If your parent is difficult to move about, how will you do?

It's difficult trying to make a living and taking care of someone who's ill. Often, you have to find someone to help, but that usually costs money. Sometimes, you can work out a schedule with your siblings/other family members, where you take turns caring for the person who's ill. In my case, when my mom fell and broke her hip (she was 81), I was retired and lived in the same town, and I was available to care for her, so that's what I did until she was able to get up and about. You'll find a way when it happens, if it happens.

My mum lives in sheltered housing so if she has an emergency,she has a warden who will come out to her flat if she falls or anything. My sister and her husband mostly shop for my mum and my brother in laws parents too. I think that we would all have to contribute to her care if she needed to go into a nursing home and her flat would have to be sold eventually to cover the ongoing cost. Next door to me,the lady is very elderly and her daughter is just going to sell the house to pay for her mother to live in the nursing home as she cant manage to carry her or lift her or anything herself. That happens a lot with elderly people in the UK. My husbands grandmother lived with them until she couldn't manage to get out of bed anymore and then she went to a nursing home and her own house was sold and that was about 25 years ago so it hasn't changed.

No matter what, I will try my best to take care of my parents. Just in case I do not have the resources, like having to work or being busy and all that or for other reasons, I might hire a care-taker to come home and help to take care of them whilst I'm not able to. I will not send them to a home, but this is just my opinion. Others might have their own reasons and to send to a home, doesn't mean the person is not a good son or daughter. Good topic here.

I have and 84 years old father who is not yet bedridden.He is still strong as ox but his memories already falter and he do act like a child so he would mess things around and that would make my blood boil. But I realized that you need to be patience to take care an old person importantly your parents. If they take care of you when you are young then it's your turn to take care of them like a young child.

If I were in your situation I'm going to take care of my parents because no one going to care for them and we are the one who needs to taking care of them. It is our obligation to them and if we love our parents we don't think that they are burden to us.

As of now silin I take care my 81 yr.old mother experiencing heart enlargement, however she still strong with her maintenance med., bring her to the doctor for her regular check up and aware her all the time to prevent unusual accident. In your situation, all we have to do maybe is to give our very best attention to her, show her our love, caring of affection so that no regrets occur what happens next.

I bet that it is not easy for your mother to take care of her 80year old bed ridden mother. However I do think that she is setting a good example to you not by talking but only by her deeds. Nobody likes to wash an old person and clean them after they relieve themselves. I understand that your mother is doing a lot of sacrifices not only because she feels its her duty but because she loves her mum and remembers that how much scarifies her mother has done while she was a baby. I think I would giving a helping hand when my parents reach that stage. My parents did a lot for me when I was a baby. When I reach an old stage though I don't wish to be dependent on others I would not want to be abandoned alone without the care and love of my son.

My mother is in her late 80's, my stepmother in her early 80's and my dad will be 90 in November. So I can see where they will need some care. My sister lives with my mother, who is still able to get around. I live 30 miles from my dad and stepmother and see them often. If need be, I would move in to take care of them but I don't think it will come to that. Nobody in my family has ever been sent to a nursing home against their will. My grandmother wanted to go to one so she did and she enjoyed being there in her last couple of years. Whatever I have to do, I will take care of my parents, all 3 of them, just as my sons want to take care of me when the time might come that I need it.

Financially speaking, the parent would still have income coming in here in the USA as we have social security which sends the elderly and disabled a check every month to somewhat cover their expenses. Depending on how old your parents are, you may already be retired yourself before you need to take care of them. Therefore you'd get a pension check from the company as well. Here in America of course. Well I would not worry about it, if your worried about the financial aspect of it you could always save a few dollars a month to go towards a fund to help your parents out if they ever needed the help. If not you could save said money for when you get old and need the help. Also, if your worried about the taking care of them part, we are never to know until it happens what our parents will be like when they are old. There is no need to stress over it, when your mother and father are that old, you may have more experience in taking care of them then you thought you would ever have.

Oh, this is a very sad story and I am sorry to hear about your grandmother. My grandfather is not the most mobile after taking a fall. He has to go to therapy and still stays in bed most of the day. The good news is money isn't a problem right now for us. My mother seems to have hip problems, but I hope they don't require a hip replacement as that will be quite expensive and I don't know if I can afford that.

My dad injured his knee while playing golf a few years ago and I wanted him to come live with me but he insisted on being on his own. After the surgery, he went to a rehab center and then when he went back home, I managed to get him a wheelchair and everything he might need to make his life easier. Id also drop by every day and my sister and brothers did the same, so there was someone there at nearly all times of the day. We're lucky also as dad has lots and lots of friends and they all helped so much. Now dad is walking and still playing golf and he also went back to work haha! Cant stop him from working. If he couldnt get around, well Id have him live with me if he wants to and Id make sure I have all the equipment to make my and his live easier. I wouldnt want to send him in a nursing home......although I know he'd want to go there, he says he liked it.

Well, parents we should always take care especially they need us at their old times. Well i can understand your situation. Start saving from now. You can work too. If you have trust worthy people appoint them at home, wen you go for work. You can even appoint nurses, just for the 8 hours when you are away from them. But dont worry, believe your parents will stay better at their old ages.