How will you correct someone without being self-righteous or judgmental?
By mjcookie
@mjcookie (2271)
Philippines
March 10, 2010 2:05am CST
I just noticed that a lot of people become so defensive when they are being corrected for a wrong deed that they have done. They then instantly accuse the people who want to advise them for being judgmental or self-righteous like they haven't sinned at all. Are they being too defensive? What if they really need to be corrected so that they wouldn't go astray again? I know it is a sin to be judgmental and self-righteous, and that we should remove the log off our own eyes first before taking off the speck in another's eyes, so how do you do tell a person that what he/she did is wrong without sounding like "Hey, I am way better and righteous than you"?
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3 responses
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
11 Mar 10
I know what you mean. How I handle this is pretty easy. I'll see the type of personality that someone has. If he or she is the type that can take an advice or something, I would be sincere into giving my opinions. But if he/she is the type that can't take an advice and would go on accusing the minute something like that happens, then I'll stop giving future opinions to that person. Because the only things that they want to hear are not about those topics, so I shall skip them.
I do that, too. Sometimes even when I haven't met the person yet I can sort of see what kind of person he/she is.
Thanks Zed.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
we really cant avoid nor change those kind of people maybe the only thing that will change them by doing that is if they experience it themselves. like if someone wrongfully judge them. sometimes people only realize things if it also hit them but a for the moment they will keep on doing it till they experience it.
@allknowing (133556)
• India
10 Mar 10
Depends who corrects whom. There are situations where the one who corrects is an authority over the one who is being corrected and there I don't think there will be much of resistance or defence. But taking law in ones hands and going about it with the 'holier than thou' attitude there, one is bound to defend oneself.
