Guess what my Idiot Ex has done now!
By jennybianca
@jennybianca (12912)
Australia
March 10, 2010 7:13pm CST
He took the tent poles and pegs from my tent. He left me the tent, which I had years before I met him. But its no good without the poles and pegs.
I emailed his lawyer about this yesterday, and rang his work and left a message on the answering service. I emailed him at work and home. He has put a block on his email addresses but I know how to overcome that.
My daughter needed the tent yesterday. Well, really she needs it this weekend for a cancer fundraiser event she is participating in. But she wanted to set up the tent and decorate it with signs, etc.
I tried to buy replacement pegs and poles this morning, but it seems poles cost so much that it is cheaper to buy a new tent. I will have to buy one this afternoon, as my daughter will be terribly disappointed if she can't have her own.
I have tried to ring his lawyer again this morning, but of course she hasn't replied yet.
I am so p.... off. Now I will have to spend $100 buying a new tent.
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22 responses
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
11 Mar 10
He is just trying to get you upset. You are falling for it. I would not let him get the satisfaction of knowing how upset you are over this. I realize that a tent is alot of money, but it would be worth it to not have to deal with him, and letting him know that he got to you.
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@GardenGerty (160663)
• United States
11 Mar 10
My hubby suggests that you might get poles and pegs at a military surplus store. Here in the states he used to shop in those stores. Hope you have good luck with shopping.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
11 Mar 10
If the tent was just for me, I would agree with what you are saying, but it was for my 16 year old daughter to use for a major cancer fund raising event.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
11 Mar 10
Hi Garden gerty
Never thought of that. We have a military surplus store in the city. Too late to go there and look for this occassion, as my daughter needed the tent real soon, but I dont want to waste my current tent. Tell your hubby thanks.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
11 Mar 10
Why did he take the poles and pegs to spite you. He has no use of the poles and pegs without the tent. He is something else. Especially to do this to your daughter when she needs it for such a good cause. I would give his lawyer the bill for the new tent since it was your tent to begin with. He had no right stealing your belongings.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
11 Mar 10
He just doesnt want to return it, to make my life difficult.
What a horrible person.
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
11 Mar 10
What a petty idiot. Just look forwarded to the day when he runs out of stupid crap to pull OR he gets committed!!
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
11 Mar 10
BTW if your daughter needs the tent for a cancer fundraiser then you should be able to deducted the $100.00 from your taxes as a donation.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
12 Mar 10
He certainly needs his mental health assessed, but I dont think its going to occur unless he has a breakdown. My lawyer said ex's do crappy things like this all the time.
I can claim a tax deduction for direct donations only (cash). I cant claim any purchase I make, even if it is to support charity. Im up to date on tax laws, as that is what Im studying.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
11 Mar 10
Hi Jenny,
Your ex really is a loser isn't he? Guys do that just trying to get a rise out of you. Both of my exes slowly cleared me out of everything I owned except for my clothes. I just said, " go right ahead if it makes you feel better." They even took the kids beds! I replaced everything and they both felt like idiots afterwards and said they would have given me back the stuff....there was no need to replace it. I knew that but I'm very bullheaded and stubborn and wasn't about to give them the satisfaction of a reaction. So what you do is buy a new tent. Let him have those poles and then when you go to court ask for reimbursement of the cost of the new tent you bought. looks like your ex-idiot just bought himself a set of 100.00 poles.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
12 Mar 10
I did end up buying a new tent late yesterday. So, yes, he now has poles he cant do anything with.
I have written to his lawyer, giving them 7 days to finalise my ex's property left lying around my house, and the return of mine. If there is no reply, I dump it or sell it.
Sounds like your ex's played infantile games too.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
12 Mar 10
Ya, they did and that is why I just won't even live with a guy again. I've started up over too much. I love living on my own and not answering to anyone. I'm glad you are getting rid of this guy and standing up for yourself with his lawyer. If he plays too many games, his lawyer will dump him and you'll have it made. I hope your keeping notes so to bring these things up in court. Good luck with this. It sounds as if he is just burning himself.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
12 Mar 10
What a sad jerk! I knew someone like that years ago, he agreed to a divorce only to contest it at the last minute just to piss her off, he did this three times and to take tent pegs would be something he would do just to be an immature child in the hope of making his ex angry! Don’t give him the satisfaction to let him know that he has annoyed you because it sounds as though that is what he wants, the man is an idiot if he has done this on purpose. It is another confirmation that you are in the right place right now because you are no longer with him!
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
13 Mar 10
In my email to his lawyer, I called his behaviour "infantile."
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
13 Mar 10
yes, petty is a good word to describe his behaviour for sure!
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
12 Mar 10
Hello jenny, you are bringing back memories, albeit very unplesant to me. That is the sort of thing my ex did, take things that were mine before we met, and that weren't even any use to her. Good luck, and I hope he sees reason in the future.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
13 Mar 10
I cant imagine why he would want the poles & pegs without the tent!
@recycledgoth (9894)
•
11 Mar 10
Jeez that's mean, what a rotten thing to do. I know you now have to spend out good money on a new tent but at least your daughter won't be disappointed hun.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
12 Mar 10
Yes, I had to buy a new tent and she is very happy with it.
@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
11 Mar 10
OMG..he's just stooping to pettyness.
when it affects the child,that's totally wrong.(not that it's good to do to former spouse either).
when it affects the child,that's totally wrong.(not that it's good to do to former spouse either).1 person likes this
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
12 Mar 10
That's just it.. you hot the nail on the head.. It is not so much myself that is the issue here, as he will want to be mean no matter what to me. But to disdavantage my daughter like that is damn insensitive.
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
11 Mar 10
wow that is evil and it seems he was fully aware of what he was doing before it happen, after you purchase the new tent I believe you should request he pay for it, being that he had no right to take it in the first place.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
12 Mar 10
I would have no hope of getting him to pay for it. He wont even pay his share of the electricity and water bills when we were still together.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
12 Mar 10
I bought a new tent late yesterday, but it's much smaller than the one with the missing poles.
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
11 Mar 10
What good would the poles and pegs be without the tent? It sounds like he just took them to spite you. I hope you don't have to give him anything in the divorce! He sounds like he needs help!
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
12 Mar 10
I think he probably accidently took them. What annoys me is that he or hios lawyer wont even respond to my request to return them.
I will have to give him money in the property settlement.
@kaylachan (69670)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
11 Mar 10
Some people are real idiots. What ran through his mind? What point was he trying to prove? Nevermind, I highly doubt anyone knows. Does this guy have a phycyerterist? He needs one. If he took the tent poles and pegs he should have taken the tent too. Are you sure he has them? Or, did you possibly misplace them?
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
12 Mar 10
Both my daughter and I have had a good look for the poles and pegs, and they definitely are not there. One would think if my ex didnt have them, he would have at least replied via his lawyer saying that.
Yes, he needs to see a phsychologist, but he wont.
@washingtonmark (367)
• United States
11 Mar 10
that is a very ignorant thing to do, I think I would just buy a new tent and give him an earfull about the old one.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
12 Mar 10
I have bought a new tent for my daughter and sent an email to his lawyer giving her and him an earful!!
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
11 Mar 10
Wow. That's certainly an...interesting...thing to do! I mean, he clearly did this just to be vindictive, I can't see how you would take the poles without taking the tent, too. (Although I've lost the poles to my tent, argh)
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
12 Mar 10
Hes being vindictive by not returning them or even replying to my requests about them,.
@GardenGerty (160663)
• United States
11 Mar 10
I am so sorry. Of course he will say "It was an accident" long after your daughter does not need them anymore.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
11 Mar 10
Probably he did accidently take them. But why, cant he or his lawyer respond to my numerous queries today and yesterday regarding it. I know he has no intention of returning them.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
11 Mar 10
For sure, he couldnt care less about them!
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
12 Mar 10
He probably accidently took them, but now he wont return them or even reply to my messages about it.
Sorry your mother had to put up with this sort of crap too.
@krisnel (498)
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
why does your ex doing that. is he out of his mind. he never think that it is yours not his own. and he left the tent only. he was trying to make you feel disgusted or upset. if i were you dont waste your time on that. buy your daughter a new tent. if you were going to call his lawyer about the tent he will think that it is a big deal for you. what you need to do is to relax and to think of your daughters need and support. your ex he is crazy. just make him a laughing stock and you will feel at ease and enjoy.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
12 Mar 10
Im hoping to end up making him a laughing stock. Soon, he will have nothing to laugh about.
I bought my daughter a new tent yesterday.
