Are you jealous if your partner stares at another nice looking lady?
By dragonangel
@dragonangel (551)
March 8, 2010 12:04pm CST
I want to hear your views mylotter friends regarding this situation.Staring at some women is usually the root of argument between me and my partner.If I would catch him staring at other nice looking women,I just can't help but feel upset and then get angry with him.He would reason out that he is just looking at them but in my opinion staring is obviously different than looking which he says he is doing.Looking lasts but a short time while staring takes longer time.I wonder if you feel the same way as me when your partner stares at others too?
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@1anurag1 (3576)
• India
8 Mar 10
I am a boy and not exceptional in these kind of cases.
but i got a bit jealous when ever my partner talks or praise for another boy or even compare me with some one else putting me down.
i dont like these things when i am compared and put down. and you can say this is a kind of jealousy
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@chrystaltears (3392)
• United States
8 Mar 10
She shouldn't do that. It's disrespectful and it's not necessarilly jealousy but pride on our part.
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but anyways she also settles the matter soon 
oh she just loves to tease me. 
@dragonangel (551)
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10 Mar 10
So this would just point out that praising someone by words or by actions when you're with your partner won't do well for both sexes.So this must be a DON'T DO kind of thing (smiles).
@sleepylittlerose (1648)
• United States
8 Mar 10
I don't let the little things like him looking/stareing at another person bother me. I figure at least I know he's still alive if he is looking. And I also know who he is coming home to at night. Our rule is you can look but you can not touch. LOL. I guess I learned this from my parents though becuase my mom and dad will point out good looking people to each other. So we were raised to be confident in our relationships.
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@dragonangel (551)
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10 Mar 10
His looking might be considered okay sleepy though my worry is that what if the other person would take the initiative to have more you know.Sometimes a person offer only friendship but the other might be wanting more.whaaaaa!
@Dumpertaker (1187)
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10 Mar 10
I have always believed that it is ok to look...but not touch, and my Cuddle Bunny, she believes exactly the same thing too.
It's ok to look, but you know who they come home to at the end of the day.
@chrystaltears (3392)
• United States
8 Mar 10
Yes. I always got upset with my man for staring. You know, what gets me is the man will say that we shouldn't be so jealous. That women are just so jealous. You know what I used to tell them. It's not jealousy. It's being angry because you are being so disrespectful to let that person know that you're with me and she knows you are staring at her and making goo goo eyes right in front of me. Idiot!
@dragonangel (551)
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10 Mar 10
Hi! I say that to him also and he reasons out he's just looking.No, it is staring.And with me beside him and his eyes goes to another spot then I would rather shove him aside to the direction which he is glued to.Though he always sticks with mine.But the stare oh,makes my blood go up at times lol.
@ElsaElsa (323)
• United States
8 Mar 10
Some times I let it go as a natural response that even I would have done. Some people are so attractive that you end up staring without realizing even as a woman I would stare so I can't scold hubby for staring. But if it ever becomes a habit, I will argue. It hasn't happend yet so unless he does it habitually, let it pass.
@CarmenA (127)
• United States
8 Mar 10
Yes, I feel the same way that you do..even if it's on tv..and a sexy scene comes on with just a woman and he is so dang obvious. He just forgets whatever he's doing and stares. He doesn't care that it bothers me and that makes me even more mad. I'm getting mad just thinking about it. It's one thing to admire a nice looking person..but lusting after them is totally different and disrespectful. But my bf has a lot to learn about that!
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@dragonangel (551)
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10 Mar 10
Looking at a beauty for a short time might be fine,but definitely not staring so long especially while I'm there.If he does then I could let him move to where she is probably lol.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
9 Mar 10
I am a man so I might be bit biased on this subject! A friend of mine (woman) reasons out like this. As long as he eats at home he can stare for how long he wants. I like her line of reasoning but I assume that not all women reason the way she does. I have been accused of staring and I was innocent in some of the occasions (not all). I really cannot understand why women are so jealous that men cannot look at another women. They are enjoying nature and God's creation! What's wrong with that?
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
9 Mar 10
My husband only has eyes for me. I know that some people would say all men look at other women at some point but mine does not. He loves me and only me, and does not look at other women. He abhors people who cheat, and I think he thinks that looking is a way of cheating as well.
I've told him I thought he was looking before but when he said he wasn't, something in his eyes made me realize that it was just my over jealous imagination.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
9 Mar 10
Not jealous no. Just disappointed that obviously they aren't happy with me. Looking is one thing. I'm a person who loves art and I love beauty so I'll look with them but to just gawk at the person in front of me like that makes me feel like they don't want me. If it was me I'd just let this person go and find someone who he's happier with.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
For me yes I'm be zealous to but not to the point that we more war of them after that my husband said that I'm more love in him because of that his liver will became big.
@gogierm4ge (398)
• United States
10 Mar 10
Jealousy comes very from this type of thing. Like if you really liked someone then you think he/she likes someone better then you, it really toys with your brain and makes you sad (sometimes) and jealous
@sadna82 (9)
• United States
9 Mar 10
He never does it, if at all..yes a slight jealous comes out of possesiveness. But i know its just an attraction he has on that gal, which will last for few seconds. But the true love for me is life long. So I would not take this as a matter of life. I would rather make a small kiddin fight and will have fun!!
@xtremelyperfect (94)
• Malaysia
9 Mar 10
Yes, I feel the same way. If he's staring instead of just looking, then it's not acceptable.
I know that everyone will be attracted to nice stuff but just a look is more than enough.
@onlyprincess (782)
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
Hi dragonangel,
I admit I would be bothered if my bf continuously stares at other women, and we've been in this arguments a few times before. I would catch him staring at an attractive young woman even when we're together, and I can't help to compare myself with the girl and feel downright insecure. I let him know it's bothering me and I told him I don't like it when he does that, and I guess he got the message and never did it again.
@Beautyfactor (1512)
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8 Mar 10
I'm going to admit that I don't like it but I know that is down to my own insecurities. I'm not too happy with the way I look at the moment and I'm always comparing myself to other women anyway. I just think that leering at other women infront of me is a little disrespectful, particularly as my husband knows that I am a little insecure right now.
