When your parents compare you to someone they know

I understand how you feel, because I been there. Comparison is never fair and it insults one's identity. We are all unique & no one is the same with anyone else. I think how your parents treated you shows how they were treated before, and they don't know better. A lot of people today don't know or even understand blessing and affirmation. Blessing means approval or confer prosperity or well-being on, while affirmations means something declared to be true, a positive statement or judgment. I know a family who does blessing & affirmation circle twice a month. They affirm, encourage and bless one another. First, the father does it to the mother, then each to the children. Then the mother follow, lastly the children. No one is exempted. What they did helped all the family members, especially the children who had poor academic performances, it boosted their self-esteem. The fights between the sibling were eradicated slowly and made the family bond stronger. In the future, I am hoping that I can also apply this to my own family.

Well, i even had this problem when i was young. They compare my marks with my friends. I feel very bad and depressed. Most of parents are worried about the child education and future, i believe thats why they do this comparing. For many its annoying, for some, they take it as challenge and wish to stop their parents talk.

Ive been there and still going through this thing in my parents. They always compare me to my friends. Why don't you act like __? Don't you wish you want to be like __? Sickening right... I try to tell them if you don't accept for what I am then I may not be your child..

Hello friend this stupid things also happen with me, one of my neighborhood friend is good in maths and as result i always get low marks my parents always praise that girl i really feel bad i think they should not do this