Do you mostly take offence when someone tells what they think is wrong with you?
By nancyk72
@nancyk72 (20)
Canada
March 13, 2010 12:44am CST
Personally would take offence if someone tells me what it is they think is wrong with me if I can sense it is done with insulting intentions, but then again I think that most of us would. I definitely wouldn't feel insulted if I asked for their opinion or if someone tells me with good intension of helping me.
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@Lochoa (222)
• United States
13 Mar 10
It just depends on the situation. If it's someone I know and they tell me they think I'm doing something wrong I wouldn't take offense to it I would listen to what they have to say take it in and if I want to change then I will if not I won't.
If it's a stranger I would be upset, obv depending on what it is they had to say. I'm not very easily offended as long as someone approaches me with the right tone.
Yesterday while I was at the store this lady was so frusterated b/c she rented a movie from those dispenser things at the store and I noticed she was on the phone and she was cursing and all this stuff. I figured she personally did not get that video from that machine b/c she didn't know how it worked or how to return it that's why she was on the phone asking for help b/c someone prob told her to return it for them.
I seen the cover was not from this machine (DVD Play) but from RedBox. Which are two different dispenser machines things
So I asked her if she had rented the movie there. and she didn;t hear me so she said "What?" with attitude so I politly said "Did you personally rent this movie here or are you returning this for someone" she then stated she was returning it for someone. So I let her know this is for DVD play and I noticed the cover said RedBox so she has to go to another location to drop off the movie. After everything she thanked me and went off.
My point is that at first she thought I was saying something to her b/c I was waiting in line behind her to rent a movie so when I said something she automatically got in her attitude mode since she was already frusterated so when I poility informed her of the difference of the machines and pointed her o the right directions he was thankful. I know this was not mainly your questions but my over all point is people need to get out of the defensive mode and be more nicer and they that way people won't take offense all the time or think that someone is trying to pick at them.
I hope this makes sense!
@nancyk72 (20)
• Canada
13 Mar 10
Yes of course, it is all in the attitude that is being received sometimes and it is also in the attitude that is being given. I believe that what you did had a lot to do with my question. You informed the lady that she was in the wrong by taking the video to the wrong location to return it and of course, like a lot of people in general we are so into our own problem or in such a negative mood sometimes that we tend to first react in a negatively way before realizing that sometimes people are just trying to help. But she realized at the end there that you were just trying to help her out. At that moment she again realized that she was wrong. It's all good...
