Are you really expecting favor if you ask from your friend?
By mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
Philippines
March 9, 2010 5:12am CST
Hello friends, three weeks ago I ask a little favor from what I considered friends here in mylot. I was requesting someone here whom I considered special friends to me since we are always the one changing and answering each others posted topics. But to my surprised I had only three of them who acted immediately and extend their favor I asked. I was expecting a lot from my countrymen but only one extended my request.
I was asking about 15 of them but I was failed from my expectation.
How about you did this happened to you already?
Let's talk about it...
Mobhomeir...
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11 responses
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
hello Martin,
I also feel bad about this amigo.
The day i received your message,i open the site and tried to sign up.
I had my acct,but the moment i open it,i can't signed in,for whatever reason that,i do not know.
I keep trying to sign in,but everytime i did...the site always tells me that,there's some error with it.
I did not tell you about it,becoz,i knew you will feel bad.
That,maybe you will think i am just making excuses...(i don't know why i can't open my acct.)
This is not the first time that i sign up for sites and when it's time for me to sign in/log in,i encountered some error.
Maybe some glitch causes this error
I am really sorry about this amigo...don't think i ignore you...i never did
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
Yeah my dear bonita..I never think of you like this. I was just thinking you're out of travel or whatever reasonable reasons because I know you would never forsake me.
I miss you bonita..and also you look more beautiful in your picture nowadays..keep it up..I thought it's Kristin Hermosa...
Yes..I am serious...
Mobhomeir....
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
It's alright my bonita kristine yeah it's true..put it there(your picture) always. Don't ever change it again..
I think your friend is right as far as your laptop is concern...
Take care my bonita kristine...
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
hello again amigo,
I missed you...you always come and go,that is why the moment i saw your message i open that site...
Actually,i deleted all history and cookies in my laptop,there maybe some glitch that blocks me for logging in with sites.
Recently,i can't sign in to one of my earning site,i lost some earning for this matter.
I hope this can be resolve soon...as one of my friend told me that,maybe my IP address had changed coz sometimes i open my laptop using other modem aside from my own home connection.
Which probably i think the real reason for this problem.
Do you really think i look liked her amigo...(hahaha,what a compliment then)
Thanks anyway...(kahit alam ko binobola mo ako)
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@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
Hiya, I think I was one of those 15 who weren't able to extend the favor. I did reply to your message.
To answer your discussion question, if I ask favor from friends, I hope but I dont expect. Like what you have experienced, when it comes to asking favors only few are actually going to do what you asked of them. Most especially if you're really not that close or connected. We can be close or connected to our online friends but there is still the barrier of physical limitations that hinders the development of establishing great trust.
Like I mentioned, I do hope that those people that I asked would actually do it but I dont expect them to because I dont want to be disappointed or frustrated. Asking a favor is one thing but expecting them to comply is another. In asking favors, we can only ask. We should not also think that because we asked, they're going to do it.
Anyway, I do wish you luck in finding more people to do your favor.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
You got it right my friend..that was a great lesson that I learned really..I forgot that we don't have same attitude in understanding easy favors...from now on I will put this on my mind "Expectation always leads to disappointments" thanks for responding...
Mobhomeir here...
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
9 Mar 10
hi mob. i guess i am also one that you asked for the favor and not acting on it as you expected. this time, i already forgot all about it and i hope you will not too disappointed or having bad feelings with me and other non-respondents to your request. i think i was busy at that time or i am still busy right until now, that i have not able to act on it... when i request for something from my friend, i do not expect a lot that they will actually respond. even in discussions on here, i do not expect everyone in my friends list and even our countrymen to response. it's up to them if they response but if they start discussions, i always try to give my best response everytime i can relate with theirs. cheer up mob.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
Yeah my friend neil..I was really sorry for myself because I was expecting bacon from my regular friends here..in fact I considered already this thing a lesson for me...I learned already. One friend said..Expectation always Disappointment..
The problem with me was I am putting my self on all of whom I considered friends here. I mean whenever I would be asked a favor from my friends as long it would not be complicated and hard to do..I will be happy to give those favor...well, I guess "you can't win everybody's heart"..
Thanks my friend for responding..
Mobhomeir here...
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
10 Mar 10
I tell you a story... I have this one member in my friends list. Whenever I am notified by mylot through emails that he has a new discussion started, I never missed to read them and make the best that I can to give my response. He's more senior than me if we talk about membership though in real age, I am older than him. He is single and I have kids, a family man. Even how much I made myself being noticed by him, getting to almost all of his discussions, I never saw him get into my boards. I really can't remember one response he had given to I guess, quality discussions, as I believe I have made, so far... One time, I talked to him in the open, in one of his discussions, that myLot is a 2-way traffic site. One needs the other to succeed here. You need your friends to response to your discussions and you also need them, their discussions so you have something to respond to. He said, he has the other way of getting on this site, he wants to make discussions more than responding. Ok then, I said. I was just disappointed at that time, because he is also one of us, a Filipino. So I stopped talking to him, I stopped responding to his discussions for a while... Then one time later, he had another discussion about the playing chess. He asked, you think this piece will win or it will be a mate. So I responded by saying, it's up to you and which one is yours, it depends. Blah blah blah. Then I said, if you want to play chess with me, play the game of mylot with me first. If you make a discussion, I will respond. When I start mine, it's your turn to move, and respond to it. Blah blah blah. The second time, I still didn't get his attention or interest to get interested to my discussions. I just can't believe he can't be as I believe, I never started non-sense topics, maybe once or twice... I am really disappointed, but what can I do, he has his own way of being on mylot. And I can't force him or anybody on here to always respond to mine. I just share my thoughts but I don't expect them to respond. And from then on, it will always be my way on mylot, do not expect everybody will hear or see you, at least I had it posted.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
hello daddy mob!
hehe don't be upset...that's life!
all i can say is that don't expect too much...so that you will not be disappointed...
they are still your friends but maybe they have their reasons why, maybe they are busy or haven't read your message yet...
well as far as i am concerned, yeah i do ask favor to some friends sometimes but i don't really expect much...if they give me positive response i will be very grateful but if i don't get what i ask for, its just fine although i will feel a little sad as well... but it will not give me a bad feeling coz i know or i hope maybe next...there will always be a next time!
cheer up daddy!
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
Hello iloemi you got it right..in fact that was a lesson for me...one friend responded and I always remember that..he/she said "Expectation is always disappointment"..another thing I finally made a ratio of that case. I mean, out of twelve only three responded positively. 12:3 ...
Thanks iloemi...have a nice day ahead...
Mobhomeir...
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@Hazelrose (2179)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
Hello mob,So sorry to hear that.By the way ,I've learned a lot for not expecting any favor from any body because most of the time it really hurts our feelings. Just let it be,Any way,for this past weeks I've been inactive here in mylot due to some family circumstance,I do hope that you really understand my situation.Cheers, and Good luck.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
Good morning Hazel..it's alright then..I know you're a friend that can be assured of. Keep it up. Hope your family problem are doing already well. Never mind mylotting if there would some family problem, solve that problem first because I am really sure we can't concentrate of whatever we would be doing if we have some internal family problem...God Bless...have a nice day ahead....
Mobhomeir here..
@shalome (178)
• India
9 Mar 10
mobhomeir,
I used asked the favor from my friends very rarely,if i am not
getting it from them, i will not disappointed, becoz
"expectation is always disappointment".
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
Hello shalome..yeah..i learn another phrase from you "EXPECTATION is always DISAPPOINTMENT"...I will take it from you...thanks for responding....
Mobhomeir here...
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
10 Mar 10
Hi mobhomeir,
I know I acted favorably but do you think it is enough for you. I am confused much and could not understand what I can do with that site. But if it (my joining) helped you (that is enough for me) then I am happy. I have less time to work for other sites and making referrals is so tough for me. I hope you can understand the problems. Thank you so much and have a nice time.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
Hello my dear friend, I would not be bored of saying thank you for the favor. Now I know who are really my really friends..Honestly that site was being introduced the way I introduce it to you...the site was just open last week and I don't have
still a full idea of the business is that's why until now I still keep on login and observing..anyway whatever I would know (good) about it I would share it to you...
take care my friend...nice to hear from you...
Mobhomeir here...
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
9 Mar 10
If I am not mistaken I was one who did not act on the favour that you requested and I have only one reason for not doing as you asked - time is limited. I cannot possibly act positively on everything favour that is asked of me
I could have acted immediately and you would have been pleased but then over time you would have been disappointed because I would not have been able to do anything at all that would have helped you.
When I ask a favour I usually do not expect any positive results. Then whatever happens I am never disappointed. I don't ask many favours at all though...
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
Hello friend sorry I forgot to explained those people like you who responded reasonable reasons why...I didn't mean to generalize people. Yeah in fact I learned an appropriate phrase for that.."Expectation is always disappointment"..thanks for responding anyway..sorry again my friend you're included on this topic..
Mobhomeir here....
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Mar 10
As far as I am concerned, I think if I am really in trouble, I think I will expect a favor from my close friends. If I ask the favor was from my close friends,I think it will be the really expecting from them. I do not want to see the result that no one come to help me out of trouble.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
You got it right my friend that was what I felt..frustration. Anyway at least now I know whose my real friends here...this is a lesson for me..Expectation turns always into disappointments...thanks for responding my friend..
Mobhomeir here...
@nancyk72 (20)
• Canada
10 Mar 10
I think like many people, we have friends and we kind of know who to ask for a favor that will actually do it for us. I in particular have many friends but have one that I am almost 100% sure that would do a favor for me if I ask it. Of course he would let me know if he can or cannot do it, depending on the favor.
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
I got what you mean nancy..thanks for that...I learned something already on this incident..."Expectation is always disappointment.."
Thanks for responding...
Mobhomier here...
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
10 Mar 10
Well, everyone of us learn this my experience. We human always expect more from others and finally end up with disappointment and frustrated. I will say to have good and long relationships with friends, family or loved ones, always do what you expect from others. So you dont have to expect anything, as you do it to others. Expect less, live happy in relation!!
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
You're right my friend..I should have learn that but since I always lend a favor every one of my friend would ask from me ( as long as I could), i was disappointed.
Thanks for responding my friend...
Mobhomeir here...