I don't understand why it is okay for my neighbor to make a lot of noise.
By cream97
@cream97 (29087)
United States
March 8, 2010 12:00pm CST
We have new downstairs neighbors. And my daughters were up early in the morning around, 1 a.m. Well, they were making noise by moving and jumping. I told them to stop because our neighbors were asleep and that I needed to get some rest too. One of my daughters decided to jump up and this affected our neighbor's from downstairs.. They then hit the ceiling really hard detailing us to stop with the noise. It was a very loud sound and my oldest daughter paused and she was scared after that. She went to lay on the bed. I knew that it was the neighbor's banging on their ceiling for my kids to be quiet. Yet, these same neighbors play their music up really loud. They had their radio on sky high on Sunday and they were playing R&B songs. They started playing music at 8 a.m. up until 5 p.m. That was too early to play music that loud, some of our neighbor's probably don't get up until later on that day. It is very hard living upstairs from others. I am really starting to not like it here anymore. I do the best that I can to keep my kids quiet but it just seems like the more that I try, the worse that it gets. I wished that my neighbor's can understand that kids will make noise, even if it is at odd times in the mornings. I don't like my kids making noise and when they get out of hand, I do fuss at them. This situation is getting to be so tiresome. I already have a sick husband at home and rent is now due.. How much more aggravation do I have to take before I just explode or lose it??? It feels like I am already at my breaking point.
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16 responses
@ausgc21 (340)
• Australia
9 Mar 10
I guess you live in an apartment or unit of some sort, right? Then why don't you call up the body corp, or the security and let them sort it out for you? At our apartment, if we call the security, then they will deal with it 24-7.
If the noise is really that loud, it depends on where you live, but noise over certain decibels is considered as noise pollution. Which means, you can call police or take them to the court for it.
If you think you can't sort it out yourself, then talk to the people who can.
I hope the noise pollution gonna stop, and wish you all the best!
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@ausgc21 (340)
• Australia
10 Mar 10
Well, speak to the people who manages your apartment, whether it's a body corp, real estate, some individual owner, or the security company that looks after the place.
If none of them are helpful, then talk to the police.
If the police is not helpful, then a lawyer.
As I said on the previous post, a noise over certain decibels are considered as 'noise polution' in certain cities. Going over this limit is technically illegal, so you can press charges against them if they don't stop after some warnings.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
9 Mar 10
Hi cream you are not in an easy situation but it is manageable. First of all I would try to explain things to my own kids. i would explain that I have already a lot of things on my mind and that I have to take care of their sick father. Explain how noise irritates the neighbours downstairs and they have to be cautious how they play and walk not to cause the neighbours to be angry. However on the other hand I would have a good world with the neighbours and tell them to mind their own business. If they don't respect me I won't respect them. If they play loud music all day long I would report them to the police. In my country it is forbidden to be a nuisance with loud music between 1pm and 4pm. At a second thought it is better to maintain a friendly relationship with your neighbours because you never know whose help you need in your life. So better keep them in your good book. Explain to them that you have young kids and that you cannot always tie them to be quiet. Living in a neighbourhood means give and take.
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@recycledgoth (9894)
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9 Mar 10
In this kind of situation it might help if you actually sit down and talk with your neighbours. Explain to them they thee are issues on both sides and that perhaps an agreement can be reached before the problems escalates. Communication is the key
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@rajaiv0810 (1012)
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
Take deep breath Cream. I could understand how you feel and how stress you are with this situation. Maybe you can talk to your neighbor about it. If they are bothered with your kids noise then at least they should mind that you may be bothered with their loud music as well. Go down and talk to them and don't keep in your heart there what you wanna say. You can't keep things within yourselves all the time or you'll just feel worse about it. If you can't reach a compromise talk to your landlady and explain the situation. I hate people who are like that, banging on the ceiling....grrrr they are acting more than children. shame on them.
But relax ok? Remember anger will not resolve anything. Good luck!
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@pastorkayte (2255)
• United States
9 Mar 10
Go downstairs and ask them as nicely as possible to stop, and if they dont ask again, if that doesnt work call the police, who will come and tell them to turn it off. That is all you have to do. That will fix the problem.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Mar 10
1 AM is a weird hour for kids to stay up. Hope you figure out how to get them to simmer down and go to sleep. I don't totally blame the neighbors, but if I were them I wouldn't have banged on the ceiling like that. I would have waited until next day to come to talk to you. And it's not right that they start their music so early on a Sunday either. No earlier than 10 AM, i would say.
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
9 Mar 10
hi cream. about ten years ago, i also lived in an apartment with three floors. since the apartment has a lot of units, i transfer from unit to unit when i encounter annoying things like noisy kids upstairs, or inconsiderate neighbor downstairs. there were even times that my room showed by bad yellowish liquid coming from above. gosh, i quit complaining to my landlady. i just move out and find a better place where me and my kids can do whatever we want. we now live in a house though we have neighbors, we have no worries as somebody will be bothered up or down.
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@1anurag1 (3576)
• India
8 Mar 10
Yes i agree with you that there are a big number of people who just spoil again and again the concept of the civilized society.
i think some rules are made by humans for humans and those make us human.
but still there are number of animals who are not in the state to become a human.
i think you can get my sense in those short lines. all of them have the essence.
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@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
9 Mar 10
Well, as you said, kids are by definition noisy, so it is going to be difficult for you to make them be calmer until they grow up. Until then, do your best! 
Having noisy or silent neighbours is more a question of good or bad luck. I see you had bad luck on this matter. My neighbours are specially silent, and I chose to live in this area because there aren`t kid parks near, so I don`t have to deal with high levels of noise and I can relax at home. I can consider myself lucky.
Having noisy or silent neighbours is more a question of good or bad luck. I see you had bad luck on this matter. My neighbours are specially silent, and I chose to live in this area because there aren`t kid parks near, so I don`t have to deal with high levels of noise and I can relax at home. I can consider myself lucky.1 person likes this
@kaylachan (69772)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
9 Mar 10
Some people just have no respect for other people's feelings. No, it is not right for your neghbor to be making all that kind of noise, but at the same time you have to understand that you don't chose your neighbors. Sometimes I'll hear my upstairs neghbors making racket or fighting, but I know there is nothing i can do about it.
You just need to take a deep breath. that's all you have to do. Just.. relax and remember everything will work out just fine.
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@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
8 Mar 10
I feel so sorry for you having to deal with all this noise. I can identify with it totally as we have had our fair share of noisy neighbours over the years. Presently though, the neighbours on either side are OK so we are lucky...if you can call it that.
I've no idea what the law is on noise pollution in your area of the US but here in the UK (well, England at least) we have two choices. If it's in the middle of the night and we can't sleep I will go round to knock on the neighbour's front door. If the person refuses to answer (or can't hear because of their noise) then the last resort is phoning the Police. Seeing a uniformed Policeman on the doorstep always does the trick. Another option is to ring the Council and they send a Diary Sheet out so, whenever noise is excessive, the idea is that the time of the noise and type of noise is logged. Over time that can be used in evidence. In our particular case the guy was thrown out of the house for non-payment of rent anyway.
You really need to talk to someone about this because you are being considerate, whereas the neighbours below are not. There has to be some give and take here.
Hope I've helped...a bit anyway.
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@___SKY___ (541)
• Hong Kong
8 Mar 10
Wew! I understand your situation cream. It is very hard to live with some small brain in their head. Your family renting the house? better to talk them personally or make a complain about this matter. Hope this will settle soon.. God bless you all...Happy lotting..
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@rosegardens (3034)
• United States
9 Mar 10
Goodness, I am soo glad I have not lived in an apartment with neighbors like that! O, wait--I did for a short time. lol. They moved after a few months.
However, your children jumping at 1 am? I understand things are difficult, but goodness, if I ever did that I would have gotten a red bottom and rest assured it would never happen again.
I would complain to the management about the loud music, that is just distasteful and rude to blast your stereo or whatever when you live in an apartment building. For heavens sakes, even if you have a house you need to be mindful of your neighbors.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Mar 10
hi cream97 I cannot understand how people like that expect you to have children and them do nothing but breathe quietly.lord children will be children, and they need to be more understanding, your downstairs neighbors I mean. I know that you are a good mom, but these people sound like the ones we had that banged on our ceiling early in the morning for no reason other than we had walked across the floor. I grew to really hate those people and the ceiling thumping they did. Cream I really would complain to the manager about the loud music as you have the same rights as any other tenant, and about the ceiling thumping too as that does not help the situation at all. You do have rights too and I would sure complain to the manager if I were you.
cream I would sure ask if you guys could move into the first empty downstairs appartment, it would be worth the nuisance of having to move again but it sure beats the static one gets when you live upstairs.
cream I would sure ask if you guys could move into the first empty downstairs appartment, it would be worth the nuisance of having to move again but it sure beats the static one gets when you live upstairs.1 person likes this
@ChrisEven (46)
• Chile
8 Mar 10
I'm very sorry for your experience your post just make me feels the things that you're feeling, i think, me in that situation .. i would like to run and have a agresive discussion with them cause these things are diminishing your quality of life and you have rights, and your children also have the right of having fun and be normal kids, your neighbors are the ones who exced their right puting loud the music for hours and hours... it cannot be that way ... speake with someone with power that's what i would do.
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