What are the most common things that you talk about when you gossip?
By p3ks626
@p3ks626 (6538)
Philippines
March 11, 2010 5:10am CST
We all know that gossiping not a very good thing to do but it became a part of our lives. People talks about other people and people talking about things happening in their lives. Sometimes they talk about the good things but most of the time the bad things.
In my case, my colleagues and I always gossip about the things that are happening in our company. We are not happy about the things that are happening in our company because of some issues like some of our salaries were not given to us. We also have a lot of problems with our manager who doesnt even cater our needs. If there were some problems with us, they dont tell us. Sometimes we think that he is not a manager, just the care taker. We wanted to do something about it but there's no way because all of us are scared of being fired and would have to look for another job. Its a bad situation for us but the only thing we can do about it is just talk. I know its a bad thing but what can we do?
How about you guys? What are the things that you gossip about? What do you do with it? Do you do something to solve the problem or just talk about it too?
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12 responses
@Biomechanoid (2923)
• Estonia
11 Mar 10
I usually gossip about other people. I know it's bad, very bad, but I just can't help it. At least the subject of gossip are usually some bad or reckless people for me, the ones that really deserve that. But not all gossips are negative. Sometimes me and my friends also discuss success of one or another person.
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@Biomechanoid (2923)
• Estonia
12 Mar 10
Haha, sometimes we don't even notice when we start to gossip!
It just comes spontaneously.
It just comes spontaneously.@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
Yeah! Me too. My friends and I also do that. We also know that it is bad and we also cant help it. Maybe we need not to gossip about it, maybe we need to talk to the person concerned because we just cant do it especially that most of the subjects of our gossip is our boss. We really wanted to tell him about our concerns but he can explain it well to. He usually just say, things are confidential especially if he doesnt know what to answer us. Hmmm! I think I am gossiping now. 
You see how serious my problem is about gossiping? 
You see how serious my problem is about gossiping? 
@CrisRodrigues (413)
• Portugal
11 Mar 10
No,I Don't Like Gossiping,Is Enought My Life & Don't Need Know The Lives Of Others!!!!But My Neighboor Sometimes Told Something About Someone & I Told Her,I Don't Wanted To Knew Nothing!!!!So For Me Gossips Are Only The News On TV or Magazines...Ih,Ih,Ih...I Want Know,Only The Importants News For Me,Or Everyone!!!
Good Afternoon,My Friend!!!!
@CrisRodrigues (413)
• Portugal
12 Mar 10
Thanks My Dear Friend,For Your Answer!!!!
Yes Of Course,Life Is So Precious & Short For Dispending Time With Something What Isn't Really Important!!!!
So I Think;"Live & Let Live",I Prefer Learn Or Knowing Something Good For Me!!!!
Have a Wonderful Friday,My Dear!!!
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
You are right! We need not to know the things that are going around with others because its their own lives. We have our lives and they have theirs. There are just so many things that we should care about regarding our lives and thinking about the lives of other people should no longer be our concern. News is enough and that's it. No more no less from them.
You are actually making a good choice telling your neighbor you didnt want to gossip. 
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
11 Mar 10
I'm actually not one who is big on Gossiping...I actually find it quite annoying really..Mind you maybe if I worked or went out or hung out with ppl regularly maybe I would be more prone to gosssip but since I dont do either its not a normal occurance in my life..
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@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
I understand what you mean when you said that gossiping is annoying. There are so many people who just talk about things because they have nothing to talk about and most of the time when they talk, they have to say everything that is negative about something. It is still best to avoid it.
Good for you if gossiping is not a normal occurrence in your life. At least you stay away from it. I know that gossiping should be avoided but sometimes it cannot be avoided and you still have to have a lot of adjustments just to stay away from it. Its sort of hard especially if you are also around people who are fond of gossiping.
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
when we were high school, we often gossip about a lot of different girls in school. well, that was before, when we were at the insecure stage of a girl. right now, we gossip about boys, school, professors and day-to-day issues.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
Girls are usually the ones who are so into gossips. I think that sometimes when we start to gossip, we will always continue gossiping no matter the what the stage is. Sometimes, people talk about something not because they are insecure or what but when they are angry, or have some concerns about somethings. Talking about just anything, is also gossip no matter what the topics are.
In the situation that I presented in this discussion, there are also all girls among the people whom I usually talk to. We gossip a lot about our company and the manager who is really very difficult to deal with. And all of us have mutual feelings about how much we dont like him.
@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
11 Mar 10
I don't generally gossip because I spend a lot of time at my house by myself or with my girlfriend and friends. I try not to gossip because when people gossip they tend to judge and talk badly about other people and I hate to spread negative energy that way. Sometimes when I'm with my friends they will start to gossip about some of our other friends and I absolutely hate being a part of that.
Whenever I hear people talking badly about someone else I usually try to point out the good qualities of that person but even I am guilty of judging people. I want to try and cut that part of me out of my life because no one deserves to have all of their flaws and imperfections picked out and pointed out to people.
I see the beauty in silence because nothing ignorant can be said and you don't say degrading things about good people.
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@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
That's one of the bad things about gossiping because we tend to judge instead of finding out the real situation. Most of the time we talk about the bad things but talking about the bad things doesnt help at all.
I think you are a very good person because you always try to defend others when somebody talks badly about him. That is admirable. People should do that, I should be able to get that kinds of example from you.
Sometimes being silent will also keep you away from trouble. I once heard that if there will be no good things that will come out of our mouth, then we'd better not talk at all. 
Sometimes being silent will also keep you away from trouble. I once heard that if there will be no good things that will come out of our mouth, then we'd better not talk at all. 
@takeshiboy (178)
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
It's about to our high school batch mate who are more beautiful now after 16 years. We're just admiring her because she was more daring and pretty now than 16 years ago.
The topic starts in her picture sent by our batchmate also through email. We're all commented a positive and negative against her picture. However,our batch decided to conduct a grand reunion this year for the first time after 16 years to see her and say thank you to her. Because if the picture did not sent in the email our batch has no time to have a chance to do a get together due to lack of communication after graduation.
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@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
At least you are saying the positive things about her. Maybe there are some people who dont like her that much. I'm pretty sure they are all saying bad things about that person. I experienced being the subject of gossips before when I was in college. People were talking about me not because I am pretty but because of one person who said bad things about me.
It was really unfair for me at that time because people were one-sided. It was so silly of them to believe him too without even trying to know what's in my side. That person hated me so much he wanted other people to hate me too. Only my real friends didnt believe him because they knew the truth about everything. We also let everything be because we believed that everything will turn out right in the end. And we were right, that guy who said so many bad things about me before is having a hard time with his life now. Not that I am saying its good that he is a bad situation but sometimes karma really happens.
@myliezl0903 (2726)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
hi there! thanks for this nice topic .,well it is true that we sometimes gossip or talk about others life ., like for instance a friend of yours has an attitude problem you tend to tell it to someone and ask some advice on how to solve it but not to the point that you have to tell the worst attitude of your friend and mess with her ., for me that is not my way of gossip ., i think it is ok if your intentions are good ., in this way it will eliminate the misunderstanding .,
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
It would be good if people think that way you do but in reality its not. I also try to suggest ways on what we can do about our boss and how he runs the company but they will always end up with the conclusion that even though we are going to talk about ways to solve it, with the kind of boss that we have nothing's going to happen at all. We think its useless.
Anyway, if its constructive then its okay. And I also learned that if there are things that we know about a person which are true about them, we need not tell anybody about it if we know that it will destroy the person's credibility or dignity.
@Nirishasol (879)
• India
11 Mar 10
When ever we gossip our common topic is about dress and about the fashion only because we are students thats the reason we used to talk and we really enjoy this gossip very much.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
I think its better to talk about things like that than talk about things that says negative things to others. Though I am guilty about saying negative things to others, I am also aware of the danger of it. The only thing that we can do now, well maybe, just maybe is to give some constructive criticisms.
@rosegardens (3032)
• United States
12 Mar 10
I don't know if what you are doing is gossip--you have a gripe against a company that sounds like it is not being fair to you. Perhaps you can come up with a solution by talking about it. Work is stressful and you need to vent to someone.
I try really hard not to gossip about others. However, there are days. The person has to offend me or someone who is close to me to cause me to gossip badly about them. I know it is not right, but sometimes I do it. I try hard to find good things to talk about people, and talk them up to others.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
We always talk about the things that we wanted to do and what to do to solve it but we always end up frustrated because there had been a lot of times that some of the people in our company talked to the boss but nothing really happens. We think its useless.
I think it is normal for humans to do that when a person tried to offend them. It is a way to release the anger and disappointment.
Maybe that was what my friend's purpose in saying bad things about me before to comfort himself and be comforted by others bu putting me down. As far as I can remember, I didnt offend him at all. He was my ex-boyfriend actually and after we broke up he said so many things that made people think how nasty I was. Which was not true at all but people believed him. He was so bitter about our break-up that he also wanted my relationship with people to break-up. Maybe this is the reason but I'm not sure.
@rosegardens (3032)
• United States
12 Mar 10
That is terribly frustrating the company has people who care about it, yet do not listen to you. Perhaps the bosses hands are tied from his boss and up the ladder.
Well, it is a good thing you cut that boyfriend loose. If he does something like that, I wonder what he would do if you were married. I had a boyfriend do that, and just like you, people I've known for many years took his side, and he's psycho! lol. Eh, but we find out who our true friends really are in those situations.
I hope the work situation gets better. It sounds like that company is very blessed indeed to have such a group as yours. Happy Mylotting!
@fanficgirl28 (54)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
we usually talk about other people and what's the buzz in their life. We talk about unfair lives and romances LoL. We also spend time in getting more bonded with the rest and talk about our own lives and current stuffs happening. We talk about the past and laugh at it like we couldn't believe ourselves for doing something so ridiculous!
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
Romances are also common topics for gossips. Talking about your own lives, so that means you gossip your own life to them. I do that too. I also share some things to my friends but not all of it. There are some restrictions. My husband doesnt like me doing that but sometimes talking about some things to other people is a way to communicate and help each other. Of course, problems we have at home are not to be gossiped. If we do that then the tendency is we end up in trouble. 
@zahir1985 (60)
• China
12 Mar 10
The same as you! We are always talking about our mean HK manager and the low salary! The job is always boring just beause we dont like it. We wanner do what we like but we cannt!Life is just life and work is work! What makes me happy is that we like talking about the love affairs betweent our classmates!!HAHA
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
I understand what you mean. I just dont understand how they call themselves managers when they dont even know how to manage situations that they have in the company. It is actually very unfair and very unprofessional.
We also talk about other things here aside from our boss. There are some people in the company that we dont like and we also talk about the reason why we dont like them. oops!
I actually feel scared when it comes to talking about them and our boss. I didnt want them to have an idea about what we are saying but I know they already have. We are also sure some people are talking about us too. Well, what would you expects. Gossip begets gossip!
@zahir1985 (60)
• China
14 Mar 10
U R so right. I really dont know why they consider themselves as the managers. They do not know how to manage the situations. They do just know how to make the boss be happy!!!!
@goldenrose2 (281)
• India
12 Mar 10
i never like gossips. actually if few persons have nothing to do and sitting together they gossips most of the time. but not thinking, if u gossip other, thay also make some gossip over u. then do u like anyone make any gossip over u?
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
I am guilty of gossiping and we are aware of the fact that since we gossip then you are also being gossiped by other. It is expected with the kind of attitude that we have. I dont really expect good things out of it because we are also not doing a good thing. Of course we dont want people to gossip about us but they already are and we are too. Maybe I really have a very bad attitude sometimes because I dont care if they gossip about me or about us at all. We just let them talk anyway its not going to kill us or something. I know its bad, its really bad and I am bad. I actually accept that fact.
