Do you always eat together as a family?

@p3ks626 (6538)
Philippines
March 12, 2010 6:08am CST
My dad is very strict when it comes to eating as a family. He doesnt like it if its already meal time and other members of our family just watch tv or do something else. He wanted all of us to be seated together every meal even if you are not hungry, you just have to sit there. I actually like that because its a good way to spend with the members of you family and talk about your day. However, we were not able to do this anymore when my dad got transferred to work in another city. My sister also got married after a few years. I got married after a few years too and we seldom eat together as a family. All of our family members miss eating together. That's why when we would have the chance to eat together we do it and we have fun all the time. Do you do this in your family? Do you like? How does it make you feel having it?
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@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
13 Mar 10
When I lived at home with my parents, we would always eat together with a family. However, unlike your family, if a member of the family had already eaten or wasn't present, they wouldn't eat with the family. My dad wasn't as strict about it, but we would generally eat together to spend that time together. Now that I'm married, my husband and I never eat at the table. We eat in the TV room on the couch watching TV or a movie. That's kind of the way I've gotten used to eating meals now. I think it's nice because as long as it isn't messy, it's fun to eat with my hubby sitting on the comfy couch while watching something. It's gotten to be a habit now. (LOL) It'll be a different story when we have kids someday!
@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
15 Mar 10
I agree with how you would like your husband to be at the dinner table. I don't think anyone should get up in the middle of a meal. Even though we sit on the couch in the TV room and eat, my hubby and I don't get up during the meal.I know it's not anything official, but it's still a family dinner with both of us so we both eat till we're finished and then get up to get more food or do whatever. I think that's a good habit for you and your husband to get into so that when you have kids everything is set for them as well, and they will know the rules as what is expected of them. Good for you! I sure hope all goes well in you "training" your hubby! (LOL) Thanks for sharing. I enjoyed reading your comment.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
15 Mar 10
My husband and I dont have kids yet but when we will have I am also going to give them the same training that my dad gave us when we were still young. My husband and I always eat together during dinner time but sometimes when he have to do something with the games that he is playing with in the internet, he leaves the table and I dont like that. I wanted him to stay there until he is done eating. I think we still have to work out on that because I dont want my kids to do that. One of the training I had with my dad was to sit at the dinner table until you finish the food on you plate. All the food that we need to eat especially vegetables were already plate-in. We have to finish everything, he didnt want to see anything on our plates as he was really strict but I still appreciate what he did. It was also good for me.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
hello p3ks626, when i am still living with my parents yes, we usually eat together specially when everybody is at home. my parents wants it that way. and i like it as well coz its a good time for family to bond. while eating together, we can talk about each others whereabouts & what about... but when i am already working, and my brother gets busy schooling as well, sometimes we are not able to sit together & eat in some days but again, whenever everyone is in the house we make sure that we will be sitting there together for meal... now that i am already married and no longer living with them, i still eat together with my husband most of the time...yeah, i always wait for him for dinner... its just the 2 of us here in the house and it will be sad if we don't eat together... whenever i am visiting my parents, which happens just once in a year for just a week, we make sure that we spend quality time together...and part of it is eating together! whether in our house or out!@ and whenever i am eating with my whole family...i feel like foods are even tastier and i always have a happy feeling!
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
yeah, its the quality that counts here...and its just good that on that short period of time being together, we were able to catch up for the lost times of being away...and as result, we are talking as if there's no more tomorrow! haha specially with me and my mom...and we even take a bath together! well, in the past, our family also gone through with hard times, we have experienced fighting and not talking to each other (but this is just with my father) huh! yeah, i have some issue with my father before..but everything is good now and those are just thing of the past... oh, that sounds great! i hope you enjoy that moment with your family... and make it a memorable one...but i think most activities that we do with our family is memorable... wish you the best and have a good day!
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
Even though it happened only a few times in a year, it is still good because it happened. And yeah, it is about the quality time that you had together. It is more important than quantity time spend together but just fighting or something. But I think you dont do that in your family. It has been a year too that we havent ate together as a family in a restaurant because we didnt get to do it because I was not in my hometown last Valentines day. We usually eat out together during valentines but it didnt happen this year because things became so busy. But by this month, we are going to have it because the rest of my family is coming for a visit at the end of the month. Isnt that great?
@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
12 Mar 10
I normally eat alone in front of my PC sometimes with a DVD playing, but on occasion I go over to my parents' house to eat with my mother, and on rare occasions with both my parents. I should do it more often, because I think it's possible to become excessively isolated these days what with the TV, the internet and so on. Which I find sad.
• United Kingdom
13 Mar 10
I don't...
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
I think you should do it more often too. The internet is not everything about life. We can always think of ways we can live life to the full and helping other live their lives to the fullest too especially if it comes to you and you family. Maybe your parents also like the idea having you there with them eating dinner. Though we already have our own lives, we should never forget the people who are an essential part of our lives.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
25 Aug 10
We definitely always try to eat as a family together. When I was growing up this was very important to me because of the fact that it was the main time that we were all able to spend time together. That said, now that I'm grown and have children of my own, I want to pass the same tradition on to my children. I think it is the perfect time to share everything about your day because it is the only time that you have everyone's attention.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
That's the main point why I want to do the same thing with my family cause I want us to be together. I love the idea that my family and I are together so I also want the same thing with my own.
• Portugal
12 Mar 10
Your Father Have Very Wisdom,My Dear!!!Me Also,Like Eat With My Family & I Love It,Because Made a United Family...My Family Only On Weekends Are All,Because My Son Goes To School & My Husband Goes To Work On Afternoon Till Midnight...But When Are Together We've Shared Our Passed Days & Laught Many Times!!! He Have Fun On Those Moments!!! Have a Wonderful Weekend My Dear Friend!!!!
• Portugal
15 Mar 10
Yes,Sometimes Isn't Be Appreciated,Buy Is Very Wised,Because The Family Will Be More United!!!Well,To Respect The Food...I Think Like That Too,If We Think On Others People Who Haven't Any...We Must Be Glad & Happy For Having Any Kind Of Food & Wish We Have in All Days On Our Lifes!!!! I Wonderful New Week,My Dear & Great Day For You!!!!!
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
You're right! I think it was very wise of my father to do have it that way in my family. We didnt appreciate it that much before but we realized the importance of it now that we are older and we really miss having meals together. It seldom happens now but same as what you have said in your family, we always talk about the things that happened to us during the past days and months and we are all happy and laughing just about anything. There are some restrictions though because we also need to respect the food in front of us.
@mackiejp (374)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
It is already our tradition to eat together in one table every meals and my father lead the prayer...And when I got married, and moved to our own house, my husband & I practiced the same tradition we have in our family. Every time my husband is on vacation we really eat meals together, if I go home late from working over time he would wait for me. Our table is one of the venues where we can have so much to share about. It is where we sometimes plan about the future if not in the living room. It is where we exchange compliments and it is an integral part in our home where we gathered as ONE FAMILY.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
Maybe the table is also considered one of the most important furniture in your house. There are I think people who considers something valuable of important because there are a lot of memories built in them. Though as we say it, its just a table but there were so many times that the table brought you and your husband together. When my husband and I talk during dinner, we always talk about the experiences we had together when were still friends and we always end up laughing and thanking each other for being partners.
@mackiejp (374)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
Exactly, if only the table could talk, it tells you so much things about us...lol...Every furniture I bought has its own significance, like my old coffee table, where I & my husband spend more time together before going to bed talking over cupsssss of coffee...the sofa where we spend every friday and saturday night movie time sched with the kids and the bed where we can solo and cuddle our kids before they go to sleep...:D
@SViswan (12051)
• India
22 Mar 10
We used to when I was not married. Everyday, we had dinner together as a family and lunch whenever possible. But after marriage, things have changed. The kids have their meal at different times, my husband when he wants it and me too. The fact that makes me really mad is that everyone else has their meal in front of the television except me. That was definitely not done when I was living with my parents. The T.V. would be switched off and we would have a meal together. My parents still have their meal together even after my sister and I are not living with them. And whenever we visit, we all have our meal together. I prefer that to everyone having it individually. We would talk about our day and what everyone did...discuss other issues..or gossip sometimes. It was good:)
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
I am married now but I still want the same things for my family. I feel bad sometimes especially if my husband and I cant eat together because of some priorities.
@Bd200789 (2994)
• United States
13 Mar 10
No, because we all have different schedules, and we usually eat at different times.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
15 Mar 10
Too bad but maybe in your family you dont miss doing so because you ware not used to doing it, right?
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
Yes, my family is still intact, we are still living in one roof. Although me and my older sister are now old, old enough to handle ourselves we are still living with my parents. I don’t know if my sister have plans to get married with her boyfriend now, since me I am not in a relationship that is why I am still living with my parents. We always together. Me and my brother and parents are eating together. My job is 8 to 5pm everyday, they wait for my arrival before they eat. As of my older sister, she have different shifts at work that is why we seldom have her during dinner. Dinner is the only time the family is complete because during lunch me and my sibling are all out of the house. We are get used to eating together. Its sad when you eat alone. Actually I eat alone but my parents is around. I used to seeing my family everyday. When someone get married and moved away out of the house, that is the different story and it will makes me sad.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
I know how it feels when you eat alone. I have experienced that for a long time when I was in college and when I had my post graduate studies away from home. I didnt like it, I just hope that when I would have my family in the future, we will do the same things.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
17 Mar 10
When I was growing up we had "friday nights" which meant the family got together and we talked and ate. This was of course beside holidays and birthday's. Then we started to stop having said get togethers. I met my husband and we also don't really get together with either side of our family. We eat with his parents but that's because we live with his parents. I really want to get together with our families more often, maybe start having a certain time of the month that we go to see each other and eat dinner. More and more families seem to be so busy with other things that it's hard to get together with each other.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
We also had a time like that in our family but it was on Sundays. When my sister got married, we still had those Sunday afternoon for lunch and eat together as a family. It was a very good thing and I love it so much. And I miss it a lot.
@ifa225 (14463)
• Indonesia
16 Mar 10
unfortunately, we are not. everybody have some business to do, my husband sometimes come home late and i have to eat all alone. I used to eat together in week end, when everybody is at home, it feels great, eating while talking and listening each other about the story along whole week. very warming and we feel so close.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
Yes! It really feels great if we eat together as family. I like it too. I just miss it so much cause even though me and my husband are the only people in our house, there are times we still cant eat together. Well, that's the situation I have now.
• Bangladesh
10 Apr 10
Hey friend, I live in Bangladesh where we follow the culture of eating together. This tradition has been carried on since ancient period. I think this is a very good custom where all of a family sit together to eat enjoying the meal with much pleasure. This rule is also in my family and I like it very much. Have a nice day.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
I also love this rule. But I guess there are some changes in my family's situation now cause my father works in a different place now, my mom and sister works until 9 pm and they are all tired after work so I guess they are not able to eat together anymore.
@TheAdvocate (2392)
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
As a general rule, my family eat together so that it will be easier to clean up after. Most of the time we would all gather in the table, but sometimes, one or some of us would want to watch television while eating so they bring their plates over to the den. But most of the time, we enjoy meals together in the dining table. Its not a hard and fast rule, it just happens, mostly out of convenience.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
You are right about the clean up thing. My dad say the same things too. He said its better to eat together so that washing the dishes is going to be easier. I think its also not a hard rule. I want to do the same with my family.
@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
18 Mar 10
Hi, You are a very lucky preson that you have a dad, who knows the value of 'EATING TOGETHER'. i am a mother of two children. I also know of this 'EATING TOGETHER'. But I am very unlucky to have this in my life because of my husband's working patten. We are able to eat together only on Saturday afternoons. Some times that pains me. Eating with dad is wounderful experience. I was able to enjoy this in my childhood. But my children?
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
I also think so. I feel very lucky to have my dad and I have my family. I get to go to my hometown once in every two months but I am always happy we eat together as a family even if I have to stay there for a short time.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
13 Mar 10
We eat together only on Sunday's. We are usually busy, having different times. My son eats at my mother. She picks him up from school and I do pick him up from my mum's house after that I finish work. So he is already had his lunch. Than my wife finishes different hours from mine. So from Monday to Saturday I eat alone most of the times. But we make it a must that we eat together on Sundays. I like the feeling on Sunday having time for each other, wish we could do so even during the rest of the week.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
15 Mar 10
Sundays are usually the time when all of us are together in my parents house because my other sister who also have her own family spend the weekend there. My husband and I also go to my hometown usually during the weekend so it is very easy for us to gather at times like that. My brother who is also married stays with my parents and the other sister who has her own house just stay at home too because my father doesnt allow her to stay in her house alone because it could be dangerous as there are people around her place who have different intentions. I also consider Sunday as my favorite day of the week because of this and also other things.
@derek_a (10874)
13 Mar 10
Well, when I was a kid we always sat at the table to eat a meal together as a family. Usually this was on a weekend in the daytime, because I used to eat day-time meals in school. There is just me and my wife now, but we always eat together every evening. It wouldn't feel right for me to start eating on my own, or for her to start eating on her own. I guess not everybody is like this, especially in homes where both parents are working later and the kids get something to eat before their parents have come home. _Derek
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
My husband and I are also in the same situation as you now. There are just so many times that I would have to wait for my husband and we could eat dinner together. There were also times when I would be very hungry already and I still wait. He also do the same thing when I would have to stay late at work. We actually appreciate it and all the efforts that we do to practice what we practice at home when I was still in my hometown.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
No we don't do that in the family always, because sometimes different work schedules and hunger schedules just don't meet. But we do it whenever we can. I admire you daddy for that kind of strictness. I think good parent-kids relationships involve a lot of family time and get together's.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
15 Mar 10
When it comes to hunger schedules it was always my brother who can not wait for the rest of my family to come. He always ear dinner or meals whenever he is already hungry. I dont blame him anyway because he is a man and the only boy among my siblings so he is somewhat given all he wanted. haha! But my brother is a good family member, he also knows how to cook so sometime he contributes to the food that we eat together as a family.
• India
13 Mar 10
yes In my house is same as urs. We always eat together as a family. Even I like this kind of work a most. I like to be with my family and eat food. It breaks gap that may come when no one in the family meet each other evenif they stay in one house only. It breaks all qaurels that may cause in some routine life. It is wonderful activity!!!!!
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
15 Mar 10
Maybe there are gaps and being together and doing other things together aside from eating meals together can also bridge the gap. Aside from eating together as a family, my family and I also plan out some vacation together. We usually do it on the summer and we have to tell our boss about the planned vacation so we can tell them in advance that we are going to be absent for some time and will not be able to work. Good thing we dont have problems with our bosses yet.
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Mar 10
As far as I am concerned, I think I like to I love to get together with my family to have a family meal. I think it is so wonerful moment that our family are together to have the so delicous meal.When we eat the meal, we family usually just do as they want. But we at least need to sit beside the table to have meal,no matter you want to talk or watch TV.It is OK.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
15 Mar 10
Speaking about watching the tv, all of my family members have different preferences when it comes to watching tv shows. My dad likes watching action movies and comedy, my mom likes dramas, my sister likes discovery channel, other siblings dont usually watch tv and in my case, I just usually us my phone rather than watch a movie. But there was this one movie that made us sit together as a family. I didnt even expect my dad to sit there for the whole time when we were watching the movie because that movie was really childish and that movie was "Enchanted". Who would expect only that kind of movie would put us all together in one place.
• Indonesia
13 Mar 10
Not always... But, If we have a time we always eating together as family. you know, today, we have a lot of thing to do in the morning or even in the evening. So, it's so hard to eat together with family.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
15 Mar 10
I understand that all of you are busy doing things that you need to do everyday. But since you are all aware of the schedule that you are having, maybe you can set some other time to have meals together as a family. You can also try to finish all the things that you need to do at a certain time, then after some time you can be together and do things together as a family. Whether you are going to eat dinner or do other activities, it really doesnt matter what you do as long as you are together.