Forgiven, not Forgotten

Same here, I easily forgive sometimes but it takes time for me to forget. When I say time, years. I have a good memory. LOL! However, my forgiveness still depends on how deep the misunderstanding went. If I got too hurt, I cannot forgive easily.

I hold grudges, so you could say I don't forget easy. I'm also a cancer, therefore emotional, so I also forgive easy. The concept of 'forgive and forget' is a bit foreign to me, thus the grudges. Sometimes, these eat away inside of me. It's not healthy, but it's just my nature. Hard to teach old dogs new tricks!

I find it hard to forgive depending on the situation, but when i do forgive I never forget, because when someone hurts you or betrays you, it is really an unforgivable thing. And you carry that in your heart , though you may try to bury it deep inside, it is always there.

I'm going through situations right now where I feel for myself I need to forgive....This person would be my ex husband he has hurt me very deep....Not that I can ever trust him again he has hurt me way too bad for that but for me to fully move forward I need to forgive for me more then for him....But I will not ever forget as I fear being hurt again....

I dont have an easy time forgetting things. Especially negative or hurtful things. I dont know if I can necessarily forgive fully either. If you do something terrible and expect to be forgiven just like that in my book that's impossible. I dont think anyone should be expected to forgive immediately. I do agree that if you forgive it helps you heal and be the best you can be. I dont agree that you have to do it as soon as an apology is given. It takes a while to work through your feelings in a healthy way. Im not gonna be rushed by anyone! That's my opinion...dl

We are all mere beginners in the art of forgiving, I have read a book and in fact I gave it as a gift to a friend last Christmas it was about the "Art of forgiving" authored by a priest, it was stated there that forgiving doesn't necessarily mean forgetting what happened, not to forget will make you even more cautious the next time you feel the same thing. From that you will learn how to cope the pains again. We are not required to forget those who have caused us pain and the pain they've caused,but we are required to learn how to forgive for us to move on gracefully.:)

If its something petty I forgive very easily but if its a major thing I can't and in some cases WON'T forgive....As for forgetting...thats just impossible for me and the more serious the issue the more intense it stays in my mind..

Hello ary! I forgive and forget sooner than later. I cannot keep recalling those unpleasant and unhappy moments and I do not feel like mentioning untoward incidents again and again. I believe there is no use reminding myself of the situations, which could make me tense. I wish to remain happy and cool.

There's a saying; Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. I can forgive but it takes a very long time for me to forget.

I agree with you view on the topic. Forgive and forget seems ridiculous for me. I would forgive but I don't think I would easily forget what a person has done against me. But not forgetting it does not mean I hold a grudge. Sometimes yes but most of the time, no.

I don't think forgiving and forgeting are meant to walk hand in hand. Of the two, forgivness is the most important, but sometimes it's not possible to forget something. I don't think someone should forget something someone wrongly did to them, but I do believe that they should forget their bitterness and let go of all their hatred/ desire to get even. I find forgiving makes forgeting easier, but I never truly forget some of these things I forgive. I don't look back at them with bitterness or resentment but I don't forget.

Yes, I believe in Forgive and Forget and I usually do. Life is too short, why one cling on the bad feelings always. Together one can enjoy and share. So, I think one should always forgive, it will not only give one relief but also relax from stress. One of the most basic steps on the pathway to happiness is forgiveness. Holding on to grudges, entrenched in being absolutely right, we doom ourselves to living in the past while poisoning our present. When we are distracted or give our attention to the things we enjoy, the pain diminishes and dissipates. When we are at war with others emotionally, we cannot be at peace with the self. We have given away our power to the people who have hurt us, allowing them to continue to hurt us. That’s why forgiveness which wipes the slate clean for the enemy removes the stain on our spirit. To re-frame your anger: The universe sent you the person who hurt you to teach you a lesson. This is your growing pain. Forgiveness is part of the lesson. What do you say?

I thin what is happening to you is natural, it happens to me also and i believe is natural only senseless people can easily forget things. It is not easy to forget things but forgiveness is very easy

Forgive and forget are 2 different conceptions for me!Maybe i can forgive for what that person did to me but it's hard to forget,i think it will takes a lot of times for me to forget it.

Primarily I believe in the principle of forgive, forget and just move on…I’ve found it very hazardous to carry on grudges and plotting revenge…its an unnecessary burden which slow poisons us from within. However, as you said, forgetting can be difficult and take any amount of time depending on the ill-treatments you get from people. Also, sometimes its good to remember just to be on your guard against a particular person. There is this guy in my office who’s very rude and selfish…any time you say or do something which is not to his liking, he’ll just snap at you and cut you with his choice of words…I’ve had the misfortune of interacting with him wrongly a couple of times and the way the talked almost brought tears to my eyes…well I’ve forgiven him simply coz I can never stoop to his level but I remember his conduct and take care to avoid him as much as possible.

There are some points, things or people whom I can't forget or forgive.. They're only a few though... At all other times, I do forgive and forget immediately... :) Happy myLotting!

im same with you too, easy for me to forgive but i will ever forget what he did to me. maybe i can accept him but not to the point of giving him what i showed to him before. theres already limitation and easy for me to think bad things about him coz i dont trust him anymore. the reason why i give him a 2nd chance is for him to prove how sorry he was but if i didnt see any changes then ill just wait for the right time to say bye bye to him again.

Well.. I think it is very hard to forgive if you can't forget. Once a person had done bad things to you it will create a wound deep inside your heart. Because of that wound it will be hard for us to forgive him/her because we can always remember the things that he/she have done to us. In my case I can say that I can forgive a person but it doesn't mean that I can forget the things that he/she have done to me.

When it comes to grievances, human beings seem to have perfect memory for that. Like you, I am easy to forgive too, but not so easy to forget. But that doesn't mean I still bear grudges. What's done cannot be undone. However, the unhappy incident is still lodged firmly somewhere in my memory. The lesson I learn is that it's never wise to do people misdeeds.

I think we are just humans. We have that feeling that you forgave them but you still can't forgive the thing that they did. As for me.. It really is hard to forget what a friend did or what, even if she/he will say sorry.Were all trying to be better, so the one who ask forgiveness should understand that it's not that easy to forget what they did.