Married! Ten Years, No Kids! Spouse Wants a Divorce, Fight or Give Up??

To get married and to stay in a marriage need two people in it. And if one of them already make a statement that they no longer have anymore love it will be hard to keep the marriage. But I think it will worth to give it a try to save it before saying yes to a divorce. At least you deserve an explanation why the love is no longer there.

I think I would respect their desicion, but not without finding out why my spouse felt the way he did. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where the love I was giving was not given back to me. If my husband was certain he wanted the divorce I would probably suggest he left the marital home and the divorce would be imminent.

Hi Artistry, When it's over, it's over. You can't force someone to love you if they do not. You can't even convince them that somewhere deep down they do if they are insisting that they don't. There is no point in it even if you love the person and wish it could be different. I would honor the person's request and hope that they change their mind before all is said and done if I still loved them. If they did not then I would work on re-building my own life apart from that person. To do anything else would more than likely push them further away then they already are. No matter how much I love a person, I would not want to be with them if they do not want to be with me. In fact, if you really love a person even if you don't like their decision you would bottom line above all else want that person to be happy even if it is not with you.

I think that i would go for the divorce that they wanted as there is no point of staying in a marriage where there is no love aswell as the person telling you that they do not love you.If there were no children involved then it would be easy to start a new life on your own,but ten years is a very along time.You never know they may be just wanting space and that is all they want.

MArriage is sacred. no one is to be blamed if they don;t have a child. Having no child is not the reason for separation/divorce. Try to answer this question, "Why did you marry that person?" Because you love each other. Having no child is just a second part in a married life. What is important is you love each other. I watched a movie one time and there is aline that goes this way, "I can live without a child/children, but i cannot live without you my wife." i think this is very interesting. Well, adapt a child, maybe it will make you happy.

There has to be a tangible reason for divorce which courts would accept. Apart from this formality it is disturbing that someone would just say that they do not love you. No one in their senses would be so blunt unless there have been reasons to come to this conclusion. One needs to sort it out. Having no children is not a reason to seek divorce. One can always adopt.

You need to find out why you've been hit with this Double whammy of Why She says She no longer Loves You,and Wants a Divorce..I can't possibly comment on the strength of your relationship from how you got together,through getting married,to this point where a breakup now seems inevitable..but personally,I don't think there's much point left for holding on to a relationship when one partner wants out..You don't have a family,(this wasn't an issue during the 10 Years?)so that's hopefully not a factor,so In a Divorce it's down to whether someone else is involved,or there are issues that point to an irrevocable breakdown of the relationship..good Luck with this...

Since this is an open discussion, I take it that you are discussion this on a general thought. Any guy and lady in this kind of situation, and like what you said..married for 10 years with no kids, they would definitely think about it pretty much. But for one of them to leave the other based on that reasoning alone doesn't sound too fair to me. That's because the emotional hurt must be felt by both parties and not just one spouse. Sometimes the wife wants to back out of the marriage and sometimes the husband. Different people with different situations, for instance. The best way is to sit and talk through, rather than leaving the spouse and blaming the other. There are also stories whereby the husband is the impotent one, or the wife is the one not able to give birth. Both shouldn't blame each other in my opinion and should stick through thick and thin. Good topic, I'm glad to be able to say something, even though I am not an expert in these things. Take care.

hi artistry is it because you cannot have children, that often happens or is there another person? I would not fight too much against it as if he no longer loves you it just would be hell to live with him. without 'kids divorce is much easier. I would honror his request and hope that one day soon you would find a man who adores you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you. I dont think that fighing for your marriage is going to help if h e fells this way after ten long years but he should give you some reasons for this and not just drop that out of a clear blue sky. I

I'd agree to the divorce. What's the point in being in a one-sided relationship if you dont have to. Things might be a little different if there were children involved but when its over, its over.

hi artistry, I can first convince her by myself and then if she was not agree,then i will try it with her relatives and my relatives and other faimily members,first of all this type of question did not arise in our community,most we people would not go for divorcee for most of the reason,but some is there like that,have a nice day

I agree with ibuemma. When you are married you take sacred vows to love, and to honor, for better for worse etc.. children or no children, and marriage is a marriage. If my husband came to me and said "I don't love you anymore I want a divorce" I would ask him to give me some time a few days to think about things, and then we would discuss it. I would leave it up to him if he wanted to stay in the home during that time period, or go stay somewhere else temporarily. I would then try and think about what had or had not been happening within the past few months. I would ask him after a couple of days I would ask him to talk, and try to find out why he thinks he is no longer in love with me, and how long has he been feeling this way. After the conversation if it seems that there is truly no hope in saving our marriage I would respect his wishes.

Sounds to me like there is more to the story than what you are saying. Is the spouse seeing someone because that could be grounds for the other spouse to sue. abandonment. It depends really on what the situation is. My brother was married for 1.5 with no kids but 6 months later she came back and tried to say one was his and it turned out not to be thank god. It's not a classic case but cheating and adultry are the number two reasons people get divorced. The judge has to okay the divorce and if the spouce is saying I want a divorce just because of it then it might be harder for the spouse than for the other person involved. The judge has to agree that there can't come an agreement between you two and then if he decides to sign the paper then it becomes legal. but if he or she has no presidence for the divorce then it might harder doing the divorce. maybe they just need to separate and see if there is something that needs to be worked on.

If two people have been married for ten years and they have not had any obvious marital problem except that they did not have any children then there is no ground for divorce. Courts, at least in India, grant divorce on grounds of incompatibility, but not before extending them another chance to reconsider their decision. If ever I find myself in such a situation then of course I would try to save my marriage first. I will try my best to avoid an unpleasant situation. I will not just say yes, just because he or she wants a divorce. I will do a little bit self-examination to see where the fault lies. If I were to be blamed then I would correct myself. All you know for the ground that you have mentioned the court would never grant a divorce.

If I love my spouse I will try to fight to make my marriage works. If I truly love her and I don't see anything that is unsurmountable I would give my all to make my marriage work. I will talk it out with her and even try to go to counselling sessions if needed. I also try to give her time to reflect on her decisions. I will try to fix what she does not like in me. If after all this she still wants a divorce, yes I would grant it. It is no use to be with someone who does not want to be with you.

You mean I married for love and not to have children and my husband now wants a divorce because he doesn't love me anymore? If the marriage is suppose to be based on love, then I would set him free. He said it point blank he doesn't love me , so it is over.

I would try first to understand what happened to cause him to stop loving me. I would try to work it out if he was willing but if not then whats the point you cant hold on to something that wants to be let go. My husband and I never got along the whole time we were married so when I finally couldnt take it anymore I called it quits after being with him for 8 years and married for 6. He was devestated but to me looking at our whole marriage it should have been obvious that it was over before it started.

My first question is how long has my spouse/lady-friend/lover etc been feeling this way and can WE try to ""WORK IT OUT"?!

If i were in such situation, I will want to fight for my marriage. Why should I end my marriage just because suddenly he feels that he no longer loves me? I will not give in to his request and try to win his affection back.

wow i think thats hard. will you must have a heart to heart talk to him first. ask him what really is the problem. if she is already seeing someone. try to talk to your friends and family.they can help with your problems.