How do you deal with differences in your relationship?
By intelpink
@intelpink (163)
Philippines
March 10, 2010 11:54pm CST
Many couples are having a hard time in working on their relationship just because of the differences in their likes, attitudes and way of doing things. For example, a girl doesn't want an untidy boyfriend so she keeps on saying that to her boyfriend and in return her boyfriend doesn't care about his appearance and become annoyed about it. This is just an example how two people vary. Some people doesn't want to watch movies and some does, some wants to spend time more on seating and chatting while others don't. In all these differences, I think the best thing to do is to meet half way love the person as he or she is and live a life with him/her. If you want to change a person change your attitude first towards him/her then you can suggest. Just suggest and not insist an idea that you want, if he/she does it then it's good and if he/she didn't it still okay. How about you? What would be your solution to these differences?
12 responses
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
12 Mar 10
The key to deal with the differences is to be understanding each other... And of course, both of the partners have to be understanding.. I don't suppose that both partners will be able to understand, equally. If one is less understanding then the other should be more understanding... We're all different and we have good qualities, as well as drawbacks.. Keeping this in mind, if all of us approach our sweethearts, I think we'll be free from relationship issues... Have fun!!!
@mardvil (18)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
Common problems to couples; you must have a lots of patience and knowledge on how to deal with this problems. Bottomline if both love each other well then this can be an easy task. One must not be demanding, he or she must use lovely method of encouragement to achieve goals. Good luck.
@ladyhaly (92)
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
One word: Compromise. Let's face it: Relationships take work. Communication--- lots of talks--- are necessary in order to keep the love alive. And if love doesn't really feel like it's there anymore? Well, it's the friendship then. It isn't always rainbows and butterflies... And there are several ways to fix problems... Like with movies, taking turns seems fair. And knowing one's roles and responsibilities... Your partner has to adjust to you and you have to adjust to him too. It takes two to tango, after all, and relationships aren't just about you.
Accommodation is an element that has to be present between the two of you. It's a give and take thing... And it works.
@cris_noverence (60)
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
a relationship cannot be strengthen when on of the individuals in the relationship has a vested interest in exercising power over the other. A couple must be able to demonstrate a full commitment to enhancing communication in order to sustain,secure and maintain a healthy relationship.
@srybouturcouch (21)
• United States
11 Mar 10
compromise is definitely the key. It may seem tedious at first, but in the long run not always doing things the way you want will make things more exciting. The key is a balance as long as there is some sort of balance between things being done your way and things being done your partners way things will be happy. Bottom line is a relationship wouldn't be as fun if you always got things the way you wanted them.
@debshie (392)
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
Being in a relationship means having to compromise. There are no two people who are alike and these differences add spice to the relationship. You just have to learn how to compromise and understand each other to make it work. It is a constant effort and it never stops.
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
i think there is no problem having differences in a relationship because you already said the answer. i think what you said is right. just suggest and not insist. well, i believe in the saying "opposites attract". like my parents, they're like exact opposites and they really argue about different things but until now, they're still happy together, they're more than 20 years married. :)
@sharlionse (739)
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
understanding is the key for a good and lasting relationship. Having in mind that there will come a time that you two will have misunderstanding and differences, you'll realize that you have prepared for it long before and got nothing else to do but understand each other.
@fheroan (615)
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
HEllo there intelpink....
You're right sometimes couples do have a hard time to work their relationship because of their likes and dislikes.. So i believe in relationships, each one need to sacrifice sometimes, or just advice each other, its up to ur partner if they want to change or not...
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
11 Mar 10
differences, for me, will add harmony to a relationship because with a difference, between one another can understand and appreciate each other. So the solution, in my opinion, should not meet demand partly or fully other parties ... A good solution is to understand the reasons why the other party can not meet demand
@krisnel (498)
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
me and my boyfriend have some differences and have some similarities too. with our differences for example in our character he is quiet and i am the outspoken. i never want him to change for me to be like me but i am using my tactic so that whatever he wants to say will come out. i always ask him of anything that i do not know that he knows. with our differences we both try to understand and to reachout each other. do not make your partners to change just because you told him so, let your partner realize that it is for him too.
