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Some of youall know about the bad experience I had with facebook here lately. However, something good happened with it not long before that. Or, at least I thought it was good. I saw a guy's name listed on one of my friends' list that I went to high school with and I sent him a friend request. I didn't really get to know this guy very well because he was a year ahead of me in school and we didn't have any classes together. However, I thought this guy was so good lookingback then. It really surprised me when he confirmed the request because I didn't think he knew I existed back then. I'm sure you girls and women know that story, lol! Anyway, he came back and chatted with me a few minutes later! I don't think he could place me because he asked me how it was I knew about him and I just told him I remembered him from high school. I don't remember what his exact question was but it was something like that. I played in the band and when I was in junior high school, those of us who took band rode a school bus from the junior high school to the bandroom at the high school. As far as I can remember, he wasn't in the band but he rode the bus with us back and forth, anyway. I also remember when he made pictures for our local newspaper years ago. The story does have a sad twist, though. He told me that his wife died in October 2009. Well, actually he said that she died two or three months ago at the time. I told him that I sure was sorry and that he had my condolences. I just feel like he was probably lonely and wanting somebody to talk to. He told me he has a son but he doesn't live with him. I have been praying for him ever since he told me about his wife's passing. We chatted again on Friday, February the 26th, which was the day after my birthday. I told him that the day before was my birthday and he wished me a happy birthday. I also told him that I have been praying for him since he told me about his wife's death and he said it meant a lot to him. I haven't chatted with him since and I can't imagine what has happened. I noticed he hasn't been online with facebook since then and he deleted me as a friend on facebook! However, I noticed he deleted his own son, too! I know he's probably going through a rough time right now. He wouldn't tell me how his wife died or anything. I asked him if she had been sick and he just said "yes". If it was sudden, it was probably a real shock for he and his son both. I had asked him the second time I talked to him how his son was doing and he said he was doing better. His wife was just 50 I found out and that is young. I didn't ask him how old she was. I saw it on the website of the funeral home where her funeral was held. He also told me that he doesn't live far up the road from me and that was a real surprise, too! He can't believe that I live in this big house by myself (and neither can anybody else, for that matter). I have a feeling he works long hours because he told me he works at a local tire store here in town. I found out they are open from 7:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. Monday through Friday and from 7:00 to 12:00 on Saturdays. I imagine he's tired when he gets home and he probably doesn't have time to get on facebook or anything. I don't know if he's looking for a dating realtionship yet or not. It may be still a little too soon after his wife died and I don't want to rush him. Do youall think I would be coming across as being a little too forward if I went to visit him where he works one of these days? I thought he might remember who I am if he could see me. Also, I know some places of business have rules about outside visitors and I don't want to bother him if he's busy. How can I go about finding out when would be a good time to go by? I know I can call but what do I ask exactly? I don't want to say "I want to come by to see one of your employees". What sould I say if he answers the phone? I thought maybe if I saw him in person he might could tell me why he deleted me on facebook and tell me why he's not spending much time on there or chatting with me these days. He kept about seven of his other friends, btw. I know this is a lot of questions. Have you ever had an experience like this where you had such a crush on a guy in high school and you didn't think he knew you existed? Come to find out later, he did know you exist. Tell me about your experiences. Kathy.