just want to slap his face by telling him that his just a dot compare to other man.

No I think I would never forgive that person because I hate cheaters.

Had i been in the situation, i can not forgive the person as he has cheated again and even not bother about two son. I will sure curse him

It would be very hard to forgive someone for this especially treating my children as nothing. I would not worry about cursing him, he has already done that to himself. Without the dark thoughts of harm coming to him your heart will stay clean. Just turn all that anger into passion for a good life for you and your children!!

is this for real? well, i will never forgive a cheater. maybe soon in god's time, forgive his deeds but i will never ever accept him in my life again.

if god can forgive why cant i. i will forgive him for all the things that he have done to me. but i will never accept him to be my husband again. i will never curse him let the god do anything on him. i believe in karma, whatever bad things that he done will back to him.

Hello, If there are two choices, either forgiving or cursing, I would definitely go for forgiving. There is no other alternative. Cursing him will only make you more irritated. One should forgive not for the sake of the person who is forgiven, but for the sake of one who is forgiving. Anger only harms the person who inhibits it. Forgiving is also essentially the first step to forget. There is no need to tolerate injustice, but there is no need to keep the grudge either. I know its always difficult to forgive, but this is the sole thing that can bring peace to a troubled soul. God bless you

Treating the children like that - I couldn't stand that. Cheating is at second place, but if he had such attitude to the kids - cheating wouldn't matter, because my decision will be already taken - he'll not have place in my life.

It would be understandable for a woman if she feels like cursing her husband. It would be very hard to forgive the man. But I hope if that woman you are referring to is non-fiction ... then she better start by forgiving herself. For letting those terrible things happen to her. Ultimately, she had and still have a choice. She can go on live that way, be treated that way or she can start anew with her precious kids.

unfortunately the one who made it once will do it again and when you're married is it worst.. (i'm single yet) I mean you have to recogniz these signals when you're having dates ... in your case i think you'd have to put an stop to this situation and stablish that you're not happy with this results... in other words.. make him feel as guilty as he decervs... and ask for a real solution.

I know a guy who is married and has children with two other women last i knew he took care of all of his children...I think if he treats your children different you should get rid of him he is obviously not gonna be a suitable father