They Don't Like Me on Facebook

@2wicelot (2945)
March 10, 2010 4:43pm CST
Unlike most people I know, I am not really into facebook and other virtual social networking stuff. I have a facebook page but I usually only check it if someone sends me a message or something. I also have very few friends on facebook. Some weeks back I was looking through the friend list (cos it is short) I realised someone had removed me from their friend list. A few weeks later I checked and yet another person has removed me again. Is that how it works on facebook? Just because a person is not active you remove them from your friend list?
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@maezee (41988)
• United States
10 Mar 10
I've actually found that the opposite is true in my case. I might add someone that I only sort of know, or know through a friend-of-a-friend, and I've found that when they are CONSTANTLY updating and constantly hogging my "news feed" up with their new status posts every 10 minutes, I get a little agitated and might just delete them. But that could just be me!
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@2wicelot (2945)
11 Mar 10
That is interesting. I guess those people are on the opposite side of the spectrum. I guess some people are really addicted to facebook. You probably have hundreds of friends on your list.
• United States
11 Mar 10
Yes maezee, that is very irritating. I don't have time to view my Facebook all of the time and I miss things sometimes because someone is always putting something up. Luckily, I don't have anyone who constantly updates, and I'm glad because everything is too fast paced as it is.
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
12 Mar 10
I have known people who deleted their facebook accounts, so it may not be because you were not active, maybe they decided to delete their account. I have a friend who does that a lot becuase of his job. He ends up getting pictures tagged of him doing things that the company would not approve of so he just deleted the profile.
@2wicelot (2945)
13 Mar 10
Deleting the account all together may be a harsh way to solve the problems. In my case, they are still active on facebook. I searched for them recently and their accounts are active. I guess I would just keep quiet and see if they contact me.
11 Mar 10
There have been accidental deletions from time to time, I wouldn't worry about it too much hun, if they are genuine friends they will contact you again
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@2wicelot (2945)
11 Mar 10
Probably a facebook glitch. I guess I would just wait to see if and when they contact me again. If they don't then i guess I wouldn't let it bother me.
@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
11 Mar 10
I don't really think facebook is very cool either. The only good thing about facebook is that I have some friends that I actually know in real life on there but other then that I don't have much uses for that site. If I'm going to use a social networking site I would rather use mylot or peoplestring because they aren't greedy like facebook and take all the site's earnings for themselves. Mylot and peoplestring brought it to my attention that sites like facebook and myspace are making so much money off of us that they could be sharing a little bit of the profits because we are the ones earning their money.
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@2wicelot (2945)
11 Mar 10
That is an interesting way to look at it. On mylot you keep in touch with friends and earn some money too. I guess that is better.
@RobtheRock (2433)
• United States
11 Mar 10
I think it depends on who you're friends are. I have old friends and relatives. I also have those who Friend me for games like Bloodlines. I'd be hurt if one of my old friends and relatives or someone I just met (who I communicate with) were to remove me. I try to check "likes this" for all my friends to let them know I'm still with them. But I only check "likes this", if I actually like it. Here on myLot, I don't have the time to communicate with all my new friends. But I try to comment on their discussion boards as much as possible. That's the best way I can be a friend right now.
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@2wicelot (2945)
12 Mar 10
Sometimes we are too busy to be on facebook. Or perhaps we are not that interested at this particular time. But it could all be different in the future.
• India
11 Mar 10
YEs my friend samething in my account also some people will neglect us but they don't know about this what can happen
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@2wicelot (2945)
12 Mar 10
Exactly. Like I said before, we may not be active on facebook now but we may be in the future.
@peavey (16936)
• United States
11 Mar 10
I'm not into Facebook either, but my kids are. I got a friend request from my daughter after she'd been on my friend's list for weeks. I know I didn't delete her. It seems that she got deleted by the software somehow, so maybe that's what happened to you?
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@2wicelot (2945)
11 Mar 10
I am beginning to think it may be glitch from facebook. May be they did not delete me deliberately.
@GardenGerty (160708)
• United States
11 Mar 10
A lot of people will do that here as well if they do not see you being active in their discussions. That is just their nature, to clean up the list.
@2wicelot (2945)
11 Mar 10
Clean up their list. That is weird. But I would think friends are forever. If they are not active now, they may be in the future. Anyway, that is just my opinion.
@dbeast (1495)
• India
11 Mar 10
Hi,It is not because they do not like you they would have taken you off their list.Most of the people have only active users who interact with them on their list.Because at the end of the day that is the reason for the networking site.To keep in touch.So do not worry too much about it. Once you are active you will automatically be added again.
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@2wicelot (2945)
11 Mar 10
It is supposed to be a way to keep in touch with friends especially the long lost friends. But I guess I shouldn't be bothered if I get deleted.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
11 Mar 10
I am not a facebook fan either. I have only a few friends there and some family members. I don't see facebook as an interesting place except probably for the games and which I am not interested in playing. I don't usually delete anyone once they are in my list.
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@2wicelot (2945)
11 Mar 10
I have a similar approach to facebook too. But I guess I shouldn't be bothered because some people decided to delete me from their list.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
11 Mar 10
i guess it happens everywhere. if you are not already satisfied with the friendship you got there, you can remove them if you want or you can leave it there. but all my friends at facebook are still there.
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@2wicelot (2945)
11 Mar 10
I would think friends are forever. But then it could be because of a glitch from facebook.
@jlamela (4898)
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
If there are your friends even if you are not active they should not delete you. I have very few friends also in my facebook and only log in if there are messages I received in my emails, there are some of my friends in my list too that are not active but I never deleted them.
@2wicelot (2945)
11 Mar 10
I am exactly like you. I have few friends on my list and I usually log in when I get a message in my email. I would think friends are forever.
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
Me too. . .Im not really into a facebook or any social networking site. I had an account. I just checked whether my friend sends me a message or comments and other stuff in the facebook, but i never experience that kind of thing. Well maybe it was some sort of technical issues that facebook are trying to solve. Happy Mylotting
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@2wicelot (2945)
11 Mar 10
I am similar to you in that respect. But I don't think friends should be deleted. If they are not active now, they may be in the future.
@kaylachan (69909)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
11 Mar 10
I hardly spend any time on facebook. My friends list is real short, only about 20 people in total. So far though No one I know has removed me from their friend lists due to inactivity. but except for a couple they are people I know either irl, or from other online sites. So they know my patterns so its not really an issue with them I guess.
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@2wicelot (2945)
11 Mar 10
I have a short friends list too. I guess that is why it is easy to notice if someone is missing from the list. Some people have over a thousand friends. Are those really friends?
@LeeHolt (433)
10 Mar 10
Hi, It could be a mistake, one of my RL friends asked me what was up with me removing them from friends, and I never did! Also, if they are not real friends that you have one your friendslist, then don't take it to heart, could have just been having a clean up on the list! Lee.
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@2wicelot (2945)
11 Mar 10
You are probably right. It could be a problem with facebook itself. But most likely they were trying to trim down there friend list. I guess I would just have to try not to let it bother me.
@Torunn (8607)
• Norway
10 Mar 10
I've removed a few "friends", but not because they were inactive, but because I'm not really sure why I accepted them in the first place. I haven't added a lot of people, most of my friends have added me, and a couple of them were more people I've met once or twice than friends. I have friends on facebook that hardly ever are there, but I don't delete them because of that, I just make sure that if I want to contact them I don't use facebook :-) It can be a mistake though, facebook has its issues. Or they have left facebook? A friend of mine once left it for some months, first everyone were upset "She doesn't like me anymore!", then we realized she had removed all her friends.
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@2wicelot (2945)
11 Mar 10
It is possible they have left facebook. I never thought that was possible. But then it could just be a glitch from facebook.