My friend's husband got mad to my hubby....
By rajaiv0810
@rajaiv0810 (1012)
Philippines
March 10, 2010 6:13pm CST
Three weeks ago we went to the birthday party of my bestfriend's son. The whole troop were there with their children too. Of course as expected we got lots of photos.
One of our friends, Bing, always jokes around that my husband is her boyfriend. It has been like 10 years joke to all of us. Definitely, I am not bothered about it coz I know that it was just a joke. We were all in the same industry before, as I was working as a medical representative too.
Now here's what happened, as we were all joking we took some photos of them, in fact I was the one who took 1 photo and it was like a sweety sweety thing kinda pic. It was just for a laugh and no other meaning at all because I am 100% confident that they don't have a thing. My besfriend, the host and the owner of the cam posted our photos in Facebook. And we, the troop, made some comments on the photos including the pic of Rico and Bing. In my comment, it was like I sounded angry but actually not.
Now the husband of Bing saw the photos, he got it printed and showed it around to his circle of friends and family. He didn't even bother to ask first Bing what was that photo all about before he showed it around. Definitely, his friends and family got angry with his wife and my husband. They were saying that they really have an affair, and I am such a martyr not to say anything about it, they feel sorry about me coz I am hurt etc.
Bing and her husband got an issue before and it was because of that issue the trust of her husband was destroyed. I think in a way, I could understand it if he will get mad but showing the photos without even asking was a little bit absurd i think. He just jumped into conclusions and even dragged his wife into a further embarrassment. I think they could have discussed it first. Now he wants our apology because we took and posted those photos. He has been calling us snakes and traitors. He said we are selling his wife.
We hate the fact that we were called out these names now and we think we don't owe him any apology. If he didn't over react no negative comments can come out from his family and friends. He was so close minded.
Do you think we owe him an apology? Have we really gone overboard and crossed the line without even taking into consideration his feelings? Or should we just let them fix their own problems? The photos were taken out of FB already.
4 responses
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
11 Mar 10
Rajaiv you owe him NOTHING! Bings husband is looking for a reason to get mad. That's why he didnt ask her what the picture was about. Maybe he's looking for a reason to break up. Since Bing hadnt done anything he was using this as a reason.Maybe the photos were a bit much still he has to remember that Bing was in on it too. She was the one that allowed it. Not your husband. Not you.As far as selling his wife goes, he is ridiculous! How are you selling her when no one's buying? This whole thing has been blown out of porportion. But for some reason I think Bing's husband is looking for a reason to call it quits. I hope to heaven that I am wrong but why would he make a big deal out of something that has been a joke for over 10 years. Dont be his scapegoat! It's just NOT FAIR! Good luck to you and to bing. Happy MyLotting dl
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@rajaiv0810 (1012)
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
You know what, we also think the same. We really think that he's just making that pic as an excuse to blow up the situation between him and his wife. He should have thought that no stupid wife would allow her husband to cheat right in front of her face. We're really mad at what he did because he was actually the one who put his wife into an embarrassment and not us as we are all aware of those photos in fact in some photos I was there. It was not even like they were kissing or what. Nothing obscene was in the photos nor you would give meaning if you don't have a malicious mind. Now his family and friends are mad with Bing and her reputation has been tainted because of it.
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@dloveli (4366)
• United States
12 Mar 10
The sad part is that if his family and friends were intelligent they would see that you're not mad with Bing. In fact you're supporting her. If she was having an affair with your husband, you would be pissed. Mr. Perfect(bings husband) must be having a ball playing the martyr. Thank god she has you and your husband as friends. Next thing they'll be saying that you're not mad because its a threesome. Then you know hubby is looking for sympathy. He's a dork! Happy MyLotting. Please stop lending out your hubby for photos.lol He must be a hottie. You go girl! dl
@krisnel (498)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
i think that the husband of bing cant take it anymore, though it is not true. both parties have fault on that. from the start bing should think what would be the reaction of his husband if he might see the picture. she should tell it to his husband that they had a sweet photo but just for laugh. her husband after seeing the picture should ask her all about. he should not showed it to his family and friends. explain to bings husband about the stories behind the picture. but never try to resolved their problems.
@rajaiv0810 (1012)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
Well yes I talked to him finally and told him that he got nothing to worry coz nothing is going on. If they have problems try to resolve it within them.
@tamarafireheart (15384)
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11 Mar 10
Hi rajaiv,
That is the worst thing to do, to have it plastered all ove the FB, some people are small minded, two always make 2 and 2 makes 8, and their imagination runs away with them, if your friend's husband cannot trust his wife, there is only on thing I can think of is he has cheated before and now thinks his wife has, the phot is just an excuse.
Tamara
@basqui (3888)
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
Rajaiv. not all people think the same. For you and your husband and your friend, it is just a joke but maybe for your friend's husband, it isn't. And for the fact that their relationship has a glitch once before then it is possible for the husband to think that his wife is having an affair... To think of, it seems that their relationship is on rough waters and there's a possibility that the boat they're riding may sink.
