Who works the hardest,the one who stays home or the one who goes out to work?

A farmer and his wife had been arguing about who's job was the most difficult. One day they decided to do each others job. Early that day, both woke up a little earlier even though they were still tired. They were excited because now they could prove to the other who had the most difficult job. Both were happy and went about doing their spouses work, confident the other would say that their job was hardest. He made breakfast, got the kids up, cleaned the house, cooked the meals etc. She went about feeding the animals and preparing the land for planting. After sunset and before the light was completely gone from the sky she went inside. Both of them looked a sight! Both disheveled and exhausted from the longest day they ever had. Their clothing was crooked, he had baby food in his hair and on his clothes and some other food. She looked as though she had been bathing with the pigs all day. Neither one was able to complete the job they had that day because it was too hard. They then began to argue: You have the hardest job! No, you have the more difficult job! until the wee hours of the morning............ The moral of the story: each works just as hard as the other. Wouldn't it be wonderful to be able to trade places with your husband for a day just so he could see what you go through?

Hi, good question, in one days i count in 20 years, as mother whenever I was to shopping, how many washed i dishes ,how many hundreds of kilograms of potatoes I cook ... and much more,is not a work difficult, but a job that never ends and never be recognized, no one knows how to work in a home, i will praise. At the same time, I worked outside too, in an office, so i have both kind of work experience.

Well, I've worked outside the home and also been a stay-at-home mom. Both times, I've found it hard for me. When I was working outside the home, I was also expected to do everything that was needed inside the home. All the cooking, cleaning, taking care of kids..everything. And at that time, I felt I was able to relax atleast for an hour at the workplace. I mean the expectations at my workplace was not as much as that at home and I would get a break there...while at home the work was never ending and with little kids, you can't really ask them to wait..or say 'Later'. When I quit my job and stayed at home, I thought I'd get more time to relax...which I think I would have got if the kids were going to school. But we decided to homeschool..and that makes it more work than if I was working outside the home...and no breaks at all. And my little one is 3...so I think for a couple of years more, it will be tough for me. I used to work at a school and so we had fixed schedules for our work...which I had to do no matter what. But at home, I feel I can do things as per my convenience. So, either ways, I was/am working full time. I can't compare who works harder because I don't see what my husband does when he goes out. Earlier, he got to relax when he gets home...but now he also shares the homeschooling part..so he does handle that...though not the other physical aspects of being a parent.

Bot my wife and I have jobs outside home. She has longer hours than I do although sometimes I have to do some work at home. Bot of us give a helping hand when it comes to house chores. I must admit that she does most of it but I do help as much as I can. I am always there to drive my son to private lessons, or scouts or you name it.

It's hard to stay at home, isn't it? But there's no better job in the world! When I was married, my husband worked hard. He'd leave around 5am and sometimes not come home until 7pm. He would have lunch breaks, though, and was his own boss. I would say we worked equally hard but my day never ended. While he could come home, plop down on the couch and fall asleep in front of the TV, my day went on till long past the time everyone was in bed. You know what they say--man works from sun to sun but women's work is never done!

For me the one who works the hardest is the one who goes out to work its because compare to working home, going out to work spends more time and effort behind it and the stresses and troubles that comes to your way when you go out also the danger behind behind it. Working at home has its benefits compare to working outside from the house but it doesn't mean you really work hard at home, no employer can assess you while you are at your home compare when you are at an office, your employer can really assess you whether your working hard if you are away from your home so for me for a person who works the hardest is the one who is going out to work. ^ ^

Both jobs are very difficult however each one has it own set of difficulties. I thought that when I had my second child that I wanted to stay home and take care of them all day. It only took me three months to decide that I could not stay home with them full time, that put way too much pressure on me. Like you said when your partner comes home they are wondering what you did all day since the house is not clean. I felt pressured to get my oldest off to school come home do laundry, cook clean and take care of everything else before he got back home. At work I am not in the comforts of my own home, I cant take breaks when I want and I have to follow someone elses rules and I constantly think about everything that I have to get done when I get home and I am always thinking about the kids while I am away. So to me both jobs are equally hard. The perfect balance for me would be if I were able to work 4 hours a day and be home the other part of the day.

Depends what work the person who works out does, hard physical graft? Hard graft which also requires a lot of thinking? Sitting on your backside in an office. all the best urban

Both jobs are equally hard. There are pros and cons to both. Each person is doing a hard job. One is home taking care and raising the children, making sure the home is running smoothly, the other is out making the money, and putting up with day to day demands from everybody, so is the caregiver at home.There is no happy medium. I feel both parties work very hard. And if you are a single parent, you have to do it all with no help at all.

Hmm...everybody have their role to play, we can't say this one harder or that one harder. We all live in a hard world. Even kids have their own work hard just like, in the morning they go to school, then attending the course, doing some home works and so on. But if we do all with happy, i guess we never realize how hard the work that we had been done. Keep working...

My husband and I have had this discussion often. He swears that he works the hardest by going out of the house and making money at his job. However, no matter how hard I try, I can't convince him that I work just as hard as he does, if not harder. You see, during the day I have not only my son who is now three years old, I also have my two nieces for several hours during the day who are three-years-old and one-year-old. I hardly ever get to stop. Granted, the little one does still take a nap, but the two older ones don't and then my daughter comes home from school and I have to help her with her homework. I would venture to say that it really is a toss-up for us.

I think both. atleast you know every time how to handle a child and a child will always be a child. he will not do politics and try to harm you. but outside when you go you will encounter different people with different thoughts and policies which can affect also

I think the one who works the hardest are the ones who live by themselves like me. We have to work, do the shopping, clean, take care of bills, of the good state of the home, etc. To split the work in 2 can make it be hard in equal ways in the case of a household with kids, at least from my point of view.

Hi! It would perhaps depend on what kind of job the works outside the house and how many kids are left at home (smiles). But generally speaking,I would say that those working outside works harder compared to the one left at home with the household chores.My reason is that if you're left at home,you could have your own way on doing chores and nobody would be telling you to do something.You're the boss so to say and you don't have to be in contact with people having different kind of personality.It would only be you and the chores.Whereas if you are working at the office or the field,you have to deal more with many people and of course adjust to them.There are also deadlines which you have to catch up and boss telling you to do things.So if I were to have a choice,I would like to be in control of the house.

I always felt that being a stay at home mum was like painting the Forth Bridge - neverending. For the second I got up int he morning to the moment my head hit the pillow I seemed to be on the go and at everyone's beck and call.

oh hi pandaeyes the one who is at home with the kids, the house, the jobs, the kids, the house, the meals the never ending saga of the life of the housewife.I have been both, and working as a nurses aide in a hospital bathing patients, backrubs, taking vitals, running errands for the nurse, i was busy but I had fifteen minute coffee breaks and a half hour lunch break was not nearly as tiring as a day at home taking care on my two children,the meals, the never ending household chores and no breaks, and meals were short and mostly about the family again. No a housewife doesn't work on an eight hour shift like I did at the hospital, we are on call 24/7 every day ,

I worked full time, plus for many years, as a nurse. I loved it, and was very rewarded by it. Now I only work outside the home, one day a week, and homeschool, and am a housewife the rest of the time. My husband's job is stressful, and keeps him busy, but when he comes home his day is done. My day begins at six AM and ends at 9 PM. So I guess my day is longer, but I don't know if I would say it is harder. I am in the comfort of my own home. I wear what I want. I do what I want, when I want. I take no orders from others, and there is no one to argue with. Sounds pretty good to me.

For me I would have to say that it seems like more things get done out of the home then in the home. Of course it depends on the job too. If you sit in an office all day probably it would seem more work working at home trying to keep up, then say if you worked at a fast food restruant when you don't have a "break". But if people worked with each other rather then against, then the "other's person's work" wouldn't seem so bad.

I've done both, stayed at home to look after the children until they started school and then worked part-time while they were still young and now work full-time as they're old enough to look after themselves for a short while. I've worked really hard in all three scenarios but I can honestly say that working full-time is the hardest - because when I come home I have to start working all over again until ten for eleven o'clock in the evening. Then I'm up again at six, getting things ready for the morning rush. At least when the children were small, they were in bed fairly early and I could relax for a couple of hours in the evening. Now there always seems to be something that needs doing and I get stressed not only with the hard work but worrying about what I haven't managed to get round to. I can't wait for retirement!

I totally agree with you, since i stopped working and became a fulltime housewife and mum I must say that it entails more than a full time job. We do not just work 8hours a day, but even during the night when kids wake up! It is a fullfilling job but I would love it if I was helped a bit. After coming back from a day's work husbands usually complain they are tired but they do not consider that we practically never stop. In my situation I do not get much of a helping hand. Having said that I have learnt that I have to create some time for myself, some time on the internet every day is a great rest for me.