Is it okay for you to live with your parents in law?
By intelpink
@intelpink (163)
Philippines
March 11, 2010 12:13am CST
This is the hardest question that can be answered by yes for the newly couples. They say that a person normally doesn't want to live with his/her mother in law, especially because they say that mother in laws are monsters in law. They say, having parents in law in one house is like living in hell and with police officer in the family because they usually take the authority and they want their decision to be followed. Well, in many families that I have seen, this is true though. But my suggestion is that, couples should really have their own house and not live with the parents in law because that's what God made married couples to be, that they should separate from their families and live together and build their own home. I would suggest that a married couple can only live with their parents in law for a short time like less than a year and not with their whole life because this too will help them to live and decide on their own and be responsible enough for it, even if their parents in law are good or bad.
8 responses
@saanjh (784)
• India
11 Mar 10
I disagree with you because I'm a girl and I can say that I can stay with parents in law if I can live with my parent's then why I will not live with my parent's in law they also like our parent's if we think that they are also our parent's then they will also think that we are like there children. If we change our mentality every problem will solve. I'm also engaged my parent's in law treat me like their child and I also love them a lot.
@nophie (2336)
• Indonesia
11 Mar 10
i agree with you saanjh, because i ever have lived with my mother in law for 2 years, and i think it didn't matter. it's natural if sometimes we are not agree with her opinion, culture, behave, etc. because of their culture is very different with mine. but it's ok. i love her son, why i didn't love their fam, did i saanjh? 
@laurenban (194)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
I've been in that situation.
Living with in-laws is always never easy and never comfortable for me. I don't know how to act and how to deal with them at first, I thought i would never last for a week but we lasted for a year and 5 months before we get to move to our own house.
There are instances that values and beliefs are in conflict but what I've learned are be true to yourself and don't pretend to be someone you are not, be sensitive to others and always be friendly. I am the one who thrives to make us out of that situation, now that we are living in our own house. I sometimes feel that i missed my in-laws and it is easy when we are at their place because they helped us a lot in chores and taking care of my baby.
I can conclude that living with in-laws is neither easy nor difficult, it only depends on how you deal with them and how you make yourself accept that they are part of your family now.
@churchill1980 (764)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
you are right. a married should couple should have their own house to live and not live with either of their in laws. i think i am lucky that when i and my husband get married,he already have a house for us. i cannot see myself living with my in laws, although they have a good attitude towards me, but still i will not feel comfortable to be with them, knowing that i have my daughter with me from my previous relationship.
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
I have to say it is known here in the country for married couples to stay with their in-laws. I have to say I am still here for circumstances I could not avoid. But if I really have enough funds then I would definitely go and have my own place instead. Living with my in-laws is of course a bit hard because not everything she wants is what I want so I have to live with their rules here for now.
@grkelly (1206)
• Malta
11 Mar 10
I would never ever even consider living with my parents or parents in law after getting married. They tend to try to have a say in everything, especially childrens upbringing. It is very frustrating and not healthy at all in my opinion. Furthermore there would be little rroom for privacy and too much influenece and tension would be bound to arise even on small matters, starting from what is eaten and what is worn!
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
11 Mar 10
yes, your opinion is right and I believe all couples no one wants to live the same roof with the in-laws but in some cases, both the new bride and the bride has long, plagued by money to buy or rent a house
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
When my husband and I got married, his parents built a house for us just a few steps away from their house. We are living with them but not technically. I think its okay if you are living with your in-laws as long as you can also maintain your privacy and their privacy. Though it sounds impossible to do that, both parties should be willing to adjust with everybody's differences.
My brother and his family are living with my parents in my hometown. My father and brother sometimes have fights but they still know how to respect each others privacy. I think sometimes I am the one meddling with their affairs because I always tell my brother not to fight with my father because father is old and he needs to be patience with him. I hope he's doing it now. It has been months that I didnt visit my hometown.
