Who are you when no one sees you? Mask off!
By icesmile
@icesmile (7160)
Romania
March 12, 2010 2:43am CST
Who are you when no one sees you?
Are you a person in society and other in your room? In public you are happy, always smiling , joking with everybody, but exudes Goodwill?
But , at home, in your humble the tears you flush and no one is around you and to wipe them? You play and you play dirty and depraved of people to hide behind a mask of eternal happiness dirty work? Who do you think you sell your clown faces happy? Nine will, but you don 't you sell this lie bitter and ironic.
You can lie all world, but maybe only for a period. Finally, they discover who was behind the mask. Or if they did not find, maybe you lose your identity and even yourself will eventually forget who you were .
When no one sees you ; Who are you? How many masks you ware? Have the courage to really show the world who you are? Or you continue to lie to the world and yourself, pretending you are someone who can not be. What lies behind the mask? Off the mask! You exposed!
"Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth." Oscar Wilde
"Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth." Oscar Wilde5 people like this
16 responses
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
12 Mar 10
But let s say say that your work place requires a certain behavior, a certain coldness that have to adopt, because otherwise you can not keep up appearances, when in reality you're not so; here is the problem to be a good actor, is only a conduit.
Sometimes even in the relationship with my children i must take a more serious figure, even if in my soul I want to kiss them.
@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
14 Mar 10
Oh, Icesmile, how provocative your questions can be!
It may be a weakness, or maybe it's a strength - I'm never sure. I am myself, without a mask, at all times. That doesn't mean that I'll be rude or disrespectful, even to those who deserve it, but I will remain silent around them. I bite my tongue quite a lot when dealing with my supervisors at work, who are the rudest people I have ever encountered.
My students and my friends, including you, know that, if asked a question, I'm going to answer truthfully. If they don't want the real me or the truth as I see it, then they should choose someone else to ask!
I never learned to be masked, nor have I ever wanted to do so...
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@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
14 Mar 10
Never too provocative, dear friend.
I often wonder why people bother with those masks. Are they aware there's a lot lacking in their true selves?
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@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
12 Mar 10
Hi Icesmile, I've dual personalities for certain reasons. The nature of my work requires me to be aggressive and sociable, as I'm in marketing and business development. However I'm by nature an introvert, preferring my own company and enjoying lonely intersts such as reading and watching TV/Dvds. So during the evenings, weekends or days off, I'm most happy being myself - anti social and quiet. 
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
12 Mar 10
Your avatar is very telling!
I'm not very extrovert too, I have my world where I must not argue with anyone, just me with me, but, even at work, all wearing a mask is a must, though possibly not as trying to hide even all you feel, who knows me knows that I can always hide how I feel; i must work in it
@freymind (1351)
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
its hard not to wear a mask specially at work or in front of your family and friends if you are hurting inside but doesn't want to tell the others.
though i am what i am outside and inside the house, i'd rather be alone and don't mingle too much in a big crowd. i like my solidarity sometimes. the peacefulness it brings specially when i just came from work. but don't get me wrong i grew up with a big family with lots of relatives and i like going out with them but when at home and in the room i'd rather be alone.
i can be silent at times but also jolly. i am reliable when it comes to secrets..
i tend not to be chatty if i just know you.. i like testing the waters first so not to insult or hurt others.
@Andyvil (793)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
I am usually the same person in front of my friends and family but if I am still not familiar with a person I tend to be silent and observant. People tend to misunderstand it as being serious or strict. I usually show my emotions to people and what I am really feeling. If I am mad at someone then it will really be obvious in my face.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
12 Mar 10
Hi, it means you are an extrovert person, which looks easy and emotions, is very good for you and for others, but my view is that many times,even if you feel nervous, may be better not come in the dispute, may be better just to ignore.
Of course IS not good to hide your anger, and even you can not, if you are honest, but it is better to think twice to respond to anger with anger
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
13 Mar 10
My feelings are private and reserved, but I do share them with those that care for me and are sincere. I let the walls down, and a foundation of trust is built. It's a very easy concept for me. Shun me, and I'll fade away....sincere with me, and I'm there for life. But I don't believe in revenge or wallowing in self-pity and stuff.
@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
13 Mar 10
when i am at home alone, i have no makeup on and i am in my pajamas and robe. i probably look like a mess. i am more put together when i go out somewhere.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
12 Mar 10
with me i took off my mask along time ago, i learned if anyone dont like me for who i am then tough. if they dont like how i do have a soft side, but i do have the harder side. and it depends where and who i am around. i dont pretend for no one.
those who are close to me know i am real as real can be. they seen my tender side but they know and seen my rougher side. i dont play around specail when it comes to my family and kids.
i tell people yeah i might be really smart, might cant spell well, but i do have wisdom, and i do have street smart.
my close friends and family knows if you want to see the soft side of me, put a baby in my arms, specaily my grandkids and great neice.
but as fair as my mask i dont hide behind one anymore.
@my_name_is_coco (4333)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
I do show myself to the world.I take comfort letting people know who I am.if they don't want to see the mask,look into things that I deem "extensions" of myself.I won't be happy if I don't show the real me to the world.I don't have the ability to be somebody else when I am talking to a certain person.if you think my thoughts are crap,I don't care.I am happy when I tell and show the world who I really am.
@marianna45 (1399)
• Romania
12 Mar 10
Generally people who want to seem sarcastic, tough, who are not wiser in real, wear masks, seem more interesting, approachable look that is hard, they need the masks, to cover weakness from inside, and for him they make an inferiority complex.
People who are honest, open, friendly, loyal, no need masks in every situation they are, they laugh when they laugh, cry when they want to cry, and say openly what they think, without being sarcastic.
I prefer people without masks.
I try to be as i am, usually i don t need masks , people must avoid wearing masks. People who wear masks are dangerous.
@kaylachan (69824)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
13 Mar 10
What you see online is prety much who I am as a person. I have a few issues But, who doesn't? That's all part of being normal. I'm not the healthest person and I'll streight up be up front and honest with you about anything. I don't prefer to volenteer information unless I'm asked. I'm honest, friendly, and always trying to do the right thing. Both online and off.
@blocker (23)
• United States
13 Mar 10
Well for the most part to the public I am a very outgoing and confident person. However at home I tend to worry about everything and always afraid that people will not understand me. I was accused of something I did not do (I know they all say that) while I was in the Navy, for that I have to register (I will not go into details on a public form, ask in person [privately] and I will tell you). I am also Bi-Polar and so I sometimes tend to act odd as some may call it. I am also a very emotional person (most guys will not admit this).
@Rallon (441)
• United States
13 Mar 10
In communications class, I learned that in every 2 person conversation there are really 6 people involved! 1st there is who you are trying to portray yourself as, then there is who you think I am, and then thirdly there is who you really are. This goes for each person involved, so that's 6 people carrying on one 2 person conversation! The numbers really start adding up in a group conversation. No wonder you can't believe anything you hear at a party.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
12 Mar 10
It wouldn't be appropriate to say that everyone in the world masks off his real personality, all the time. Yes, we do that. For example, I recently joined a new job and on our first day of work, my co-workers were a little shy to open up and speak more about themselves. We do that all the time, in company of strangers, right? When I am with my friends, real friends; I don't need any mask. All my friends know my education, my work profile, the name of my company, my affairs, one night stands, my horrible ex, and my present girl... I have not hidden these personal things from my real friends...
I stay alone and whenever I am in my room, I prefer to read. Reading consumes a lot of my spare time. Sometimes, I simply lie on the bed thinking about things.. Anything! If I am sad, I cry... If I am happy, then I mutter things to myself... LOL that is fun too.. And I really wouldn't want my friends to know that I talk to myself... ;)
That's all... Have fun Miss!!
@optomyst (47)
• Denmark
12 Mar 10
I am a complete dreamer when I am alone. I will talk about sensible subjects with others, I will always put on the front of having my crap together, but honestly, when I am alone I dream about the better things in life. I see myself taking amazing trips or living in a big house or having lots of money. I could never tell the people I know about the things I dream about, they are all too in the here and now.
