What age should young girls have a boyfriend?
By pastorkayte
@pastorkayte (2255)
United States
March 10, 2010 12:31pm CST
I have shuttered at the answers I recieved, and most say 14 years old. I think 16 is the right time and maturity for a girl to have her first boyfriend. She is old enough to just say NO! if asked to do intimate things before she is ready, and her emotional and psychological situation is much different than it was when she was a child. What do you think the right age for dating is for a teenage girl.
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18 responses
@younggindamix (16)
• United States
11 Mar 10
I would have to say that 16 is more an appropriate age for a young teenage girl to start dating. i dont think they are completely mature, but definately mature enough to know when they are ready to be intimate.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
12 Mar 10
i told my daughter 25 lol.. but i think her first b/f she was like 16 or 17.
@pastorkayte (2255)
• United States
14 Mar 10
I told my daughter she could have her first boyfriend as soon as she got married, LOL, didnt work though.
@phyrre (2317)
• United States
11 Mar 10
I don't think there's really a "right" age. Every girl is different. Some are more mature than others. For example, I was way more mature than my sister was even though she was 2 years older than me.
I had my first "boyfriend" at 12. The most we ever did was hug and the relationship didn't last very long. That's how just about all relationships were at that stage with our peers, too.
I know a lot of people who started dating at 14, though, who ended up marrying their boyfriends and ended up turning out just fine. Then again, I know others who didn't, too. For me, I didn't have a real boyfriend until I was 16, but if I had found someone before that then I would've dated them because I was ready for dating.
Besides, I know how well forbidding kids from dating works. From my experience, it doesn't. My sister's mother told her that she wasn't allowed to date anyone until she was 16. She ended up sneaking out and seeing people behind her parents' back and hiding everything. My mother preferred that I date and be able to tell her what was going on and her know about everything in the situation (and I always have and always will answer everything she asks honestly).
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@goldenrose2 (281)
• India
11 Mar 10
i think that it is not a measurable task. because love is such an feeling it may come in any age or any time. there is no control of it whinin anyone in the world...
@bestylish (922)
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
To be honest with you, I prefer having a boyfriend after getting a job. 14 yrs. old is just too young (in my opinion). I am currently 16 and never had a boyfriend. I guess in our school, boyfriends and girlfriends aren't that popular though it's a co-ed. There are couples but only a few. What I'm saying is true. There are students ranging 30-50 each highschool year (no sections just one class every year). There are 4 years (Freshmen, Sophomores, Juniors and Seniors). An estimation of couples- not more than 10. There are crushes but there's only few boyfriends/girlfriends.
@pastorkayte (2255)
• United States
14 Mar 10
Thank you this is very helpful from a teenager perspective and a very grown up comment.
@AmbiePam (93882)
• United States
11 Mar 10
I would agree. So many people think it is okay for girls to have boyfriends whenever, but dating very young increases the likelihood of pregnancy, and of course STDS. Parents can trust their kids all they want, but the reality is that no matter how mature one's daughter is, young is still young. Maybe a couple of decades ago dating at a younger age would be less objectionable to me. But times have changed. Sure kids fooled around decades ago, but the level of promiscuity now days blows the statistics back then away.
@goldenrose2 (281)
• India
11 Mar 10
it is the matter of love. we have no control over love. but addiction is making harmful in the love for the youngs. so, parents should talk openly with their child what can u do, what u can't or try to avoid over love and addiction.
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
19 Mar 10
I also think 16 is the right age for a young girl to have a boyfriend. It's the time that she is getting prepared for adult life and I think it's more mature to have a boyfriend at this age. 14 is too young.
@markroderick (888)
• Philippines
19 Mar 10
For me young girls can have a boyfriend at the age of 16 or 18. It only depends on them how to handle the relationship. As we all know that there are lots of advantage and disadvantages. Since teen pregnancy is more common nowadays. IF i have a daughter i would tell her to know more the guy she dates. And most importantly she has to introduce the guy to us.
@jd107nette (1454)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
i agree.. 16 sounds well enough.. i don't think 14 is appropriate.. she would only be manipulated if the guy is much older and swayed to imitate the others or experiment if the guys is at her age...
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
21 Mar 10
I agree with you that the age 16 is a reasonable for a daughter to start dating. But in my opinion, I think either a daughter or a son to start dating. I think that it should not be singled out to just girls. I agree, that the age 14 is still just too young. In this time so many younger people are getting pregnant and everything and you are right at least at the age of 16 they'll know how to say no and so on. And know how to make the right choices for them.
@Ramseslll (16)
• Finland
11 Mar 10
Well what I think is that everyone is kinda different and some can be ready to date already at 12-14, when some ones are ready when their 15-18. And girls can also start asking for boyfriends to date and not just the other way.
@xielkeith (4)
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
i had my first boyfriend when i was 17 years old and it was a great deal for my family because they think that 17 is still too young. they are very conservative in terms of these things. but until now at the age of 19, i'm still with that same person. i think that this shows that age doesn't necessarily matter as long as that person knows his or her limitations and knows his or her responsibilities and priorities in life.
@pilson (94)
• United States
20 Mar 10
i think different countries may have different answers, in China, it is impossible for a girl of 14 or 16 years old to get a boyfriend. apart from the girl herself, her parent would not agree with their daughter to get a boyfriend so young. i think 19 is a suitable age for a girl to have her first boyfriend, however, many people still don't agree with me because they think it is still too young. actually, many people hope their first boyfriend be their last boyfriend, this means that they want to find husbands.
@lakerfanster (2577)
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11 Mar 10
When they feel ready, I think teenagers are more mature now than before and should know when they are ready for a boyfriend or girlfriend. I think 16 is too old for most and it could hang over your head and be a burden.
@arreolabryan (856)
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
It is not age that should be the case but the maturity of the child even if she is ten years old it will be ok as long as she knows how her limits and she know what to do...