How often do you help a friend?
By tomcat23
@tomcat23 (622)
Old Forge, Pennsylvania
March 12, 2010 10:16am CST
A very long time ago I was offered some advice: whenever you give something or do something for someone, always do it out of the goodness of your heart and never expect anything in return. The gentleman who offered this advice owned his own towing business and had brought me something to eat. I was on the road all day making deliveries without anything to eat all day. I was tired,hungry and broke. The the van I was driving broke down on the way back to the warehouse where I was working. The gentleman bought me a burger, fries and a drink. I told him I would pay him when we reached the warehouse. That's when he offered me the advice and told me he was repaid through my appreciation alone. Do you see yourself doing the same for a stranger? How often do you do something like this for a friend?
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12 responses
@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
13 Mar 10
That is a touching story in deed my dear friend. Its no wonder we match so well and I cherish our friendship. I am one of those friends you have helped and continue to help, so thank you for being such a good man and a great friend. I too have that mission in life, as I know it I believe God has put me in this world for that same reason and when I am supposed to do his work, I feel it in my heart and its my instinct to follow through with his wishes. I can say I do that often too.
@tomcat23 (622)
• Old Forge, Pennsylvania
13 Mar 10
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@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
13 Mar 10
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@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
13 Mar 10
OH I know the feeling for sure. This weekend I am hard charging at working on mylot and trying to finally reach my goal here, that way I may qualify fast to get paid here
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
13 Mar 10
Oh yes, I have helped a lot of my friends and even strangers.. Mostly with cash that they needed... I did not expect them to repay that time, I didn't need it... But the times changed, I got broke and when I looked at those friends to help me, only a few of them did... Let it be! I am going to forget them, forever...
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
15 Mar 10
I agree with both of you tomcat and binggaling... One must not expect anything in return.. Sometimes, it is harmful to one's mind... Thanks a lot for sharing your experiences with me....
I think, one should help when one knows that he's not going to risk anything.. :)
Happy myLotting!
@tomcat23 (622)
• Old Forge, Pennsylvania
13 Mar 10
When I had it, I gave it. When I needed it, there always seemed to be someone willing to help me out. In some cases, people have forgotten my generosity over the years and some stopped being friends when the generosity stopped. One thing I have learned however is that its less rewarding to expect something in return for your kindness and generosity.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
12 Mar 10
The gentleman is so nice to do that..
Since you were tired, hungry and broke, it was so thoughtful of him to do so. Hope your van is alright already. He must have some extra food and thought you needed that more. So nice and what a kind soul that man has. Would be cool to make friends with someone like that.. nice towing gentleman.
@tomcat23 (622)
• Old Forge, Pennsylvania
12 Mar 10
That happened several years ago. I no longer work for that company, not even sure if they are still in business. The gentleman who bought me the food has since passed away as far as I know and his towing business is all closed. I went there a few years after his good deed and the towing company was gone. I think that was the best BigMac I ever ate.
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@vividh89 (69)
• India
13 Mar 10
I always help others, either strangers or friends I am always eager to help others. But with what intentions depends on the type of person I am helping. If a person is good then I enjoy helping him and I do so without expecting anything in return. But there are some people in my life which I don't like. If such people ask for help I don't feel like helping them but still I help them. But this time I help them half heartedly. The reason for doing this is that whenever they ask for help I think that it is always good helping others does not matter with what intentions you are helping. If you have helped others with whatever intentions, its good! It will always be better if you do it out of the goodness of your heart and never expect anything in return. But you can't force your self to think in this fashion. We are always tempted to think that may be other person will give us something in return or in future he might help us. It is natural but not really bad. Help others as much as you can, with your full heart and keep your inner thoughts with you and try not having selfish thoughts.
@tomcat23 (622)
• Old Forge, Pennsylvania
13 Mar 10
You are so very right. Its one thing to be nice, its another thing to be a fool. A half hearted effort is not out of the ordinary, especially if its a monetary loan and you're not sure if the money will actually help the person or hurt them.
@Skittlez352 (216)
• United States
12 Mar 10
it is very important to help others out of the kindness of your heart. I try my hardest in order to be Christ-like. There is always someone that is having a harder time than you are and even if you can only help a little bit, it is the right thing to do. It will always come back to you, now or later! but it's definitely worth it.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
9 Jun 10
I don't have the money to buy a meal but I have helped strangers get on the correct bus . And find the street they were looking for.My town has many tourists and I try my best to help. and it did come around because when I went to New Orleans with my mom we got help from the locals. For my friends? I'm here to listen and help anyway I can.
@keelymcilwain (797)
• Canada
13 Mar 10
Not only do I help friends, I help strangers as well.
If I have change and someone is outside asking for it I will give them a few coins. If a neighbor needs help shoveling or yard work I go over and help them.
If a friend needs something I borrow it or help them get what it is they need.
The other day I was walking and some lady ask me for directions she was driving and had a map so I asked to see ti and showed her exactly where it was.
The neighbors lights on his truck were on the other night so I went over and introduced my self and told him I noticed he left his light on. It was a great way to meet my new neighbor.
I think its nice to help others because they will help you. It is good Karma.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
13 Mar 10
What a wonderful opportunity to have met someone like that! This man knew the true meaning of giving unconditionally with no expectations of the favour being returned and that is what it should all be about. It has become a nasty habit for some people to want so much and be in competition with one another, it seems to have become about how much we can get instead of the other way around, and we have been giving only to receive. Meeting a kind soul like you did is a gentle reminder of how rewarding it is to give just for the sake of kindness from the heart.
@tomcat23 (622)
• Old Forge, Pennsylvania
13 Mar 10
Greed can also tear families apart as well as friendships. Kindness is still around us, but its not always easy to find these days. Banks give out hefty bonuses on top of hefty salaries while people are losing their homes. If I was one of the bonus recipients, I would certainly try to help as many people keep their homes as possible, after all, the gov't bailout money was to help the situation and not line the pockets of the greedy bankers.
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
12 Mar 10
i never measure how often when help friends.it`s not good when we always count how many times we help somebody else. we are social creature from God.sometimes we can helps anybodys but sometimes we always want somebody else help us. so it`s only time and chance when you helps somebody else
@tomcat23 (622)
• Old Forge, Pennsylvania
13 Mar 10
I don't count the times I've helped people but sometimes I do have to remind people of the good things I've done in terms of my generosity. Its not something I like to do, but some people have a tendency to see only the bad times another person goes through and take the good times for granted.
@PriestessLong (115)
• United States
13 Mar 10
I have done this many times and it's a great feeling, I feed the homeless every thanksgiving.
If I can help someone why not?
@tomcat23 (622)
• Old Forge, Pennsylvania
13 Mar 10
That's a real good thing to feed the homeless and the poor as well. When they give away the food at Thanksgiving time, its amazing how many people turn out. These are tough times lately and the number of needy people is increasing. God Bless You.
